Trauma? She has survived switching from parental care to nanny care, and then the addition of separating from nanny into preschool. Later she will transition into school. She will adjust.

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Anonymous wrote:I would think the same thing I would about any job. If you are offered something better, you take it. It’s called life. Your nanny should definitely take the preschool job. You sound ...difficult.

Haha, I actually think I'm a much better employer than the school. I don't think the school treats its staff well and we are not planning to send DC2 there.

So why not switch dd to a different school next year? Win win of a school you prefer while also avoiding the "trauma", assuming the nanny gets and accepts the job.

Anonymous wrote:I’d be annoyed, but otoh would it be a step up for your nanny?

+1 agree

Pp from above and I’m discussing a scenario where teacher does mornings at the preschool and then is your daughters part time nanny still after which it sounded like you thought was an option with small adjustments. This seems like such a win win for keeping your nanny longer and getting everyone’s needs met but I’m being a broken record now

OP I know you’re getting railed here, which has probably made you shut down but I’m wondering if you could look at this in a different light. Most people are seeking eventual full time employment and it sounds like it’s something your nanny is looking for so I actually think this could be an amazing opportunity for you both. As you said your nanny has been clear it isn’t a career for her and typically it’s hard to keep part time nanny’s for long because they eventually seek full time employment. In this scenario, you could end up having your nanny way longer (which you think would be good for your daughter) because she would have consistent work in the mornings when your daughter is in preschool. In addition your daughter has the extra comfort of someone she cares a lot for at her preschool during the mornings. This just seems kind such a win win to me. I hope you can try to open your mind to how this might work for your family and really consider your nanny’s needs. If she’s a part of the family like you say I think it would be positive for her to be able to fully support herself and remain in your daughters life longer and consistently.

For the record I don’t think it was inappropriate at all for the preschool teacher to bring this up, especially since your nanny works part time. I wonder if maybe your worry about losing her led to an emotional response and frustration at the teacher but I think everyone here has agreed it was not out of line.

Words have meaning. And I cannot believe OP is sticking with TRAUMATIZED. I'm out.

I don't think teacher was out of line. She was just passing on information. Imagine nanny wasn't the nanny, but was the mom and a former teacher. If the preschool teacher said - "we're accepting applications, you should think about getting back into teaching" - would you think teacher was out of line or carelessly exposing the student to trauma? I mean, student is used to having mom home. Could be tough on student to see Mom playing with other kids, but not her.

So, similar scenario, but obviously you wouldn't think the teacher was wrong to say something to mom. Mom now has the information and can make whatever choice she wants. Same situation applies to your nanny. She has been given some information. What she does with it is up to her, and not "caused" by the teacher.

Did you only hear this from your nanny? I feel like the only reason she would tell her employer about an attempted poaching is to create leverage for a wage increase. I second pp, you should consider upping her hours or pay.

NP here. If you are concerned for your Daugher and the continuity of service your nanny provides then pay her for full time hours so she has no reason to look for another part time job.

Talent is talent and gets opportunities and encouragement in every field.

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Anonymous wrote:No different than in any other professions trying to poach good employees. Nannying and preschools seem more personal because it's childcare but it's the same.

OP here. If it were one of the other teachers, I would be annoyed, but not feel like a line was crossed. Shouldn't DD's preschool teacher feel a sense of responsibility to HER students and not encourage actions that would traumatize them?

FFS.

You are beyond absurd. Get a grip, switching nannies won't traumatize your kids, you twit.

Did I ever say it would? Can you read? I've said multiple times that I think DD will be able to adapt to nanny leaving. I think it would be difficult for her to see nanny at school taking care of other kids without being given the time to adapt to nanny no longer being a central figure in her life.

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Anonymous wrote:PLEASE tell me you're a troll OP.

Why is it trolling to be concerned about this? I fully support nanny's need and/or desire to work elsewhere and no longer for us if that is what is best for her. I think DD would adjust fine if she didn't see her again, but not if she has to see her on a regular basis caring for other children but not be able to care for her. I don't understand why people can't see how hurtful this could be to a small child.

I feel sorry for the snowflake you are raising.

Anonymous wrote:I would think the same thing I would about any job. If you are offered something better, you take it. It’s called life. Your nanny should definitely take the preschool job. You sound ...difficult.

Haha, I actually think I'm a much better employer than the school. I don't think the school treats its staff well and we are not planning to send DC2 there.

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Anonymous wrote:No different than in any other professions trying to poach good employees. Nannying and preschools seem more personal because it's childcare but it's the same.

OP here. If it were one of the other teachers, I would be annoyed, but not feel like a line was crossed. Shouldn't DD's preschool teacher feel a sense of responsibility to HER students and not encourage actions that would traumatize them?

OH FFS, are you serious with this BS?

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Anonymous wrote:No different than in any other professions trying to poach good employees. Nannying and preschools seem more personal because it's childcare but it's the same.

OP here. If it were one of the other teachers, I would be annoyed, but not feel like a line was crossed. Shouldn't DD's preschool teacher feel a sense of responsibility to HER students and not encourage actions that would traumatize them?

FFS.

You are beyond absurd. Get a grip, switching nannies won't traumatize your kids, you twit.