Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It just screams misogyny to me to suggest there is something wrong with wanting pain killers for childbirth and not for a root canal.

Obviously, if you undergo dental procedures with painkillers, you really don't love your teeth all that much and don't deserve them.

NP. The OP is a troll and desiring painkillers during birth is completely understandable, but a root canal and childbirth are not really analogous, for a number of reasons ("level of pain," possibly, but there's a lot more to them both).

I've actually had both without painkillers. AMA.

Anonymous wrote:It just screams misogyny to me to suggest there is something wrong with wanting pain killers for childbirth and not for a root canal.

1000% AGREE!!!!

On the off-chance this isn't a troll....

I don't see the point of martyring oneself during labor when pain meds are a thing. Would you refuse drugs for a root canal? I wouldn't. I was in labor for 26 hours, so you better believe I took the drugs when offered. (Had to have 2 epis because the first wore off.)

I tried breast-feeding but it didn't work. The lactation consultants (3 of them) said it probably wouldn't work. Formula was more expensive, but convenient, so hey. I didn't lose sleep over it. Kid is very healthy.

There are approximately a million ways to be a good mom during your kid's lifetime. I wouldn't consider a drug-free birth to be in that category.

I couldn't get pregnant even though we tried the old fashioned way for years and 9 rounds of IVF that did not result in a pregnancy. We adopted an amazing little guy a couple of years ago. I formula fed and went back to work after 5 months of maternity leave. Apparently, I'm not a mom at all according to OP.

If they could just drop toddlers in my house, I would have 5 more kids. I don’t like babies.

OP is a mommy martyr and probably a complete drag in real life. I wanted a baby and couldn’t wait for an epidural. I am confident though and don’t need to prove anything giving birth. My baby also spent the first night in the nursery. I breadfed for four months even though her latch was terrible and we spent $500 on multiple in home lactation consultants. They finally told me to supplement with formula. Kid is older now, just fine. I also have interests and life outside of being mom. We would not be friends. Mommy martyrs also seem to be big into MLM scams making them doubly annoying.

I mean sure...
I had a medicated, and mostly pain free labor, but it could have been better.
I kept telling the doctors,” come on guys! Let’s get creative. Let’s think outside the box! Sure an epidural is a great start, but what about some gas? Have we considered sparking up doobies in here? Some nurse wanna mix a margarita? Because this sucker’s almost out, and I’m willing to play the odds.”
Those f*ckers just laughed at me.
I was completely serious.
Oh well.

Anonymous wrote:You don't want experience labor - you want pain killers, or a scheduled induction, or an elective c-section (even when it's not medically necessary). You don't want to care for your newborn her first night outside your body - you send her to the nursery. You don't want to breastfeed - you resort to formula at the first opportunity. You don't want to help your baby adjust by letting her sleep in the same room as you. What part of having a baby DO you want??

None, that's why I'm childfree by choice.

Op, this described me. I was terrified of being pregnant and terrified of labor. I didn’t want to breastfeed. I worked through my fear and actually tried for a natural birth and ended up having an unplanned CS. I had planned to breastfeed because I deemed it selfish for me to just opt for formula, but my supply was tiny and we ended up going to formula. I actually loved the baby stages (I was never a baby person) and we never had any nannies or night help. Now my kid is 2 and the terror of the physical part of pregnancy and motherhood seems silly to me, and I actually wish I could have done a natural birth and breastfed for the first year. But I think there are different approaches and attitudes to how to be a mother and you really can only judge your own experience.