Anonymous
Post 04/19/2019 07:22     Subject: MIL buys inappropriate clothing for 6yo
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Tell her you feel the clothing is inappropriate. "MIL, this top/skirt didn't fit DD properly. Her belly/rear end is uncovered." I can't believe how short and provocative some of the little girl clothing is compared to the shorts and t-shirts I've bought my son. My daughter ends up wearing a lot of her big brother's clothing.

My MIL loves to buy our kids cutesy outfits that say "Handsome", "Mommy's Best Friend", "Grandma is my favorite"... We've asked her nicely not to buy clothing with these slogans. We'd rather she not buy the kids clothing at all because she never asks us for sizes and most of the clothes don't even fit, and can't be returned because she buys on clearance and takes the tags off. She ignores us and keeps doing it. Now everything she buys goes into our Goodwill pile, and if she asks, we're truthful and say it wasn't our style or it didn't fit.


Nothing wrong with those slogans. You sound nasty and controlling. Just send her the new sizes every so often and tell her a size up from what you need.


Nothing is wrong with them in YOUR mind. Your kid isn’t the one wearing them. Some people don’t like slogans, some don’t like characters, some don’t like certain fabrics. And that is okay. It isn’t up to you to decide. And when you hurl out insults because someone thinks differently than you think, it says far more about you than it does about the person to whom you are responding!


What you have just set up here PP is exactly what the OP needs to hear. Not just other posters were posting.
Anonymous
Post 04/18/2019 23:37     Subject: MIL buys inappropriate clothing for 6yo
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Tell her you feel the clothing is inappropriate. "MIL, this top/skirt didn't fit DD properly. Her belly/rear end is uncovered." I can't believe how short and provocative some of the little girl clothing is compared to the shorts and t-shirts I've bought my son. My daughter ends up wearing a lot of her big brother's clothing.

My MIL loves to buy our kids cutesy outfits that say "Handsome", "Mommy's Best Friend", "Grandma is my favorite"... We've asked her nicely not to buy clothing with these slogans. We'd rather she not buy the kids clothing at all because she never asks us for sizes and most of the clothes don't even fit, and can't be returned because she buys on clearance and takes the tags off. She ignores us and keeps doing it. Now everything she buys goes into our Goodwill pile, and if she asks, we're truthful and say it wasn't our style or it didn't fit.


Nothing wrong with those slogans. You sound nasty and controlling. Just send her the new sizes every so often and tell her a size up from what you need.


Nothing is wrong with them in YOUR mind. Your kid isn’t the one wearing them. Some people don’t like slogans, some don’t like characters, some don’t like certain fabrics. And that is okay. It isn’t up to you to decide. And when you hurl out insults because someone thinks differently than you think, it says far more about you than it does about the person to whom you are responding!
Anonymous
Post 04/18/2019 15:25     Subject: Re:MIL buys inappropriate clothing for 6yo
I would be blunt and tell her that its trashy and you aren't going to dress your 6 year daughter up like a hooker.
Anonymous
Post 04/18/2019 14:58     Subject: MIL buys inappropriate clothing for 6yo
Get DH to tell MIL that we don’t want our daughter looking like a street walker until she’s at least 18.
Anonymous
Post 04/18/2019 14:47     Subject: MIL buys inappropriate clothing for 6yo
MIL used to buy my kid clothing constantly, and DD was too polite to ever say she didn't like it (even to me when I bought something!). She was very particular about her clothing though, and at some point her anxiety was manifesting in the types of clothing she would/wouldn't wear. After years of asking MIL not to buy her clothing, or take her shopping (which would also result in bags of clothing she wouldn't wear) and me running returns all over the g-d place or donating the items, she finally got the message. Might have been after I made DH take DD to Justice to do returns/exchanges on the stuff she bought.