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Anonymous wrote:OP , give us more context. How many times did he “flirt”? Where did the flirting occur? That can definitely help us discern neyeeen actual flirting and mere friendly conversation. Sometimes it’s just friendly back and forth ,and sometimes it’s more but it’s hardto say without additional details.

Doesn’t matter he has a wife. The guy was wearing a ring. He knew what he was doing. Good thing OP caught on before she was deeply involved. You can’t blame this on her. Some guys are just trash.

Yes he is garbage. Not worth wasting oxygen on and he should be happy she didn't tell his wife. I probably would have.

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Anonymous wrote:How did you find out, OP?

When I heard his wife being talked about.

Overheard? Or he told you?

Because if he told you, he was clearly signaling he isn't available and he certainly wasn't flirting.

Over heard. He never mentioned a wife in front of me. His behavior towards me was different than towards others. I’m over it feel a little stupid but over it.

I worked with a guy who'd flirt with all the young blondes in the office. No one else. And he'd go to all of them with sob stories of divorcing his wife. I'm not a blond so I guess he didn't watch himself around me, but I heard him discussing his wife in normal married speak ALL the time. We bought this, we went there for that. I wanted to buy golf clubs but she said she got me some for Christmas, etc. etc.

I found it so disgusting that around others he spoke of his marriage and around the younger blondes he talked of divorcing this woman. I only knew about this and caught on later because one of these girls was defending him to me when I said he gave me the creeps and she said "he was a sweet man with a lot of issues divorcing his awful wife."

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Anonymous wrote:How did you find out, OP?

When I heard his wife being talked about.

Overheard? Or he told you?

Because if he told you, he was clearly signaling he isn't available and he certainly wasn't flirting.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a few single male friends in their 30s and a lot of them told me they're really hesitant on flirting now because of the #metoo stuff. They'll flirt at a bar, but not at any other public place like a coffee shop, gym, and definitely not at work. I think women need to start making the first move more these days.

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Stop! What is wrong with your friends that flirting could be mistaken for rape .

Why do you think #metoo is only about rape??

They apparently have missed all these morons complaining about flirting or a bad attempt at hitting on a woman as a pound me too moment.

Anonymous wrote:Did you not see his ring?

Rings dont matter they actually help.

Anonymous wrote:I have a few single male friends in their 30s and a lot of them told me they're really hesitant on flirting now because of the #metoo stuff. They'll flirt at a bar, but not at any other public place like a coffee shop, gym, and definitely not at work. I think women need to start making the first move more these days.

If the men you're hanging out with equate flirting at the gym with sexual harassment in the workplace ( ie. an actual #metoo situation) you need to hang out with a smarter crowd. Equivocating standard social interaction with transactional relationships in which a power dynamic exists is like saying a breakfast smoothie = a vodka tonic.

You're either a man trolling or a woman who needed this explained to you. Do better.

Anonymous wrote:Married men are the worst. At 40, my now target audience is apparently 50-55 year old men, as that is what I seem to be attracting lately. They are all married and all very willing to cheat on their wives if given the greenlight.

I divorced a habitual cheater 5 years ago, and it really is disheartening to think that most men cheat.


I find it terribly offensive to be offered the part of "supporting role" as the side piece. No thanks. I am your co-star or nothing. I will not help you disrespect your wife and marriage.

just an FYI, the data shows that both men and women cheat in roughly equal rates. so it's not that most men cheat. it's that about half of all married/coupled adults cheat at some point in their lifetime.

PP, I don’t disagree with you But she didn’t actually say what he was doing so there is no way to know if it’s was just friendly conversation or something more.

Anonymous wrote:OP , give us more context. How many times did he “flirt”? Where did the flirting occur? That can definitely help us discern neyeeen actual flirting and mere friendly conversation. Sometimes it’s just friendly back and forth ,and sometimes it’s more but it’s hardto say without additional details.

Doesn’t matter he has a wife. The guy was wearing a ring. He knew what he was doing. Good thing OP caught on before she was deeply involved. You can’t blame this on her. Some guys are just trash.

OP , give us more context. How many times did he “flirt”? Where did the flirting occur? That can definitely help us discern neyeeen actual flirting and mere friendly conversation. Sometimes it’s just friendly back and forth ,and sometimes it’s more but it’s hardto say without additional details.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a few single male friends in their 30s and a lot of them told me they're really hesitant on flirting now because of the #metoo stuff. They'll flirt at a bar, but not at any other public place like a coffee shop, gym, and definitely not at work. I think women need to start making the first move more these days.

+1

Stop! What is wrong with your friends that flirting could be mistaken for rape .

Why do you think #metoo is only about rape??

Why do you think all the women are making false accusations?

Ladies, just because a guy takes an interest in you doesn't always mean they're flirting. They might just find you interesting and a good conversationalist compared to most people who are boring. Take it as a compliment. And, yes some guys are pigs.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a few single male friends in their 30s and a lot of them told me they're really hesitant on flirting now because of the #metoo stuff. They'll flirt at a bar, but not at any other public place like a coffee shop, gym, and definitely not at work. I think women need to start making the first move more these days.

+1

Stop! What is wrong with your friends that flirting could be mistaken for rape .

Why do you think #metoo is only about rape??