Op here. He asked me out again for the next night - Sunday night. To a restaurant near his place, haha, but he picked me up and drove me back home so I did not have to deal with the snow. Invited me back to his place - we fooled around but did not yet have sex, which is the level of hooking up I wanted at this point. He has a seven year old and had custody Saturday night, and mentioned in passing on Sunday that he had a babysitter for her Saturday night (he did not have custody Sunday night). I think he put her to bed, babysitter came, and then he needed to get home to relieve the baby sitter before it got too late maybe? Anyway, I think my confusion was right on - he was enjoying kissing me, but he did not want to come up because he needed to get home, so he was sending mixed signals...

No worries, OP! He's into you. It just seems he moves at a more relaxed pace if it took two dates for him to move in for a kiss. I think all the PP's suggestions were great ways to propose moving things inside. I think you hesitated because you didn't want to feel rejected/awkward if he declined which was a natural apprehension considering his slow pace. When you have a fourth date, you should feel confident that he will say yes. The question is, do you want to have sex with him then or just other fun? I do wonder if he'll be ready to have sex...

Anonymous wrote:Kissing at a restaurant is so gross. Ewww.

Hello ? It’s sexy

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:yeah I'm not really talking about how to make a guy like me

that’s exactly what you’re talking about.

Nah, he likes her, or he wouldn't have gone on three dates with her. She's trying to get him to make a move. And frankly, as a guy, I'm embarrassed at his lack of balls. On date three, if I'd walked back to her place, I wouldn't kiss her goodbye and then go away, I'd suggest (one way or another) that we go inside. If she said no, fine, try again next time, but at least you tried, and you made it obvious what you want.

He did make a move and they made out twice. He is just not assuming she wants to go from a kiss to sex on one date, especially since they didn't kiss until date 3. That isn't a lack of balls. He may not be getting a vibe from Op that she wants to do more, he may want to move at this pace, or he may think she wants to move at this pace. Nothing about this says to me a guy with no balls. Being a man doesn't mean you have to have sex ASAP

He was outside her place. He did not make a move to see if he could come inside. On the third date, this would have been an obvious and not unreasonable move. But he was too weak to do so!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:yeah I'm not really talking about how to make a guy like me

that’s exactly what you’re talking about.

Nah, he likes her, or he wouldn't have gone on three dates with her. She's trying to get him to make a move. And frankly, as a guy, I'm embarrassed at his lack of balls. On date three, if I'd walked back to her place, I wouldn't kiss her goodbye and then go away, I'd suggest (one way or another) that we go inside. If she said no, fine, try again next time, but at least you tried, and you made it obvious what you want.

He did make a move and they made out twice. He is just not assuming she wants to go from a kiss to sex on one date, especially since they didn't kiss until date 3. That isn't a lack of balls. He may not be getting a vibe from Op that she wants to do more, he may want to move at this pace, or he may think she wants to move at this pace. Nothing about this says to me a guy with no balls. Being a man doesn't mean you have to have sex ASAP

NP. It sounded like OP wanted to fool around more but maybe not go the whole way just yet? If that’s the case, does inviting a guy up get interpreted as wanting the whole chimichanga?

"C'mon"

Anonymous wrote:I revently wentbout w/ someone and we had the hottest kids ever. He’s the one who sent me in alone (I had to walk my dog). On the next date he said he wasn’t promiscuous. Sometimes you need to wait!

What?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:yeah I'm not really talking about how to make a guy like me

that’s exactly what you’re talking about.

Nah, he likes her, or he wouldn't have gone on three dates with her. She's trying to get him to make a move. And frankly, as a guy, I'm embarrassed at his lack of balls. On date three, if I'd walked back to her place, I wouldn't kiss her goodbye and then go away, I'd suggest (one way or another) that we go inside. If she said no, fine, try again next time, but at least you tried, and you made it obvious what you want.

Anonymous wrote:yeah I'm not really talking about how to make a guy like me

that’s exactly what you’re talking about.

Anonymous wrote:I revently wentbout w/ someone and we had the hottest kids ever. He’s the one who sent me in alone (I had to walk my dog). On the next date he said he wasn’t promiscuous. Sometimes you need to wait!

Great autocorrect@!

I revently wentbout w/ someone and we had the hottest kids ever. He’s the one who sent me in alone (I had to walk my dog). On the next date he said he wasn’t promiscuous. Sometimes you need to wait!

*kissing*

You: want to come up?

It really is that simple.

When he is kissing you just say - should we continue this upstairs?

You could add, I have a pretty comfy couch/bed - depending on what message you want to send.

When he is kissing you just say - should we continue this upstairs?

You could add, I have a pretty comfy couch/bed - depending on what message you want to send.