23:11 - I don't know if I necessarily agree with this. I have a bunch of friends and the chubby ones seem to do just fine in the dating world if they have a cute face and a decent personality. They aren't high-maintenance and they're easy to be around. The outright fat ones have a harder time, but that really only describes a couple of women I know.

I think a lot of guys will say they want skinny women, but when it comes down to it, for many, it's not a deal-breaker.

My best advice, OP, is to take a look at your budget and set a monthly budget for clothes and a monthly budget for beauty products/services, then spend every penny of it every month. Sometimes, when you don't feel pretty, you skip out on nice clothes, shoes, make-up, highlights, etc, and then you look even more frumpy.

Men say that they don't care about these things, they just want to see a package that is pleasing to the eye. But that's because they don't know what goes in to making things pleasing to the eye. It's the same way they say they don't care about throw pillows or vaccuuming, they just want to walk into a room that's pleasant and comfortable.

PP here. Sorry about typos. It's like reading Google translate from Mandarin!

Of all my friends in college the one who had the most men after her was not the most beautiful by far. In fact, she had a big nose, and not great bonr structure. But she was out, funny, confident and interesting. You just lied being around her. She grew up internationally, often interacting with older people and folks from all over the world, so she had a confidence and intelligence that made her radiation. I also think she was not hung up on her looks much, though she knew how to out herself together.

If you spend a lot of energy focused on not being pretty, you have little to spend on connecting with others. Try to develop self esteem tgry other means, and convey that you do feel attractive in being fit and polished. But trust me, you don't need to be a knockout to get a date.

Anonymous wrote:I know men are visual and the most beautiful women receive the most declarations of love and marriage proposals.

What to do when you’re homely and plain and don’t inspire love and lust in men? What if you’re just...invisible?

Cats.....

just kidding OP....

through high school and college i dated and was attracted to and had long term relationship with some women that were plain janes. but sometimes things just click between two people. i'm sure you have some hobbies and interests and i think that where you gotta start...

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Anonymous wrote:Almost every woman alive is capable of being attractive to most men. JUST GET SUPER FIT. A rocking body is 90% of what it takes to be an attractive woman, and this is entirely within your control.

+1000

Just pay a trainer and a nutrionist to put a plan together for you and then get in the gym and work it. I think it cost me $60.

It’ll pay huge dividends in you attractiveness, self image, confidence, strength and health. And, guess what? It’s entirely within your control.

You don’t have to be better than other people, just be the best version of yourself.

hahaha "be the best version of yourself" what a joke

When I was 20, I was awkward, shy, chubby, and had a large crooked nose, big chin, and small eyes and absolutely no boyfriends.
When I was 35, I was awkward, shy, thin-to-average, and had a large crooked nose, big chin, small eyes, and some wrinkles and many men flirting and asking me out.

Being not overweight is pretty much the only thing that matters to around 90% of men in my experience.

100% true. Universally understood. Yet we are surrounded by overweight women asking how to find love, or why did my marriage fail (maybe that extra 40 pounds was a factor?) Doh!!