Anonymous wrote:A LOT of people cheat. I had no idea until I went to a two week training program and was shocked by all the infidelity going on around me. I felt very naive watching it go down.

Work travel is one big meat market

A LOT of people cheat. I had no idea until I went to a two week training program and was shocked by all the infidelity going on around me. I felt very naive watching it go down.

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Anonymous wrote:Celebrated 17 years of marriage with my former AP, in December

Just because you are married does not make it positive. Especially not for the people who are your collateral damage.

I am not this PP, but I disagree. If there where no kids and ex is also happily remarried, it was likely the best choice for all.

Pp, your story could almost be mine. I am happy and grateful for my AP.

My husband is depressive, low-drive, and as it turns out, I xapable or unwilling to hold a job for long. But he's a good enough parent to get joint custody- though not responsible enough to parent well without me (when I travel for business I come home to a mess, missed homework, empty fridge).

So I have two lives - my home life, where two people love and care for the kids; and my affair life, where I have love, sex, and companionship.

I'm happier than I've been in years, and my renewed energy has helped me do better at work and be really emotionally engaged as a parent.

My husband has no idea. He's completely in his own world and seems grateful I'm not so resentful anymore.

Yes. I married my AP.

Ex-H completely rejected me sexually and refused to go to therapy/couples counseling even though I begged him to, and this was all before I met AP. Short marriage (under 2 years), no kids involved.

I should have had strength to leave ex-H before getting involved with someone else, yes, and I don’t think I handled my exit in the best way, but I can’t say I regret leaving. My current H and I are very happy and have been married for a decade with kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Sexless marriage for months, my self esteem was in the toilet. Met a woman in a similar situation, we lifted each other up, figuratively and literally. My wife has regained a glimmer of her drive, the affair ended and no one the wiser. I'd call it a win-win.

Your wife suspected something and didn't want to be replaced.

And that's not positive, why?

Anonymous wrote:Sexless marriage for months, my self esteem was in the toilet. Met a woman in a similar situation, we lifted each other up, figuratively and literally. My wife has regained a glimmer of her drive, the affair ended and no one the wiser. I'd call it a win-win.

For now.

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Anonymous wrote:Sexless marriage for months, my self esteem was in the toilet. Met a woman in a similar situation, we lifted each other up, figuratively and literally. My wife has regained a glimmer of her drive, the affair ended and no one the wiser. I'd call it a win-win.

Your wife suspected something and didn't want to be replaced.

That is certainly possible. I thought she stepped up her drive because of the competition, or she had a better desire to be intimate with me because I was a much happier person to be around once I was getting laid. Either way, it was a positive.

Not positive. Wife of over 18 years had an AP who was married. Found out AP was divorcing his wife and mine a few months later asked for a divorce. With kids, STBXW has devasted our family and the kids are acting out against her. Family members, friends and siblings have broke their relationship with the STBXW. No affair is positive. Just have the courage to address leaving a marriage. Sick of the lies and deceit.

Anonymous wrote:anyone have a positive affair story? where having an affair really made your life better?

ROTFLMAO

Anonymous wrote:Sexless marriage for months, my self esteem was in the toilet. Met a woman in a similar situation, we lifted each other up, figuratively and literally. My wife has regained a glimmer of her drive, the affair ended and no one the wiser. I'd call it a win-win.

Your wife suspected something and didn't want to be replaced.

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Anonymous wrote:Celebrated 17 years of marriage with my former AP, in December

Just because you are married does not make it positive. Especially not for the people who are your collateral damage.

Exactly. Let’s ask those whose lives you upended, the people you deeply hurt, whether it was positive.

Sexless marriage for months, my self esteem was in the toilet. Met a woman in a similar situation, we lifted each other up, figuratively and literally. My wife has regained a glimmer of her drive, the affair ended and no one the wiser. I'd call it a win-win.

Anonymous wrote:Celebrated 17 years of marriage with my former AP, in December

Just because you are married does not make it positive. Especially not for the people who are your collateral damage.