Anonymous
Post 01/08/2019 18:54     Subject: I tried everything but _____ finally worked! (fill in the blank)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I was 43 when I finally gave up on trying with my own eggs and moved to DE. It didn't work immediately and I turned 45 in the hospital after delivering my babies.

My only regret is in waiting so long to go the DE route, but then again, if I'd done that sooner I probably would have had a different donor and therefore different kids.

I find that dwelling on regrets means I'd also be wishing away the two kids I now adore, so that helps shut down the "woulda coulda shouldas".

Good luck OP.


PP, you say "I turned 45 in the hospital after delivering my babies." Did you have twins from DE? If so did your RE put back more than one embryo? Did they start with 1 and then move to 2 or start with 2?

I am 43 and doing my last OE FET this month using two untested blasts from banked a year ago. I have low expectations and am 100% emotionally prepared to move on to DE. The package my clinic offers comes with 6 eggs and 2 FETs. I am wondering how many embryos they will put back at once (given that the eggs are likely good) and under what circumstances will they put back more than one.


Good luck!
I'm not PP, but I chose to have 1 PGS tested DE embryo transferred and it was successful. With DE it can make sense to do the PGS testing, as you're more likely to have more blasts. I didn't do it for my OE cycles. It's still about a 50% normal rate for DE. I would have loved twins, but wanted to avoid them, as the risks are higher and I know a number of people who've had significant complications with twins. There are guidelines for the #s of blasts to be transferred that reputable REs follow.



Thanks for the good wishes. My Clinic follows published guidelines; they started with lower number transfers and bumped it up after failure ie poor prognosis. With DE I understand it follows age of the donor. I suppose they will assume favorable prognosis to start and adapt if needed. I am not seeking twins at all but I am seeking success after many many heartbreaking failures.
Anonymous
Post 01/08/2019 15:56     Subject: I tried everything but _____ finally worked! (fill in the blank)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I was 43 when I finally gave up on trying with my own eggs and moved to DE. It didn't work immediately and I turned 45 in the hospital after delivering my babies.

My only regret is in waiting so long to go the DE route, but then again, if I'd done that sooner I probably would have had a different donor and therefore different kids.

I find that dwelling on regrets means I'd also be wishing away the two kids I now adore, so that helps shut down the "woulda coulda shouldas".

Good luck OP.


PP, you say "I turned 45 in the hospital after delivering my babies." Did you have twins from DE? If so did your RE put back more than one embryo? Did they start with 1 and then move to 2 or start with 2?

I am 43 and doing my last OE FET this month using two untested blasts from banked a year ago. I have low expectations and am 100% emotionally prepared to move on to DE. The package my clinic offers comes with 6 eggs and 2 FETs. I am wondering how many embryos they will put back at once (given that the eggs are likely good) and under what circumstances will they put back more than one.


Good luck!
I'm not PP, but I chose to have 1 PGS tested DE embryo transferred and it was successful. With DE it can make sense to do the PGS testing, as you're more likely to have more blasts. I didn't do it for my OE cycles. It's still about a 50% normal rate for DE. I would have loved twins, but wanted to avoid them, as the risks are higher and I know a number of people who've had significant complications with twins. There are guidelines for the #s of blasts to be transferred that reputable REs follow.

Anonymous
Post 01/08/2019 13:55     Subject: I tried everything but _____ finally worked! (fill in the blank)
Anonymous wrote:I was 43 when I finally gave up on trying with my own eggs and moved to DE. It didn't work immediately and I turned 45 in the hospital after delivering my babies.

My only regret is in waiting so long to go the DE route, but then again, if I'd done that sooner I probably would have had a different donor and therefore different kids.

I find that dwelling on regrets means I'd also be wishing away the two kids I now adore, so that helps shut down the "woulda coulda shouldas".

Good luck OP.


PP, you say "I turned 45 in the hospital after delivering my babies." Did you have twins from DE? If so did your RE put back more than one embryo? Did they start with 1 and then move to 2 or start with 2?

I am 43 and doing my last OE FET this month using two untested blasts from banked a year ago. I have low expectations and am 100% emotionally prepared to move on to DE. The package my clinic offers comes with 6 eggs and 2 FETs. I am wondering how many embryos they will put back at once (given that the eggs are likely good) and under what circumstances will they put back more than one.
Anonymous
Post 01/08/2019 12:08     Subject: I tried everything but _____ finally worked! (fill in the blank)
DHEA supplement (I mean, that's my guess. It was the only thing new I had added during the cycle I naturally conceived after 3 failed IUIs and 3 failed IVFs that year).
Anonymous
Post 01/08/2019 12:03     Subject: Re:I tried everything but _____ finally worked! (fill in the blank)
Anonymous wrote:1st kid - year of ovulation kits led to nothing. Doctor randomly suggested propping up afterwards & a milkshake every night while we waited for specialist appointment... pregnant that cycle. 2nd kid multiple failed IUIs, failed fresh IVFs, positive frozen IVF. 3rd kid (only 1 not in our 20s!), we had decided not to try & not to prevent, surprise pregnancy without any regularity to my cycle (still nursing #2). I agree with a PP... total crapshoot.


+1 - it really is a total crapshoot!
Anonymous
Post 01/08/2019 11:28     Subject: Re:I tried everything but _____ finally worked! (fill in the blank)
1st kid - year of ovulation kits led to nothing. Doctor randomly suggested propping up afterwards & a milkshake every night while we waited for specialist appointment... pregnant that cycle. 2nd kid multiple failed IUIs, failed fresh IVFs, positive frozen IVF. 3rd kid (only 1 not in our 20s!), we had decided not to try & not to prevent, surprise pregnancy without any regularity to my cycle (still nursing #2). I agree with a PP... total crapshoot.
Anonymous
Post 01/08/2019 11:17     Subject: I tried everything but _____ finally worked! (fill in the blank)
I wanted to stab people who told me to relax at the time but it worked on an off month after a year and half at an RE. We were taking a break before moving to IVF but I was still taking OPKs just so we could give it a shot. But I didn't really care and had really let go of it emotionally.

Being in the throws of infertility is SO stressful, I felt like I was going completely insane.
Anonymous
Post 01/07/2019 20:17     Subject: Re:I tried everything but _____ finally worked! (fill in the blank)
FET and an embryo scratch.
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2019 16:12     Subject: I tried everything but _____ finally worked! (fill in the blank)
relaxing!
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2019 10:21     Subject: I tried everything but _____ finally worked! (fill in the blank)
I was 43 when I finally gave up on trying with my own eggs and moved to DE. It didn't work immediately and I turned 45 in the hospital after delivering my babies.

My only regret is in waiting so long to go the DE route, but then again, if I'd done that sooner I probably would have had a different donor and therefore different kids.

I find that dwelling on regrets means I'd also be wishing away the two kids I now adore, so that helps shut down the "woulda coulda shouldas".

Good luck OP.
Anonymous
Post 12/31/2018 11:26     Subject: Re:I tried everything but _____ finally worked! (fill in the blank)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:For those sharing that they used DE, what age were you when you made that decision?


We started trying to get pregnant at 40 (we met and married late). By 43, we knew we had to move on (I tried everything!) to DE. But it took me a year to wrap my head around it and to save some money. My biggest regret is waiting so long.


at 43. took over a year to get all theducks in the row. our first donor was a bust.


Same here - 43. I had my first easily just before turning 40 (we won the lottery bc age was not our only issue as it turns out). We were told by multiple REs that we had a better than average chance, but still didn't work after many cycles. Not fun, but nothing about this other than success is.
Anonymous
Post 12/31/2018 05:31     Subject: Re:I tried everything but _____ finally worked! (fill in the blank)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:For those sharing that they used DE, what age were you when you made that decision?


We started trying to get pregnant at 40 (we met and married late). By 43, we knew we had to move on (I tried everything!) to DE. But it took me a year to wrap my head around it and to save some money. My biggest regret is waiting so long.


at 43. took over a year to get all theducks in the row. our first donor was a bust.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2018 13:00     Subject: I tried everything but _____ finally worked! (fill in the blank)
Baby aspirin and tracking ovulation very closely. Got pregnant naturally right after all embryos arrested.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2018 08:33     Subject: Re:I tried everything but _____ finally worked! (fill in the blank)
Anonymous wrote:For those sharing that they used DE, what age were you when you made that decision?


We started trying to get pregnant at 40 (we met and married late). By 43, we knew we had to move on (I tried everything!) to DE. But it took me a year to wrap my head around it and to save some money. My biggest regret is waiting so long.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2018 01:38     Subject: Re:I tried everything but _____ finally worked! (fill in the blank)
Paleo