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Anonymous wrote:Relationships are far more nuanced and multi-faceted than we seem to think on DCUM.

I have a girlfriend at work who was quite naive when she started working in our firm after taking a few years off for kids. I got to know her and convinced her to join my Zumba class at lunchtime. She had high cheekbones and a lovely figure, and was very sweet. Her husband was in the Army in some basic position, and stationed in our area for 3-4 years. But something just seemed a bit off.

Then I met her husband at the holiday party, and it clicked. They were high school sweethearts with two kids, ages 7 and 5. She had them after getting her Community College degree, so she was still under 30. He was just “meh” and clearly holding her back. Yet she had no idea of what could be.

I made her my project. First I had my AP (one of the senior partners) convince her that she needed to upgrade her wardrobe for this professional position, and that the firm would reimburse her as this was to the firm’s benefit. Then I took her shopping. We bought outfits, shoes and accessories that were versatile, to be worn in an edgy hip firm AND out on the town. Finally we got her a makeover, and arranged with a top-notch training program to get her regular styling and blowouts at a reduced rate.

Having shed her old boring clothes and her mousy appearances, she looked dynamite . She started getting high-end attention like never before.

Her husband got nervous as he knew what this would mean. I played on his insecurities and showed my friend how he just held her back. But she couldn’t make the break unless she KNEW she had a better offer.

And THAT’S why I encouraged her to cheat. She used cheating to gain the experience to reel in a big fish. And about six months later, she did. She met a gorgeous hedge fund manager, and he was just so blown away that he was even willing to accept the kids as part of the deal. After all, nannies and private school are pocket change to this guy.

That was seven years ago. She happily signed a prenup because even those terms guaranteed her a life far beyond what her miserable soldier husband could give. Then she took the kids and had her boyfriend pay off the guy to agree to a quickie divorce. They got married and are blissfully happy. The kids are doing great in their boarding schools, as both prepare the kids not just academically but emotionally and psychologically as well for a lifetime of success.

That’s why I don’t judge when people consider cheating. Most of the time cheating indicates unhappiness, a broken heart. Ultimately the heart wants what it wants, and everyone suffers until the heart is healed.

Wow, what a great love story. Thanks for sharing. And when I say that I really mean I can't imagine being in a relationship with a cold-hearted, calculating ____ like you.

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s a big mistake for anyone to put that secret on a friend. That’s what therapists are for. Certain things you can share with close friends but other topics should be off limits. My sense is someone would only tell a friends out of guilt. The secret is eating them alive. But it’s not a friend’s job to take on that guilt. Those with kids are told not to disclose ugly marital problems to their kids and other family members. Same with friends. Deal with it with your spouse or a therapist. In the age of Facebook people share their dirty laundry forgetting how badly it smells to everyone else.

I made her my project. First I had my AP (one of the senior partners) convince her that she needed to upgrade her wardrobe for this professional position

Anonymous wrote:Relationships are far more nuanced and multi-faceted than we seem to think on DCUM.

I have a girlfriend at work who was quite naive when she started working in our firm after taking a few years off for kids. I got to know her and convinced her to join my Zumba class at lunchtime. She had high cheekbones and a lovely figure, and was very sweet. Her husband was in the Army in some basic position, and stationed in our area for 3-4 years. But something just seemed a bit off.

Then I met her husband at the holiday party, and it clicked. They were high school sweethearts with two kids, ages 7 and 5. She had them after getting her Community College degree, so she was still under 30. He was just “meh” and clearly holding her back. Yet she had no idea of what could be.

I made her my project. First I had my AP (one of the senior partners) convince her that she needed to upgrade her wardrobe for this professional position, and that the firm would reimburse her as this was to the firm’s benefit. Then I took her shopping. We bought outfits, shoes and accessories that were versatile, to be worn in an edgy hip firm AND out on the town. Finally we got her a makeover, and arranged with a top-notch training program to get her regular styling and blowouts at a reduced rate.

Having shed her old boring clothes and her mousy appearances, she looked dynamite . She started getting high-end attention like never before.

Her husband got nervous as he knew what this would mean. I played on his insecurities and showed my friend how he just held her back. But she couldn’t make the break unless she KNEW she had a better offer.

And THAT’S why I encouraged her to cheat. She used cheating to gain the experience to reel in a big fish. And about six months later, she did. She met a gorgeous hedge fund manager, and he was just so blown away that he was even willing to accept the kids as part of the deal. After all, nannies and private school are pocket change to this guy.

That was seven years ago. She happily signed a prenup because even those terms guaranteed her a life far beyond what her miserable soldier husband could give. Then she took the kids and had her boyfriend pay off the guy to agree to a quickie divorce. They got married and are blissfully happy. The kids are doing great in their boarding schools, as both prepare the kids not just academically but emotionally and psychologically as well for a lifetime of success.

That’s why I don’t judge when people consider cheating. Most of the time cheating indicates unhappiness, a broken heart. Ultimately the heart wants what it wants, and everyone suffers until the heart is healed.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Relationships are far more nuanced and multi-faceted than we seem to think on DCUM.

I have a girlfriend at work who was quite naive when she started working in our firm after taking a few years off for kids. I got to know her and convinced her to join my Zumba class at lunchtime. She had high cheekbones and a lovely figure, and was very sweet. Her husband was in the Army in some basic position, and stationed in our area for 3-4 years. But something just seemed a bit off.

Then I met her husband at the holiday party, and it clicked. They were high school sweethearts with two kids, ages 7 and 5. She had them after getting her Community College degree, so she was still under 30. He was just “meh” and clearly holding her back. Yet she had no idea of what could be.

I made her my project. First I had my AP (one of the senior partners) convince her that she needed to upgrade her wardrobe for this professional position, and that the firm would reimburse her as this was to the firm’s benefit. Then I took her shopping. We bought outfits, shoes and accessories that were versatile, to be worn in an edgy hip firm AND out on the town. Finally we got her a makeover, and arranged with a top-notch training program to get her regular styling and blowouts at a reduced rate.

Having shed her old boring clothes and her mousy appearances, she looked dynamite . She started getting high-end attention like never before.

Her husband got nervous as he knew what this would mean. I played on his insecurities and showed my friend how he just held her back. But she couldn’t make the break unless she KNEW she had a better offer.

And THAT’S why I encouraged her to cheat. She used cheating to gain the experience to reel in a big fish. And about six months later, she did. She met a gorgeous hedge fund manager, and he was just so blown away that he was even willing to accept the kids as part of the deal. After all, nannies and private school are pocket change to this guy.

That was seven years ago. She happily signed a prenup because even those terms guaranteed her a life far beyond what her miserable soldier husband could give. Then she took the kids and had her boyfriend pay off the guy to agree to a quickie divorce. They got married and are blissfully happy. The kids are doing great in their boarding schools, as both prepare the kids not just academically but emotionally and psychologically as well for a lifetime of success.

That’s why I don’t judge when people consider cheating. Most of the time cheating indicates unhappiness, a broken heart. Ultimately the heart wants what it wants, and everyone suffers until the heart is healed.

Wow, what a great love story. Thanks for sharing. And when I say that I really mean I can't imagine being in a relationship with a cold-hearted, calculating ____ like you.

Anonymous wrote:Relationships are far more nuanced and multi-faceted than we seem to think on DCUM.

I have a girlfriend at work who was quite naive when she started working in our firm after taking a few years off for kids. I got to know her and convinced her to join my Zumba class at lunchtime. She had high cheekbones and a lovely figure, and was very sweet. Her husband was in the Army in some basic position, and stationed in our area for 3-4 years. But something just seemed a bit off.

Then I met her husband at the holiday party, and it clicked. They were high school sweethearts with two kids, ages 7 and 5. She had them after getting her Community College degree, so she was still under 30. He was just “meh” and clearly holding her back. Yet she had no idea of what could be.

I made her my project. First I had my AP (one of the senior partners) convince her that she needed to upgrade her wardrobe for this professional position, and that the firm would reimburse her as this was to the firm’s benefit. Then I took her shopping. We bought outfits, shoes and accessories that were versatile, to be worn in an edgy hip firm AND out on the town. Finally we got her a makeover, and arranged with a top-notch training program to get her regular styling and blowouts at a reduced rate.

Having shed her old boring clothes and her mousy appearances, she looked dynamite . She started getting high-end attention like never before.

Her husband got nervous as he knew what this would mean. I played on his insecurities and showed my friend how he just held her back. But she couldn’t make the break unless she KNEW she had a better offer.

And THAT’S why I encouraged her to cheat. She used cheating to gain the experience to reel in a big fish. And about six months later, she did. She met a gorgeous hedge fund manager, and he was just so blown away that he was even willing to accept the kids as part of the deal. After all, nannies and private school are pocket change to this guy.

That was seven years ago. She happily signed a prenup because even those terms guaranteed her a life far beyond what her miserable soldier husband could give. Then she took the kids and had her boyfriend pay off the guy to agree to a quickie divorce. They got married and are blissfully happy. The kids are doing great in their boarding schools, as both prepare the kids not just academically but emotionally and psychologically as well for a lifetime of success.

That’s why I don’t judge when people consider cheating. Most of the time cheating indicates unhappiness, a broken heart. Ultimately the heart wants what it wants, and everyone suffers until the heart is healed.