These were the exact ages my husband and I were when we met. Im older. We are happy as clams with two kids, and married over a decade. The previous three PPs have it right - it's so much more important how you work together, not your exact ages. I wasn't interested in dating someone so much younger at first, but when I realized that in our case it was the ONLY thing holding me back - that we had amazing conversations, mutual attraction, similar values and he made me laugh all the time, I got over myself and made the best decision of my life.

People- just focus on what you like about he other, and what brings you together, not so much how you are different. Love lies in the commonality and recognition and understanding of one another. Or at least a more satisfying relationship.

Anonymous wrote:When I was 22 I fell in love with someone who was 34. We played on the same sports team and loved hanging out together- sense of humor and strong draw. Now I am 42 and we are still in love. Age sometimes matters and sometimes doesn’t- it’s couple by couple. Background, upbringing, values, attraction to one another are all way WAY more important data than age. Enjoy more, over-analyze less.

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If you need to analyze it so much, you are not into him enough and therefore yes, you should focus on someone closer to your age.

Signed a woman that married man 13 years her senior because she was madly in love

When I was 22 I fell in love with someone who was 34. We played on the same sports team and loved hanging out together- sense of humor and strong draw. Now I am 42 and we are still in love. Age sometimes matters and sometimes doesn’t- it’s couple by couple. Background, upbringing, values, attraction to one another are all way WAY more important data than age. Enjoy more, over-analyze less.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it’s okay if it’s the man who is older.

Your sexist. Personally, I would not want to date a 25 year old man if I was 35 but, you are being ridiculous.

LOL the kettle calling the pot black

How is wanting to date someone my age ( within three years) hypocritical?

The age difference isn't an issue if the maturity levels are similar and you agree on life goals such as careers and child bearing and when to do it. I think a 15 year difference is the breakpoint for a whole slew of reasons.

Anonymous wrote:This is probably a normal age difference prior to about 1970. Men were expected to be over their "wild oats," well established and able to earn a living, women needed to still be of childbearing age.

I don’t know about 1970, especially in the USA, but large age gaps have been the norm at different times and places throughout history.

I think age gaps correlate with income inequality. In higher inequality times, people value economic security, which favors older, more established men. In the mid 20th century USA, income inequality was low, so I’d guess that age gaps were smaller as there was less concern about a man’s ability to provide. Inequality has been growing since around 1970, actually