Anonymous wrote:Honestly tipping makes me feel like a schmuck. I never know the correct amounts and I hate how they have to thank me for tipping them. I just feel weird every single time I tip. I go out of my way to use services that don't require tips like uber. I automatically just tip 20% on hair cuts and restaurant bills.

While I did work many low wage jobs, I never did work a job where I received a bonus or a tip. If a place requires a cash tip (like a hair salon) and they make a big deal about it to me, I refuse to return. I'm very opposed to the entire tip marketplace.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't like the concept of tipping as a significant method of income. I'd rather there just be a "service fee" tacked on, which is charged from everyone and paid to the servers. If I don't like the service, I can complain to the manager same way that I can complain about something wrong with the food, and have the service charge taken off.

Tipping should be something you do to reward above-and-beyond service. Maybe the server was exceptionally patient, or the luggage porter didn't just deliver the luggage but also helped track down a missing piece that the customer themselves misplaced.

I know that in certain industries in the US, it's now commonplace to tip some amount because that's how the industry has evolved. Doesn't mean I like it...

Actually, tipping "should be" whatever I want it to be, what with it being *my money* and all.

You tip the way you want to tip. I'll tip generously and often, because that is what I want to do.

I agree with you that it's your money, you do what you want with it. Your way of thinking actually supports my argument - let me explain. You are essentially saying that tipping is a subjective exercise: you are spending money based on how you feel about the situation, not based on some objective standard. However, current tipping practices in the US has a substantial objective component. For example, I will generally tip 15% for meals even if the service was just okay, because I know the person is depending on it for the bulk of their pay. It just seems to me that if standard level of service is rewarded with standard level tipping, then it goes against the subjective intention of the act of tipping.

I just came back from a trip in Europe and knew that tipping was much less common. The server we had was wonderful and was very surprised at a tip that I gave. He told me that this is not their custom. I explained that I was grateful for his exceptionally patient guidance so that I didn't waste money ordering things I wouldn't have enjoyed - so many servers would have just said "all of our stuff is good, or else it wouldn't be on the menu". I explained that I was using a part of my culture to demonstrate that I appreciate the hospitality of his culture. I could not sing him a song, give him a trinket, or bake him a cake, so I gave him some Euros.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel great when everyone is paid a living wage.

I was about to say this. No one else find this post super icky and self-congratulatory?

OP here. You know what I, personally, can't do? Guarantee everyone a living wage.

Here's what I CAN do:
1) Vote in ways I feel is consistent with my social values.
2) Advocate for policies I feel are consistent with my social values.
3) Create jobs in my organization (CHECK)
4) Tip well when and where I can
5) Start feel-good threads

I've done good in the ways that I have the capacity to do good today. Have you?

Omg you’re insufferable.

No, she or he is quite entirely correct.

If you do not want to tip, eat at home, do not stay at hotels, and carry your own luggage. Saying that people should be paid a living wage and thus you’re off the hook is too often a cover for contempt for “menial” workers.

You are missing the lint. I think nearly everyone tips at sit down restaurants with waiters. I also think most people tip bellman, taxis, hairdressers and other people where tipping is generally understood to be part of accepting the service. Most people don’t tip housekeeping in a hotel. It is not generally accepted that that industry requires a tip of you use them. Im sure I encounter thousands of people annually who do something to help my life and they are making $10-$11 an hour and I don’t tip them. I can’t tip everyone and neither can you. It doesn’t make me a bad person or you a good one because you tip maids. You can’t give to every beggar, every gofundme, every sob story, etc. that’s fine that you tip maids but to have a thread like this is kinda sad.

Show me exactly where anyone has suggested on this thread that you need to tip EVERYONE who makes a low wage, or EVERYONE is helpful to you.

I'll wait.

Oh, but no one has said that! People are sharing nice stories of giving or receiving a tip. Point blank period. This is not meant to be a "tip everyone or else you are a bad person" thread. So your "points" are completely moot, because you're arguing against statements that were never made. Sorry!

Someone above said, “If you don’t want to tip, don’t stay at hotels.” I was responding to that. I am not tipping housekeeping at hotels. If you do, great. You’re not better than a non-tipper but you sure like to be self-congratulatory.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel great when everyone is paid a living wage.

I was about to say this. No one else find this post super icky and self-congratulatory?

OP here. You know what I, personally, can't do? Guarantee everyone a living wage.

Here's what I CAN do:
1) Vote in ways I feel is consistent with my social values.
2) Advocate for policies I feel are consistent with my social values.
3) Create jobs in my organization (CHECK)
4) Tip well when and where I can
5) Start feel-good threads

I've done good in the ways that I have the capacity to do good today. Have you?

Omg you’re insufferable.

No, she or he is quite entirely correct.

If you do not want to tip, eat at home, do not stay at hotels, and carry your own luggage. Saying that people should be paid a living wage and thus you’re off the hook is too often a cover for contempt for “menial” workers.

You are missing the lint. I think nearly everyone tips at sit down restaurants with waiters. I also think most people tip bellman, taxis, hairdressers and other people where tipping is generally understood to be part of accepting the service. Most people don’t tip housekeeping in a hotel. It is not generally accepted that that industry requires a tip of you use them. Im sure I encounter thousands of people annually who do something to help my life and they are making $10-$11 an hour and I don’t tip them. I can’t tip everyone and neither can you. It doesn’t make me a bad person or you a good one because you tip maids. You can’t give to every beggar, every gofundme, every sob story, etc. that’s fine that you tip maids but to have a thread like this is kinda sad.

Show me exactly where anyone has suggested on this thread that you need to tip EVERYONE who makes a low wage, or EVERYONE is helpful to you.

I'll wait.

Oh, but no one has said that! People are sharing nice stories of giving or receiving a tip. Point blank period. This is not meant to be a "tip everyone or else you are a bad person" thread. So your "points" are completely moot, because you're arguing against statements that were never made. Sorry!

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Anonymous wrote:I don't like the concept of tipping as a significant method of income. I'd rather there just be a "service fee" tacked on, which is charged from everyone and paid to the servers. If I don't like the service, I can complain to the manager same way that I can complain about something wrong with the food, and have the service charge taken off.

Tipping should be something you do to reward above-and-beyond service. Maybe the server was exceptionally patient, or the luggage porter didn't just deliver the luggage but also helped track down a missing piece that the customer themselves misplaced.

I know that in certain industries in the US, it's now commonplace to tip some amount because that's how the industry has evolved. Doesn't mean I like it...

Actually, tipping "should be" whatever I want it to be, what with it being *my money* and all.

You tip the way you want to tip. I'll tip generously and often, because that is what I want to do.

Anonymous wrote:I don't like the concept of tipping as a significant method of income. I'd rather there just be a "service fee" tacked on, which is charged from everyone and paid to the servers. If I don't like the service, I can complain to the manager same way that I can complain about something wrong with the food, and have the service charge taken off.

Tipping should be something you do to reward above-and-beyond service. Maybe the server was exceptionally patient, or the luggage porter didn't just deliver the luggage but also helped track down a missing piece that the customer themselves misplaced.

I know that in certain industries in the US, it's now commonplace to tip some amount because that's how the industry has evolved. Doesn't mean I like it...

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Anonymous wrote:I feel great when everyone is paid a living wage.

I was about to say this. No one else find this post super icky and self-congratulatory?

OP here. You know what I, personally, can't do? Guarantee everyone a living wage.

Here's what I CAN do:
1) Vote in ways I feel is consistent with my social values.
2) Advocate for policies I feel are consistent with my social values.
3) Create jobs in my organization (CHECK)
4) Tip well when and where I can
5) Start feel-good threads

I've done good in the ways that I have the capacity to do good today. Have you?

Omg you’re insufferable.

No, she or he is quite entirely correct.

If you do not want to tip, eat at home, do not stay at hotels, and carry your own luggage. Saying that people should be paid a living wage and thus you’re off the hook is too often a cover for contempt for “menial” workers.

You are missing the lint. I think nearly everyone tips at sit down restaurants with waiters. I also think most people tip bellman, taxis, hairdressers and other people where tipping is generally understood to be part of accepting the service. Most people don’t tip housekeeping in a hotel. It is not generally accepted that that industry requires a tip of you use them. Im sure I encounter thousands of people annually who do something to help my life and they are making $10-$11 an hour and I don’t tip them. I can’t tip everyone and neither can you. It doesn’t make me a bad person or you a good one because you tip maids. You can’t give to every beggar, every gofundme, every sob story, etc. that’s fine that you tip maids but to have a thread like this is kinda sad.

Anonymous wrote:Restaurant workers get over a $100 per evening shift. That is not low wages.
Compare that to what a teacher makes for same amount of time

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Anonymous wrote:Tipping is like giving money to beggars
It makes me feel awkward, feel like I am humiliating someone

Trust me, no one you’ve ever tipped feels like a.beggar. They performed a service. They worked for the money.

And they should be paid by their employer.

Anonymous wrote:You must be rich. I choose a service based on what I can afford. I often choose services based on whether I have to tip or not.