Anonymous
03/13/2019 16:10
Subject: The "C" word
Are you in a committed relationship? This would get old really fast.
Anonymous
03/13/2019 15:07
Subject: Re:The "C" word
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm confused. OP, can you provide some examples of how he uses it with you in conversation? Is he like...Hey honey, I can't wait to see your C tonight? and then in bed....something like...bring your C over here?
Yes, this. I’m having trouble understanding the context in which he’s using it and how it’s so often!
"Send me some pics of you C***"
"Last night was great, your C*** felt so good"
"I cant wait to c** in you C*** tonight"
"Is your C*** still out of service"
"I want to f*** your C*** all weekend"
"Your C*** tastes great"
Etc..etc...
This would be hot from a f- buddy if he swapped the P word for the C word. Although I grew up in a British environment, I still recoil at the C word in all contexts. He's clearly using it the way some people (me) use the P word, thinking it's hot or dirty or whatever, and if you haven't objected to it and continue to have sex with him, he probably thinks it turns you on. Speak up. Tell him you don't like it and tell him what you'd prefer.
Anonymous
03/13/2019 15:01
Subject: Re:The "C" word
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm confused. OP, can you provide some examples of how he uses it with you in conversation? Is he like...Hey honey, I can't wait to see your C tonight? and then in bed....something like...bring your C over here?
Yes, this. I’m having trouble understanding the context in which he’s using it and how it’s so often!
"Send me some pics of you C***"
"Last night was great, your C*** felt so good"
"I cant wait to c** in you C*** tonight"
"Is your C*** still out of service"
"I want to f*** your C*** all weekend"
"Your C*** tastes great"
Etc..etc...
Is this OP? Goodness, he sounds awful.
Yes I am OP, those are all texts Ive hsd or things hes said.
Oops ^ my bad for the placement of my comments.
Trying again...
1,3,4 & 5 feel very objectifying and would make me wonder if he was dating me or just myc***. 2 might come across better whispered in my ear in person, but by text it feels like the beginning of a Yelp review and would make me feel like he was mentally rating. my c*** quality every time.
#6 would be fine if said while in the act.
For me, this guy wouldn’t be a match/keeper. That’s his natural expression of sexuality. For whatever reason, those words turn him on but not you. You can be a match in many areas, but if you’re not also a match sexually, IMO, it’s better to just walk away.
Anonymous
03/13/2019 14:59
Subject: Re:The "C" word
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm confused. OP, can you provide some examples of how he uses it with you in conversation? Is he like...Hey honey, I can't wait to see your C tonight? and then in bed....something like...bring your C over here?
Yes, this. I’m having trouble understanding the context in which he’s using it and how it’s so often!
"Send me some pics of you C***"
"Last night was great, your C*** felt so good"
"I cant wait to c** in you C*** tonight"
"Is your C*** still out of service"
"I want to f*** your C*** all weekend"
"Your C*** tastes great"
Etc..etc...
1,3,4 & 5 feel very objectifying and would make me wonder if he was dating me or just myc***. 2 might come across better whispered in my ear in person, but by text it feels like the beginning of a Yelp review and would make me feel like he was mentally rating. my c*** quality every time.
#6 would be fine if said while in the act.
For me, this guy wouldn’t be a match/keeper. That’s his natural expression of sexuality. For whatever reason, those words turn him on but not you. You can be a match in many areas, but if you’re not also a match sexually, IMO, it’s better to just walk away.
Is this OP? Goodness, he sounds awful.
Yes I am OP, those are all texts Ive hsd or things hes said.
Anonymous
03/13/2019 14:42
Subject: Re:The "C" word
Anonymous wrote:If my DH ever used the C or P word I’d think he was possessed. It’s rare that he drops an F bomb. In bed he might ask me to lift my cute ass up but that’s about it. Tossing around the C or P word is just vulgar and tasteless.
..To you. Tossing those words around are vulgar and tasteless to you. It’s sexy and provacative and fun for other couples that share love, commitment, and respect. I don’t particularly like cross-dressing, and would run from that. Other couples might embrace that in their bedroom. I wouldn’t. OP really needs to be true to herself instead of crowd sourcing opinion on how she should feel about her sex life.
Anonymous
03/13/2019 14:34
Subject: Re:The "C" word
If my DH ever used the C or P word I’d think he was possessed. It’s rare that he drops an F bomb. In bed he might ask me to lift my cute ass up but that’s about it. Tossing around the C or P word is just vulgar and tasteless.
Anonymous
03/13/2019 14:33
Subject: The "C" word
Anonymous wrote:I've been seeing this guy since just after the new year. He is really good looking, smart, successful snd treats me really well. I pretty much like everything about him. EXCEPT... he uses the C word a lot!
Whenever he references my girl part, whether its in bed, in conversation or by text, no matter what we are doing it is always "your c***". It makes me cringe whenever I hear it.
It doesn't seem like its a big deal to him, it just rolls off his tongue like its a normal word.
Am I being oversensitive?
This is what counts. He didn’t call you that but your female part. It doesn’t bother me, but I’m not you. Just talk to him if it bothers you.
Anonymous
03/13/2019 14:27
Subject: Re:The "C" word
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm confused. OP, can you provide some examples of how he uses it with you in conversation? Is he like...Hey honey, I can't wait to see your C tonight? and then in bed....something like...bring your C over here?
Yes, this. I’m having trouble understanding the context in which he’s using it and how it’s so often!
"Send me some pics of you C***"
"Last night was great, your C*** felt so good"
"I cant wait to c** in you C*** tonight"
"Is your C*** still out of service"
"I want to f*** your C*** all weekend"
"Your C*** tastes great"
Etc..etc...
Is this OP? Goodness, he sounds awful.
Yes I am OP, those are all texts Ive hsd or things hes said.
Is this the only thing that he does wrong? You like him, he treats you well, you have good chemistry, he’s kind, sex is good, see a future, etc.?
If so, I would bring it up, but it wouldn’t be a dealbreaker. Just eye roll worthy. No one is 100% perfect. This is a small issue in the big scheme of things. Don’t know if I would run from this if everything else looked bright. I don’t mind dirty talk.
Anonymous
03/13/2019 13:56
Subject: The "C" word
For me, and I don’t mind the p word and will use it myself, but the c word sounds crass/low class as well as demeaning. It would make me think the guy didn’t respect me, as to other words that just seem fun and sexy.
I would also put the b word in the same category as the c word.
I would also put the b word in the same category as the c word.
Anonymous
03/13/2019 13:45
Subject: The "C" word
I dont kow if I like that kind of talk, but I think I would accept P more than what hes saying now. If we were having rough hard sex I guess saying P would be ok. I think my preference would be that he doesnt reference it at all. Maybe say "you feel really good" instead? I dont know, maybe its just me. Ive never dated someone who was this vocal.
Anonymous
03/13/2019 13:34
Subject: Re:The "C" word
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm confused. OP, can you provide some examples of how he uses it with you in conversation? Is he like...Hey honey, I can't wait to see your C tonight? and then in bed....something like...bring your C over here?
Yes, this. I’m having trouble understanding the context in which he’s using it and how it’s so often!
"Send me some pics of you C***"
"Last night was great, your C*** felt so good"
"I cant wait to c** in you C*** tonight"
"Is your C*** still out of service"
"I want to f*** your C*** all weekend"
"Your C*** tastes great"
Etc..etc...
Is this OP? Goodness, he sounds awful.
Yes I am OP, those are all texts Ive hsd or things hes said.
This would totally gross me out. Do you like that kind of talk, without the word? Like if he were saying “P” instead? I don’t mind some dirty talk while in the heat of the moment during sex, but if a man were sending me stuff like that all the time I would think he was nasty and I would feel objectified/used.
Anyway, I would definitely speak up about this. The way he’s constantly using that word is super degrading, IMO, and it’s making you uncomfortable.
Anonymous
03/13/2019 13:30
Subject: Re:The "C" word
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm confused. OP, can you provide some examples of how he uses it with you in conversation? Is he like...Hey honey, I can't wait to see your C tonight? and then in bed....something like...bring your C over here?
Yes, this. I’m having trouble understanding the context in which he’s using it and how it’s so often!
"Send me some pics of you C***"
"Last night was great, your C*** felt so good"
"I cant wait to c** in you C*** tonight"
"Is your C*** still out of service"
"I want to f*** your C*** all weekend"
"Your C*** tastes great"
Etc..etc...
Is this OP? Goodness, he sounds awful.
Yes I am OP, those are all texts Ive hsd or things hes said.
So just say you don't like that word, and tell him the word you prefer. I'm sure he'll stop if you do that.
Anonymous
03/13/2019 13:26
Subject: Re:The "C" word
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm confused. OP, can you provide some examples of how he uses it with you in conversation? Is he like...Hey honey, I can't wait to see your C tonight? and then in bed....something like...bring your C over here?
Yes, this. I’m having trouble understanding the context in which he’s using it and how it’s so often!
"Send me some pics of you C***"
"Last night was great, your C*** felt so good"
"I cant wait to c** in you C*** tonight"
"Is your C*** still out of service"
"I want to f*** your C*** all weekend"
"Your C*** tastes great"
Etc..etc...
Is this OP? Goodness, he sounds awful.
Yes I am OP, those are all texts Ive hsd or things hes said.
Anonymous
03/13/2019 13:23
Subject: Re:The "C" word
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm confused. OP, can you provide some examples of how he uses it with you in conversation? Is he like...Hey honey, I can't wait to see your C tonight? and then in bed....something like...bring your C over here?
Yes, this. I’m having trouble understanding the context in which he’s using it and how it’s so often!
"Send me some pics of you C***"
"Last night was great, your C*** felt so good"
"I cant wait to c** in you C*** tonight"
"Is your C*** still out of service"
"I want to f*** your C*** all weekend"
"Your C*** tastes great"
Etc..etc...
Is this OP? Goodness, he sounds awful.
Anonymous
03/13/2019 13:12
Subject: Re:The "C" word
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm confused. OP, can you provide some examples of how he uses it with you in conversation? Is he like...Hey honey, I can't wait to see your C tonight? and then in bed....something like...bring your C over here?
Yes, this. I’m having trouble understanding the context in which he’s using it and how it’s so often!
"Send me some pics of you C***"
"Last night was great, your C*** felt so good"
"I cant wait to c** in you C*** tonight"
"Is your C*** still out of service"
"I want to f*** your C*** all weekend"
"Your C*** tastes great"
Etc..etc...