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Anonymous wrote:She turned me down

I asked her out on Friday while you were still thinking about it. We had a great time this weekend! I think we really have potential together.

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Anonymous wrote:A single dad asked me how my weekend was yesterday (I'm a single mom). You think he is into me?

Anonymous wrote:A single dad asked me how my weekend was yesterday (I'm a single mom). You think he is into me?

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Just no. It’s like dating at work but worse because your kid is involved


+1. I would never date a parent at my child's school. I would never date a co-worker. Same reasoning.

Nah. Dating a co-worker risks getting fired. Dating someone at school or day care, if it goes south, eh it's awkward but so what, the school can't fire you.

Ugh. Quit mansplaining me. You are explaining the problem from the man’s perspective - yes, of course, you run little risk in the playschool environment because as you say you can’t get fired. Also, men are rarely called out for any kind of sexual assault or harrassment or other creepiness unless it rises to the level of a provable in a court of law crime with tangible physical evidence - so you’re protected there as well.

I am saying you should consider the problems asking her out creates for HER. If she says yes and it falls apart, she risks retaliation from you. If she says yes and it continues it puts her ina vulnerable position to be leveraged by you in some way. If she says yes and somehow her ex finds out it could create custody problems for her. If she says no, then she also risks retaliation from you.

It takes the preschool environment, which should be one of safety where she can focus on her child and complicates it. Just like asking people out in your work environment warps work from a safe place where everyone focuses on the work at hand and moves forward by merit to a place where personal interests create tension. Same with school.

Work, school, and other mandatory environments are not personal chum pools for guys to swim around in to get their egos (and other parts stroked).

You know women like dating and relationships too right?

Maybe not the ones who post on dcum

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Just no. It’s like dating at work but worse because your kid is involved


+1. I would never date a parent at my child's school. I would never date a co-worker. Same reasoning.

Nah. Dating a co-worker risks getting fired. Dating someone at school or day care, if it goes south, eh it's awkward but so what, the school can't fire you.

Ugh. Quit mansplaining me. You are explaining the problem from the man’s perspective - yes, of course, you run little risk in the playschool environment because as you say you can’t get fired. Also, men are rarely called out for any kind of sexual assault or harrassment or other creepiness unless it rises to the level of a provable in a court of law crime with tangible physical evidence - so you’re protected there as well.

I am saying you should consider the problems asking her out creates for HER. If she says yes and it falls apart, she risks retaliation from you. If she says yes and it continues it puts her ina vulnerable position to be leveraged by you in some way. If she says yes and somehow her ex finds out it could create custody problems for her. If she says no, then she also risks retaliation from you.

It takes the preschool environment, which should be one of safety where she can focus on her child and complicates it. Just like asking people out in your work environment warps work from a safe place where everyone focuses on the work at hand and moves forward by merit to a place where personal interests create tension. Same with school.

Work, school, and other mandatory environments are not personal chum pools for guys to swim around in to get their egos (and other parts stroked).

You know women like dating and relationships too right?

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Anonymous wrote:I struck a conversation this morning about how was your weekend, etc. She seemed receptive. Does that show any interest?

Jesus, dude, just get some balls and ask her out already. Don't come back here until you do.

+1 to this. OP, we really want to pull for you here, but you're making it hard for us.

+1 Come on, OP. Tomorrow you need to say: “want to grab coffee?” Just say it. Don’t overthink. Report back!!