Anonymous wrote:I feel for you. I was married to a mentally ill man in my 20s. We divorced and it was amazing to get my life back. That said we didnt have kids or assets and it was an easy divorce legally speaking. I am now married to a healthy man who makes a fine living. We will never be rich but I will never have to be the breadwinner. Funny enough I have told my husband that if I can make a certain salary he can quit working and write a book or whatever and I would totally be fine with it.
It sounds like you cant divorce him because he might want alimony or something. That said unmommy track yourself asap. It might mean going to get another degree or some other PD step. Also is he functional enough not to harm the kids? if so he can stay at home. I know someone who did this with her clinically depressed husband. She put him on kid duty since he couldn't function in the work place and went back for a nursing degree. She makes 85k now and owns a house outright. It can be done. My heart goes out to you! Please get therapy!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:So I just realized my wife is never going to be good at BJs.
Why did you marry her? My wife gives amazing BJs.
Find some tutorial videos put them on a thumb drive and gives it to her as a Christmas gift.
taketothebank wrote:OP - have you really looked at what you contribute to the marrige?