Anonymous
Post 05/02/2019 15:57     Subject: DD got punished for peeing on the grass in the playground
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think their reaction is reasonable, as long as they didn't also shame her. Imagine all the other kids going home tonight and telling mommy they saw Larla pee on the grass today. Need to nip that in the bud.


I think punishing her by making her sit alone with a classroom with a teacher *is* shaming. All they had to do was explain the difference between hiking and what to do if she needed the bathroom on the playground. She's only 3.
I don't agree. I think shaming would be "What were you thinking? That's disgusting! I can't believe you did that!" etc. etc. Making the child feel dirty or shaming her for exposing her body. A time out with the teachers/being removed from the area is appropriate.
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2019 15:53     Subject: DD got punished for peeing on the grass in the playground
Anonymous wrote:Not acceptable- OP you need to talk to the director.


+1
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2019 15:01     Subject: DD got punished for peeing on the grass in the playground
Not acceptable- OP you need to talk to the director.
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2019 14:35     Subject: DD got punished for peeing on the grass in the playground
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You don’t teach your child to pee in grass. You can carry a travel potty in your car. We did, and it was a lifesaver for our small children for those times at a playground with a questionable bathroom.

But I would also question their supervision since the adults didn’t notice, the kids did.


You are insane. We don't have a car, and sometimes walk to a playground that's 30 min away. Playgrounds don't have bathrooms in DC. Therefore - we pee in bushes.


Phpt. A travel potty seems way less clean to me then just peeing in the grass. Or course...urine is sterile so it doesn't really matter. But why would you want to have to deal with a used piece of plastic? Or even buy yet another useless piece of plastics? DOn't you know the ocean is awash in plastic??!! FFS - get over your prudishness and save the whales!!!
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2019 14:33     Subject: DD got punished for peeing on the grass in the playground

Poor child. It's not her fault. At that age, when you need to go, you need to go!

I would tell her she needs to find an adult and tell them. I would tell the teachers that there should be more playground supervision and ask how many times children are taken to the bathroom. At our Montessori preschool, there were times built in to go to the bathroom to avoid those situations.

Anonymous
Post 05/02/2019 14:25     Subject: DD got punished for peeing on the grass in the playground
Anonymous wrote:You don’t teach your child to pee in grass. You can carry a travel potty in your car. We did, and it was a lifesaver for our small children for those times at a playground with a questionable bathroom.

But I would also question their supervision since the adults didn’t notice, the kids did.


You are insane. We don't have a car, and sometimes walk to a playground that's 30 min away. Playgrounds don't have bathrooms in DC. Therefore - we pee in bushes.
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2019 13:35     Subject: Re:DD got punished for peeing on the grass in the playground
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think it's inappropriate for them to have made her go inside as a punishment. I'd have been like, "so let me get this straight, there was so little supervision that she was able to take off her underwear, pee, put it back on, all while no body noticed she was legit getting NAKED on the playground.... and so little supervision that she couldn't find a teacher to ask about going inside to use the bathroom.... but there was enough supervision for one of those 3 teachers to then LEAVE THE PLAYGROUND with her and have the group watched by just 2 adults?"


This.

I’d be pissed.


You win the thread.
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2019 13:33     Subject: Re:DD got punished for peeing on the grass in the playground
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think it's inappropriate for them to have made her go inside as a punishment. I'd have been like, "so let me get this straight, there was so little supervision that she was able to take off her underwear, pee, put it back on, all while no body noticed she was legit getting NAKED on the playground.... and so little supervision that she couldn't find a teacher to ask about going inside to use the bathroom.... but there was enough supervision for one of those 3 teachers to then LEAVE THE PLAYGROUND with her and have the group watched by just 2 adults?"


This and I would be very upset that she couldn’t find a teacher. I would set up and conference to ask about how kids on the playground are supervised. Let them know you will explain to your daughter the rules. But she’s three - no punishment for the first time.

This exactly.


You really need to set up a meeting with the director.

The peeing is secondary and of little importance. I would want to know why the children were unsupervised long enough for her to not be able to find a teacher, then take off her pants, then pee and put her clothes back on without any teacher in sight. This sounds unsafe and I would be concerned about other regulations they may be violating.
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2019 13:28     Subject: DD got punished for peeing on the grass in the playground
This whole situation is off. Go speak to the headmaster/principal/etc.
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2019 13:27     Subject: DD got punished for peeing on the grass in the playground
Anonymous wrote:I think their reaction is reasonable, as long as they didn't also shame her. Imagine all the other kids going home tonight and telling mommy they saw Larla pee on the grass today. Need to nip that in the bud.


I think punishing her by making her sit alone with a classroom with a teacher *is* shaming. All they had to do was explain the difference between hiking and what to do if she needed the bathroom on the playground. She's only 3.
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2019 12:38     Subject: Re:DD got punished for peeing on the grass in the playground
I definitely think the punishment is over the top. She is three! And tried to find a teacher before doing it. Is peeing in the grass at three really such a big deal? They are still learning both potty training and social norms.

Don't worry op, all of my friends have done it (in emergencies). Just remind her that she can't do it at school and ask the teachers why they weren't in range for help with a potty break.
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2019 11:33     Subject: Re:DD got punished for peeing on the grass in the playground
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Was an incident report provided? Ask for one. Have them put what took place in writing, just to have clarification of the occurrence. After that address in writing your concerns about why your child was unable to locate an adult to request going to the bathroom. Ask how it was possible for her to do what she did without it being intercepted and directed indoors.


I find it very unlikely that she couldn't find a teacher. More likely, there wasn't one right there, or the closest teacher wasn't her teacher who she felt comfortable with, and she chose to do something else. Three year olds are not reliable narrators of their experiences.


fact is that according to the teachers themselves they did not witness it themselves...so maybe the closest teacher there wasn't that close after all
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2019 11:29     Subject: DD got punished for peeing on the grass in the playground
You don’t teach your child to pee in grass. You can carry a travel potty in your car. We did, and it was a lifesaver for our small children for those times at a playground with a questionable bathroom.

But I would also question their supervision since the adults didn’t notice, the kids did.
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2019 11:26     Subject: Re:DD got punished for peeing on the grass in the playground
Anonymous wrote:Gross. A three year old should know better. I would die of embarrassment if it were my child.


pathetic reaction
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2019 10:29     Subject: Re:DD got punished for peeing on the grass in the playground
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Let it go. It will be a great story to tell her prom date while he waits for her to finish getting ready.


This wins for creepiest and most inappropriate response ever. I'm sure it was meant jokingly, but I hate "jokes" about humiliating our teenage girls with childhood stories about their private parts to males in their lives.


But it would be different with a boy? No. It's an inappropriate joke for anyone - boy or girl.