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Anonymous wrote:If you do get involved with him don’t accept being last place. His kids will be a priority but you need to be one too. The relationship between the two of you needs to be nurtured or it will be a disaster if he, the kids, in laws view you as last place.

Um no you have to accept that you will be last place. No decent parent puts the new romantic partner in front of their kid. Ever. If you go into a relationship like this you shouldn’t be with someone who has kids.

You will be last place, always, and you will need to be ok hearing about the deceased wife and showing compassion. It’s not necessarily a bad thing, but going into it with an attitude that you will someone ever be equal to his kids is ridiculous. You can still have a wonderful relationship and lots of love without being first.

My DH knows that our young kids are my #1 priority and he's fine with it as he feels the same way. We still have a very active love life and have quiet time together and it all works out.

Define priority. I find people scream “ kids first!” but have little idea what that means in life?

Pretty easy - my little ones can't feed or clothe themselves and my DH is reasonably competent doing those things.

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Anonymous wrote:If you do get involved with him don’t accept being last place. His kids will be a priority but you need to be one too. The relationship between the two of you needs to be nurtured or it will be a disaster if he, the kids, in laws view you as last place.

Um no you have to accept that you will be last place. No decent parent puts the new romantic partner in front of their kid. Ever. If you go into a relationship like this you shouldn’t be with someone who has kids.

You will be last place, always, and you will need to be ok hearing about the deceased wife and showing compassion. It’s not necessarily a bad thing, but going into it with an attitude that you will someone ever be equal to his kids is ridiculous. You can still have a wonderful relationship and lots of love without being first.

My DH knows that our young kids are my #1 priority and he's fine with it as he feels the same way. We still have a very active love life and have quiet time together and it all works out.

Define priority. I find people scream “ kids first!” but have little idea what that means in life?

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Anonymous wrote:If you do get involved with him don’t accept being last place. His kids will be a priority but you need to be one too. The relationship between the two of you needs to be nurtured or it will be a disaster if he, the kids, in laws view you as last place.

Um no you have to accept that you will be last place. No decent parent puts the new romantic partner in front of their kid. Ever. If you go into a relationship like this you shouldn’t be with someone who has kids.

You will be last place, always, and you will need to be ok hearing about the deceased wife and showing compassion. It’s not necessarily a bad thing, but going into it with an attitude that you will someone ever be equal to his kids is ridiculous. You can still have a wonderful relationship and lots of love without being first.

My DH knows that our young kids are my #1 priority and he's fine with it as he feels the same way. We still have a very active love life and have quiet time together and it all works out.

BS ! If your kids were your # 1 priority you wouldn’t have husband # 2 your actual priority is yourself and everyone else is just a pawn for how they benefit you and your image your kids included.

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Anonymous wrote:If you do get involved with him don’t accept being last place. His kids will be a priority but you need to be one too. The relationship between the two of you needs to be nurtured or it will be a disaster if he, the kids, in laws view you as last place.

Um no you have to accept that you will be last place. No decent parent puts the new romantic partner in front of their kid. Ever. If you go into a relationship like this you shouldn’t be with someone who has kids.

You will be last place, always, and you will need to be ok hearing about the deceased wife and showing compassion. It’s not necessarily a bad thing, but going into it with an attitude that you will someone ever be equal to his kids is ridiculous. You can still have a wonderful relationship and lots of love without being first.

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Anonymous wrote:If you do get involved with him don’t accept being last place. His kids will be a priority but you need to be one too. The relationship between the two of you needs to be nurtured or it will be a disaster if he, the kids, in laws view you as last place.

Um no you have to accept that you will be last place. No decent parent puts the new romantic partner in front of their kid. Ever. If you go into a relationship like this you shouldn’t be with someone who has kids.

You will be last place, always, and you will need to be ok hearing about the deceased wife and showing compassion. It’s not necessarily a bad thing, but going into it with an attitude that you will someone ever be equal to his kids is ridiculous. You can still have a wonderful relationship and lots of love without being first.

My DH knows that our young kids are my #1 priority and he's fine with it as he feels the same way. We still have a very active love life and have quiet time together and it all works out.

Anonymous wrote:I'm a nanny and for me this would be great. I never married and don't have kids, and my goal is to meet a nice DILF!

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Anonymous wrote:If you do get involved with him don’t accept being last place. His kids will be a priority but you need to be one too. The relationship between the two of you needs to be nurtured or it will be a disaster if he, the kids, in laws view you as last place.

Um no you have to accept that you will be last place. No decent parent puts the new romantic partner in front of their kid. Ever. If you go into a relationship like this you shouldn’t be with someone who has kids.

You will be last place, always, and you will need to be ok hearing about the deceased wife and showing compassion. It’s not necessarily a bad thing, but going into it with an attitude that you will someone ever be equal to his kids is ridiculous. You can still have a wonderful relationship and lots of love without being first.

My DH knows that our young kids are my #1 priority and he's fine with it as he feels the same way. We still have a very active love life and have quiet time together and it all works out.

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Anonymous wrote:If you do get involved with him don’t accept being last place. His kids will be a priority but you need to be one too. The relationship between the two of you needs to be nurtured or it will be a disaster if he, the kids, in laws view you as last place.

Um no you have to accept that you will be last place. No decent parent puts the new romantic partner in front of their kid. Ever. If you go into a relationship like this you shouldn’t be with someone who has kids.

You will be last place, always, and you will need to be ok hearing about the deceased wife and showing compassion. It’s not necessarily a bad thing, but going into it with an attitude that you will someone ever be equal to his kids is ridiculous. You can still have a wonderful relationship and lots of love without being first.

My DH knows that our young kids are my #1 priority and he's fine with it as he feels the same way. We still have a very active love life and have quiet time together and it all works out.

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Anonymous wrote:If you do get involved with him don’t accept being last place. His kids will be a priority but you need to be one too. The relationship between the two of you needs to be nurtured or it will be a disaster if he, the kids, in laws view you as last place.

Um no you have to accept that you will be last place. No decent parent puts the new romantic partner in front of their kid. Ever. If you go into a relationship like this you shouldn’t be with someone who has kids.

You will be last place, always, and you will need to be ok hearing about the deceased wife and showing compassion. It’s not necessarily a bad thing, but going into it with an attitude that you will someone ever be equal to his kids is ridiculous. You can still have a wonderful relationship and lots of love without being first.

Anonymous wrote:I would think differently if you were in your 20s even early 30s but I think once you have passed mid 30s dating/ marrying a man with kids should not be a shock. My only advice is don’t allow all your time to be family time. His free time will be limited but it’s important to see him a way from the kids. It’s easy to fall in love with kids if you’re a kid person and a guy who is a good dad, but you really need to see how you fit with him outside of that. Loving his adorable kids can make it easy to ignore important things and stay around longer than you should. I know btdt. Take it slow and be honest with yourself.