My brother, full ride Ivy, is a d**k, no moral compass, not as bright as you'd think and a narcissist. Handed out biz cards to docs (unsolicited) over my father's deathbed. Still mentions alma mater, also unsolicited. He did marry within the cess•pool though, a full ride Wharton alum. She's a peach, too. So there's that.

If you must know. I am six years younger, financially secure and my moral cup runneth over. My alma mater is a 4 year city university, in tandem with a full time job, no debt, 200k salary at 27. Cared for my parents until the end, 24/7 with DH and DS support. DS is a kind and selfless young man and the real bright light.

Just thought I'd throw my sweeping generalization over the fence!

Your serve...

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Anonymous wrote:My DD is at a no-name school, not even in the top 200. DD is applying to HYPS for grad school. Her professors say it's very likely she will be accepted. Last year's grads from her school in her major got into MIT, CalTech, Harvard, etc. This is a small, no name school that gives a lot of merit $$ to attract kids like DD. She loves it there, BTW.

What's her major?

Would like to know this too. No professor should be saying "it's very likely that X will be accepted to HYPS" for any grad work. Do you have any idea what it takes to get into Harvard Law or Harvard MBA?

To be fair, professors at no-name colleges aren’t terribly bright themselves.

Lmao. And what do YOU do?

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Anonymous wrote:My DD is at a no-name school, not even in the top 200. DD is applying to HYPS for grad school. Her professors say it's very likely she will be accepted. Last year's grads from her school in her major got into MIT, CalTech, Harvard, etc. This is a small, no name school that gives a lot of merit $$ to attract kids like DD. She loves it there, BTW.

What's her major?

Would like to know this too. No professor should be saying "it's very likely that X will be accepted to HYPS" for any grad work. Do you have any idea what it takes to get into Harvard Law or Harvard MBA?

To be fair, professors at no-name colleges aren’t terribly bright themselves.

People like you are just awful. Seriously.

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Anonymous wrote:My DD is at a no-name school, not even in the top 200. DD is applying to HYPS for grad school. Her professors say it's very likely she will be accepted. Last year's grads from her school in her major got into MIT, CalTech, Harvard, etc. This is a small, no name school that gives a lot of merit $$ to attract kids like DD. She loves it there, BTW.

What's her major?

Would like to know this too. No professor should be saying "it's very likely that X will be accepted to HYPS" for any grad work. Do you have any idea what it takes to get into Harvard Law or Harvard MBA?

To be fair, professors at no-name colleges aren’t terribly bright themselves.

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Anonymous wrote:My DD is at a no-name school, not even in the top 200. DD is applying to HYPS for grad school. Her professors say it's very likely she will be accepted. Last year's grads from her school in her major got into MIT, CalTech, Harvard, etc. This is a small, no name school that gives a lot of merit $$ to attract kids like DD. She loves it there, BTW.

What's her major?

Would like to know this too. No professor should be saying "it's very likely that X will be accepted to HYPS" for any grad work. Do you have any idea what it takes to get into Harvard Law or Harvard MBA?

Anonymous wrote:My DD is at a small college with tons of personal attention. She’s working with a contact over this holiday and was telling him about the things she’s doing in her major. He was amazed and said all of his kids went to Ivy League schools and never had those opportunities. So while the name on her graduation paper might not be as glamorous, she will be using her merit aid scholarship undergrad degree to gain valuable feet on the ground experience and then launch into a respected law school (automatic free ride with the GPA she maintains) or possibly grad school. And best of all she’s loving it too!

And how do you possibly know that? And just how is she going to get into a top tier law school from a podunk college? And an "automatic free ride" (???) is given from what law school? The kind of law school that might give such a free ride will have zero placement after graduation.

Anonymous wrote:My DD is at a small college with tons of personal attention. She’s working with a contact over this holiday and was telling him about the things she’s doing in her major. He was amazed and said all of his kids went to Ivy League schools and never had those opportunities. So while the name on her graduation paper might not be as glamorous, she will be using her merit aid scholarship undergrad degree to gain valuable feet on the ground experience and then launch into a respected law school (automatic free ride with the GPA she maintains) or possibly grad school. And best of all she’s loving it too!

Correct. My DD went to a name school and just getting an internship (which she could not) without a hook is damn near impossible. They were NO help whatsoever, expecting her to use her hooks. She has none.

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Anonymous wrote:You are being an idiot.
First of all the bill will be at least 100k by the time your kid gets to college.
Second of all, when your kid earns a spot to one of the top universities in the country all on his own you’re not going to turn around and send him to state school.
Stop the stupid grandstanding.

Um. Plenty of people do. My daughter was accepted into two Ivys. She turned them both down for University of Florida. She graduated three years ago. Has a job making just under 100,000 a year. And ZERO student loan debt. I would say she is in much better shape than most young adults.

But it would have been better for her to have graduated from one of those ivies with no debt (which you should have been saving for her from day 1). You can't deny that.

I absolutely deny it. Her college would have been fully funded either way. We tried to talk her into choosing an Ivy. In hindsight, it probably would have been a bad decision. I’m not against Ivy schools at all. But to suggest kids never turn them down for reasons other than financial is silly.

My son won't apply for Ivys because he feels it's ridiculous to spend that kind of money on college when a state school has one of the top 5 programs in the country for his major. Your DD is wise!

Anonymous wrote:I just started a thread asking if anyone else has a kid applying to med school. Kid was late bloomer and is attending mediocre at best undergrad (NO where near top 30). Has two med school acceptances so far.

Congratulations!!!!

Anonymous wrote:My DD is at a small college with tons of personal attention. She’s working with a contact over this holiday and was telling him about the things she’s doing in her major. He was amazed and said all of his kids went to Ivy League schools and never had those opportunities. So while the name on her graduation paper might not be as glamorous, she will be using her merit aid scholarship undergrad degree to gain valuable feet on the ground experience and then launch into a respected law school (automatic free ride with the GPA she maintains) or possibly grad school. And best of all she’s loving it too!

Yes I am sure she is doing so much better than all those Ivy League kids. The world is her oyster!! Please. I bet she is at a great place but her small liberal arts school is not likely to beat HPY or Columbia. Just say your happy with your kids school.

My DD is at a small college with tons of personal attention. She’s working with a contact over this holiday and was telling him about the things she’s doing in her major. He was amazed and said all of his kids went to Ivy League schools and never had those opportunities. So while the name on her graduation paper might not be as glamorous, she will be using her merit aid scholarship undergrad degree to gain valuable feet on the ground experience and then launch into a respected law school (automatic free ride with the GPA she maintains) or possibly grad school. And best of all she’s loving it too!

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Anonymous wrote:You are being an idiot.
First of all the bill will be at least 100k by the time your kid gets to college.
Second of all, when your kid earns a spot to one of the top universities in the country all on his own you’re not going to turn around and send him to state school.
Stop the stupid grandstanding.

Um. Plenty of people do. My daughter was accepted into two Ivys. She turned them both down for University of Florida. She graduated three years ago. Has a job making just under 100,000 a year. And ZERO student loan debt. I would say she is in much better shape than most young adults.

But it would have been better for her to have graduated from one of those ivies with no debt (which you should have been saving for her from day 1). You can't deny that.

I absolutely deny it. Her college would have been fully funded either way. We tried to talk her into choosing an Ivy. In hindsight, it probably would have been a bad decision. I’m not against Ivy schools at all. But to suggest kids never turn them down for reasons other than financial is silly.

You said that she would have been saddled with college loans. You turned the screws - admit it.
We’re you going through a divorce and couldn’t agree? One of my best buddies from good old State U didn’t receive parental funding for Stanford because of acdivorce and he was resentful as hell.

Nowhere in my post did I say she would have been saddled with college loans. My point was that unlike too many kids at expensive private schools, she did not have to worry about any student loans. The divorce comment is so odd. Her father and I celebrated 30 years of marriage this year.

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You are being an idiot.
First of all the bill will be at least 100k by the time your kid gets to college.
Second of all, when your kid earns a spot to one of the top universities in the country all on his own you’re not going to turn around and send him to state school.
Stop the stupid grandstanding.

Plenty of kids out there choosing to go to the more reasonably priced school, both for themselves and their family due to the price tag.

The vast majority of people just cannot afford it, despite living responsibly and saving. That is reality...not grandstanding.

Charming “idiot” comment.

Both parents went to top 10 schools. They can afford it and they will. Unless their kids aren’t too bright.

You are being an idiot.
First of all the bill will be at least 100k by the time your kid gets to college.
Second of all, when your kid earns a spot to one of the top universities in the country all on his own you’re not going to turn around and send him to state school.
Stop the stupid grandstanding.

Plenty of kids out there choosing to go to the more reasonably priced school, both for themselves and their family due to the price tag.

The vast majority of people just cannot afford it, despite living responsibly and saving. That is reality...not grandstanding.

Charming “idiot” comment.

K-12 is soooooo much more important.

Sidwell + UMich > being an irrelevant fish out of water after lucking into an Ivy