Anonymous wrote:Move on OP. The fact that she doesn't want to interact with her grandkids tells me all that I need to know.
She is allowed to have mixed or negative feelings about you, as long as she isn't rude-- but not her grandkids.
As for the why, it's difficult. Maybe you and your DH are from different socioeconomic classes or you are not as professionally successful as she would like. That happens in families where a premium is placed on educational attainment and status. The fact that you have three kids and she hasn't gotten over it, tells me that her feelings will never change.

+1

"Grandmother of the year!" HAHAHAHAHA

OP, it really doesn't matter why - she either feels inferior or superior to you - but think about it - how many grown adults would you CHOOSE to spend time with, who are unable to regulate their emotions and feelings? Does she have dementia? Or is she a complete narcissist?

You don't have to like the person but you do have to be nice. Isn't that what we tell our small children? This is a grown woman that acts like a small, frustrated, spoiled, petulant child, OP. Your MIL is NOT a good person. Anyone who knows her knows that. Distance yourself, yesterday.

Move on OP. The fact that she doesn't want to interact with her grandkids tells me all that I need to know.
She is allowed to have mixed or negative feelings about you, as long as she isn't rude-- but not her grandkids.
As for the why, it's difficult. Maybe you and your DH are from different socioeconomic classes or you are not as professionally successful as she would like. That happens in families where a premium is placed on educational attainment and status. The fact that you have three kids and she hasn't gotten over it, tells me that her feelings will never change.