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Anonymous wrote:Ditto on living where I don't want to

+1. I freaking hate it where I live.

+2. And I’m divorced but have young kids. It sucks so badly

+3

Anonymous wrote:Vibrator does not replace a loving, lustful human.

I wish people would stop equating these.

I know my vibrator never endangered my kids spent my money or broke its vows. Just pleasure! Yes please.

I sacrificed a law degree. I met dh at 21 after my BS knew he was the one. I moved to DC to be with him. No regrets. it's been over 10 years and I'm back in school for a different masters degree. I guarantee if I'd gone off to school, DH and I wouldn't be together. He has no idea. I paid for his Masters degree too.

Anonymous wrote:His dormant sex drive

Me, too.

Anonymous wrote:What's the ingest thing you've sacrificed to keep the peace in your marriage? For me it's forgoing a clean house.

Persuading myself that his ADD Inattentive is a disability and he is the third child to take care of. Only unlike a child, he can’t kearn anything.

My body and my mental health to give us our children. Luckily, I got the mental health back.

(And before anyone tells me to lose weight, I lost ALL the weight, both times. But contents have shifted during the flight, and my body will never look or feel the way it did.)

Vibrator does not replace a loving, lustful human.

I wish people would stop equating these.

Anonymous wrote:Living where I don't want to (DC area).

+1

And it is too large a sacrifice.

Sexual adventurousness.

Having more than one child. My husband changed his mind after our first. After lots of therapy, I decided I'd rather be a married mom of one rather than divorced mom of two

Anonymous wrote:Quiet. He talks and talks and talks and talks.... blah blah blah constant mansplaining.

My Dh can do this. I wear headphones and watch Netflix in a different room. Works for me.

Getting a dog. Logically, I know DH is right that getting a dog wouldn't work for our family. But man, in my heart I really want one.

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Anonymous wrote:Sex - nothing in 12 1/2 years

Why?

PP: ED issues and no interest on his part. I went into the marriage knowing he had ED/low drive, but didn’t anticipate no sex, at all, ever.

No cheating? Do you have a vibrator? Seems wholly unfair to you. Needs are needs.

Pp: no cheating by either of us; I do have a vibrator; it’s been so long now that this is my new normal and I would feel weird/awkward having sex again.

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Anonymous wrote:Sex - nothing in 12 1/2 years

Why?

PP: ED issues and no interest on his part. I went into the marriage knowing he had ED/low drive, but didn’t anticipate no sex, at all, ever.

Is he an evangelical (gay) Christian?

Pp: no, he is not

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Anonymous wrote:Sex - nothing in 12 1/2 years

Why?

PP: ED issues and no interest on his part. I went into the marriage knowing he had ED/low drive, but didn’t anticipate no sex, at all, ever.

Why stay? That sounds unbearable.

PP: because the positive things outweigh this one issue and I have no interest in blowing up my child’s life because of a lack of sex. I, absolutely, am not saying anything negative about those for whom this is a divorceable issue - for me, it’s not.