Anonymous wrote:
Why shouldn't the AP share in the spoils of your marriage? They ate performing a critical role in the maintenance of the marriage?
By share spoils do you mean receive cash, gifts, etc. for having the affair? An AP that should be "paid" for having sex = a sex worker, not an affair partner.
If both people are married should the female AP share her wealth with her male AP to compensate him for his critical role in maintaning the marrage?
Nope totally different. Reoccurring affairs are more than just sex; its the same with a true FWB situation as opposed to a straight s*x partner/ONS. There are varying levels of commitment and emotional involvement as well as sexual relations. Intimacy and sex is a big part of a marriage, people divorce over the loss of it all the time.
Most longterm APs operate this way anyway. A married man, or woman, is not just coming over for a quick exchange. Now, he might tell you differently, but it's the truth of the matter--being a kept woman does not mean a one-way transaction.
Why do you think someone should provide this essential part of a marriage and just walk away? Stay in your sexless and emotionless marriage then!