Anonymous
Post 09/25/2018 11:54     Subject: Dh sucks

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Anonymous wrote:My brother is just like this. He has NEVER changed a poop diaper. I hate to say this about my own brother, but I've lost so much respect for him as a man. These men, it's not just diapers, they are lazy AF all around when it comes to the kids. Ots pathetic and weak. I would not blame my SIL is shes never intimate again with my brother. Hige huge turn off.

+1 It is a huge turn off, and men don't seem to get this. They think they are entitled to all the benefits of marriage but not the hard work of being a dad and good husband.


+2 At my first real job after college, a manager talked about how her husband was so proud that he never changed diapers. Not even just a wet diaper, not for any of their three kids. He was of the opinion that it wasn't something a real man should have to do (even though he was the big push for having kids in the first place) so she could never leave the kids home alone with him until they were potty trained. That conversation stuck with me enough that when DH and I were getting serious and discussing our future, we had a conversation about parenting and I made sure to bring up that I could never respect a guy who behaved that way and DH wholeheartedly agreed.

Obviously, it isn't a perfect barometer of "good father" but there is a very low probability of a man being a good father if he's the type to refuse to take care of diapers ever.


Well...what incentive do any of these fathers/husbands have to get better. It's not like you'll leave...or leave the kid sitting in poo.

Win-win for them.

Yep.

And when the woman is too tired or turned off by the DH to want sex, then the DHs step out claiming that the women are unreasonable.

Or the men claim the women are b1tchy and have too high expectations.


GMAFB. DH here who changed 98% of all the diapers, does most of the work around the house, inside and out, to include almost all of the cooking. I'm pretty sure I don't get any more sex than the guys who refuse to change diapers and play dumb in the kitchen. Oh, and I'm fit and attractive and can give DW the big O every time. Do I think it's lame that guys won't change diapers? You bet I do, but the idea that I ever got laid for changing almost all of them is hilarious. Too bad there isn't a laughing bitterly emoji. In some ways, actually, I think my DW has less respect for me because I work so hard around the house and don't just sit on my ass and expect her to do all the "women's work."
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2018 11:24     Subject: Dh sucks

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My brother is just like this. He has NEVER changed a poop diaper. I hate to say this about my own brother, but I've lost so much respect for him as a man. These men, it's not just diapers, they are lazy AF all around when it comes to the kids. Ots pathetic and weak. I would not blame my SIL is shes never intimate again with my brother. Hige huge turn off.

+1 It is a huge turn off, and men don't seem to get this. They think they are entitled to all the benefits of marriage but not the hard work of being a dad and good husband.


+2 At my first real job after college, a manager talked about how her husband was so proud that he never changed diapers. Not even just a wet diaper, not for any of their three kids. He was of the opinion that it wasn't something a real man should have to do (even though he was the big push for having kids in the first place) so she could never leave the kids home alone with him until they were potty trained. That conversation stuck with me enough that when DH and I were getting serious and discussing our future, we had a conversation about parenting and I made sure to bring up that I could never respect a guy who behaved that way and DH wholeheartedly agreed.

Obviously, it isn't a perfect barometer of "good father" but there is a very low probability of a man being a good father if he's the type to refuse to take care of diapers ever.


Well...what incentive do any of these fathers/husbands have to get better. It's not like you'll leave...or leave the kid sitting in poo.

Win-win for them.

Yep.

And when the woman is too tired or turned off by the DH to want sex, then the DHs step out claiming that the women are unreasonable.

Or the men claim the women are b1tchy and have too high expectations.
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2018 11:15     Subject: Dh sucks

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My brother is just like this. He has NEVER changed a poop diaper. I hate to say this about my own brother, but I've lost so much respect for him as a man. These men, it's not just diapers, they are lazy AF all around when it comes to the kids. Ots pathetic and weak. I would not blame my SIL is shes never intimate again with my brother. Hige huge turn off.

+1 It is a huge turn off, and men don't seem to get this. They think they are entitled to all the benefits of marriage but not the hard work of being a dad and good husband.


+2 At my first real job after college, a manager talked about how her husband was so proud that he never changed diapers. Not even just a wet diaper, not for any of their three kids. He was of the opinion that it wasn't something a real man should have to do (even though he was the big push for having kids in the first place) so she could never leave the kids home alone with him until they were potty trained. That conversation stuck with me enough that when DH and I were getting serious and discussing our future, we had a conversation about parenting and I made sure to bring up that I could never respect a guy who behaved that way and DH wholeheartedly agreed.

Obviously, it isn't a perfect barometer of "good father" but there is a very low probability of a man being a good father if he's the type to refuse to take care of diapers ever.


Well...what incentive do any of these fathers/husbands have to get better. It's not like you'll leave...or leave the kid sitting in poo.

Win-win for them.
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2018 10:07     Subject: Dh sucks

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My brother is just like this. He has NEVER changed a poop diaper. I hate to say this about my own brother, but I've lost so much respect for him as a man. These men, it's not just diapers, they are lazy AF all around when it comes to the kids. Ots pathetic and weak. I would not blame my SIL is shes never intimate again with my brother. Hige huge turn off.

+1 It is a huge turn off, and men don't seem to get this. They think they are entitled to all the benefits of marriage but not the hard work of being a dad and good husband.


+1. Always self-centered.