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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I also have the same problem and don’t know how to say it without hurting my DH’s feeling. Sometimes I feel resentful toward him because of this and then feel guilty for feeling resentful.

Don’t feel guilty. It seems very few married woman enjoy sex (with their spouse). That’s what an affair partner is for.

Tell me more. How do people go about finding casual affair partners? Seriously, I don't want to leave my husband. I just want to have good sex with someone I am attracted to.

Send me a PM. I’d like to get to know you and see where it goes.

Anonymous wrote:I feel shallow saying this, but it's hard to deny what your body is telling you - I don't feel physically attracted to him. It's hard to get turned on.

I'm a very sexual person. But physical intimacy with him is just not appealing. We have been married 12 years, during that time he has aged a lot faster than I have, in part because of my faster metabolism, but also I take better care of myself than he does (I eat healthy, exercise).

I have sex with him on a regular basis bc I love him. It's just not that good for me. He hasn't noticed, but I personally feel physically unfulfilled.

It's not something I can talk to him about - what should I even say? But I am guessing I'm probably not alone in this predicament.

Ok OP, not all is lost. You still love your DH. This is important.

Diet (more than exercise) is the biggest contributor to weight gain. You eat healthy, but he doesn't. How come? Don't you eat meals together? Start prepare healthier meals for the family. Reduce opportunities for bad eating by removing unhealthy snacks and replacing them with healthier options. Instead of talking about attractiveness etc, talk about health benefits to your husband. Tell him that you want him to be healthy for the family. When you exercise, ask him to exercise with you. Make it as if he's doing you a favor by keeping you company/motivated. Afterward, thank him for exercising with you by having more sex and burning more calories together Ask him to go on walks with you when the weather is nice. During the walk is a great time to talk and reconnect with your husband emotionally. Good luck.

OP, don't have that affair. Tell your husband that his fatness is making him unattractive to you.

I haven’t read any of the responses but I can already tell you are shallow POS and go out of your way to mention while you’re husband is fat mess you are still attractive so it’s impossible that the problem is actually you