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Anonymous wrote:FCPS is messed up. When DC Left it 2 years back we got weekly emails from his class teacher all through the school year.

Totally off topic, but why in the world is a weekly class email "messed up"?

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Anonymous wrote:Here's what you've learned about yourself, OP: you value feeling seen, heard, acknowledged, and remembered as much as you value the quality of your child's education. You will be better-served by paying for a smaller school system and student body.

However, it might also be worth taking to heart that it didn't even occur to you that there could be an occasion when acknowledging you, when you're doing just fine, might be a disservice to others who need resources more than you. This will come up again sometime when you are involved with a large organization of some kind. Work on thinking the best of people, and projecting outward, instead or wondering why they don't seem to care enough to make you feel good.

OP here. Thank you - to say it again, it was not about making us feel good. We were just looking for a simple "Thanks for letting us know" kind of acknowledgement from the registrar/principal/someone - nothing else. We understand now the differences in the public and private school system are a LOT, in every sense. Not to imply in any sense one is better than the other - but we were just used to one and expected the same from the other.[i][u]

But why in the world would you expect the same thing from a small private school for which you are paying tens of thousands of dollars as you would from a large school that is free? A large part of what you are paying for is acknowledgement and hand holding. That is something you value, and that's fine if you have the money to spend to ensure you get that.
But expecting the experiences to be the same is like expecting the cashier at Target to give you the same service as the stylist at Nordstrom. It's just not going to happen, and it's a little unusual to expect that.

New poster here. Well, to be fair to OP, we *do* always hear how wonderful, how vaunted, how absolutely terrific the Fairfax County public school system is. But now everyone is saying, "Whoa, settle down now! It's so big! There are so many kids! They're so busy! Lower your expectations!" So, which is it?? (?)

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Anonymous wrote:Here's what you've learned about yourself, OP: you value feeling seen, heard, acknowledged, and remembered as much as you value the quality of your child's education. You will be better-served by paying for a smaller school system and student body.

However, it might also be worth taking to heart that it didn't even occur to you that there could be an occasion when acknowledging you, when you're doing just fine, might be a disservice to others who need resources more than you. This will come up again sometime when you are involved with a large organization of some kind. Work on thinking the best of people, and projecting outward, instead or wondering why they don't seem to care enough to make you feel good.

OP here. Thank you - to say it again, it was not about making us feel good. We were just looking for a simple "Thanks for letting us know" kind of acknowledgement from the registrar/principal/someone - nothing else. We understand now the differences in the public and private school system are a LOT, in every sense. Not to imply in any sense one is better than the other - but we were just used to one and expected the same from the other.[i][u]

But why in the world would you expect the same thing from a small private school for which you are paying tens of thousands of dollars as you would from a large school that is free? A large part of what you are paying for is acknowledgement and hand holding. That is something you value, and that's fine if you have the money to spend to ensure you get that.
But expecting the experiences to be the same is like expecting the cashier at Target to give you the same service as the stylist at Nordstrom. It's just not going to happen, and it's a little unusual to expect that.

New poster here. Well, to be fair to OP, we *do* always hear how wonderful, how vaunted, how absolutely terrific the Fairfax County public school system is. But now everyone is saying, "Whoa, settle down now! It's so big! There are so many kids! They're so busy! Lower your expectations!" So, which is it?? (?)

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Anonymous wrote:Here's what you've learned about yourself, OP: you value feeling seen, heard, acknowledged, and remembered as much as you value the quality of your child's education. You will be better-served by paying for a smaller school system and student body.

However, it might also be worth taking to heart that it didn't even occur to you that there could be an occasion when acknowledging you, when you're doing just fine, might be a disservice to others who need resources more than you. This will come up again sometime when you are involved with a large organization of some kind. Work on thinking the best of people, and projecting outward, instead or wondering why they don't seem to care enough to make you feel good.

OP here. Thank you - to say it again, it was not about making us feel good. We were just looking for a simple "Thanks for letting us know" kind of acknowledgement from the registrar/principal/someone - nothing else. We understand now the differences in the public and private school system are a LOT, in every sense. Not to imply in any sense one is better than the other - but we were just used to one and expected the same from the other.[i][u]

But why in the world would you expect the same thing from a small private school for which you are paying tens of thousands of dollars as you would from a large school that is free? A large part of what you are paying for is acknowledgement and hand holding. That is something you value, and that's fine if you have the money to spend to ensure you get that.
But expecting the experiences to be the same is like expecting the cashier at Target to give you the same service as the stylist at Nordstrom. It's just not going to happen, and it's a little unusual to expect that.

Anonymous wrote:FCPS is messed up. When DC Left it 2 years back we got weekly emails from his class teacher all through the school year.

Anonymous wrote:FCPS is messed up. When DC Left it 2 years back we got weekly emails from his class teacher all through the school year.

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Anonymous wrote:Here's what you've learned about yourself, OP: you value feeling seen, heard, acknowledged, and remembered as much as you value the quality of your child's education. You will be better-served by paying for a smaller school system and student body.

However, it might also be worth taking to heart that it didn't even occur to you that there could be an occasion when acknowledging you, when you're doing just fine, might be a disservice to others who need resources more than you. This will come up again sometime when you are involved with a large organization of some kind. Work on thinking the best of people, and projecting outward, instead or wondering why they don't seem to care enough to make you feel good.

OP here. Thank you - to say it again, it was not about making us feel good. We were just looking for a simple "Thanks for letting us know" kind of acknowledgement from the registrar/principal/someone - nothing else. We understand now the differences in the public and private school system are a LOT, in every sense. Not to imply in any sense one is better than the other - but we were just used to one and expected the same from the other.[i][u]

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Anonymous wrote:Here's what you've learned about yourself, OP: you value feeling seen, heard, acknowledged, and remembered as much as you value the quality of your child's education. You will be better-served by paying for a smaller school system and student body.

However, it might also be worth taking to heart that it didn't even occur to you that there could be an occasion when acknowledging you, when you're doing just fine, might be a disservice to others who need resources more than you. This will come up again sometime when you are involved with a large organization of some kind. Work on thinking the best of people, and projecting outward, instead or wondering why they don't seem to care enough to make you feel good.

OP here. Thank you - to say it again, it was not about making us feel good. We were just looking for a simple "Thanks for letting us know" kind of acknowledgement from the registrar/principal/someone - nothing else. We understand now the differences in the public and private school system are a LOT, in every sense. Not to imply in any sense one is better than the other - but we were just used to one and expected the same from the other.

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Anonymous wrote:It's kind of funny that OP has two kids who previously attended private school (at least $40K for the two per year), and is sending her kids back to private school (another bill for $40K this year)... and yet, she expects to get $80 of school supplies back.

Stop jumping on her - she wrote above did not want them back.

She says that now, but a few minutes earlier, she admitted that she sent two emails and one was specifically addressed to the teacher(s) in order to GET THE SUPPLIES BACK.

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Op here. Here are the 2 emails sent with no response
1. Email sent to Principal/Registrar about withdrawing one child from Public school to move him to private - no reply/response - nothing. Not a word !!! They have deleted the student accounts etc. though so we know they have received our email.
2. Email sent to class teacher about collecting the school supplies from the class - not a word back from the teacher again

Her question though was " Is it normal to have no acknowledgement of emails in Public Schools". Am sure she is not crying over $80 of supplies when her kids are in private. Its the lack of response that she is questioning

DP. I don't expect email responses from teachers during the school day. I do expect to receive a response within a day or two, and usually I do.

Sure, you should absolutely expect to receive a response within a day or two from your child's teacher. But this isn't the kid's teacher.
And the teacher in question is probably really annoyed at the family right now anyway. She spent the last few weeks getting the class together based on the numbers and class list she was given, including OPs kids. So the pretty hand drawn locker name tags, and the thought out desk setup to make sure that each desk set has the same boy/girl ratio, and the packets of intro paper with the kids names pre-printed, and the well organized school supplies... it's all slightly off now. Not a big deal. The teacher will quickly and easily adjust, I'm sure. But there was definitely time and money spent to get the classroom ready for OP's kids, that would have been better spent elsewhere. So the teacher is now focusing on her actual students. As it should be.

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Anonymous wrote:It's kind of funny that OP has two kids who previously attended private school (at least $40K for the two per year), and is sending her kids back to private school (another bill for $40K this year)... and yet, she expects to get $80 of school supplies back.

Stop jumping on her - she wrote above did not want them back.

She says that now, but a few minutes earlier, she admitted that she sent two emails and one was specifically addressed to the teacher(s) in order to GET THE SUPPLIES BACK.

I quote:

Op here. Here are the 2 emails sent with no response
1. Email sent to Principal/Registrar about withdrawing one child from Public school to move him to private - no reply/response - nothing. Not a word !!! They have deleted the student accounts etc. though so we know they have received our email.
2. Email sent to class teacher about collecting the school supplies from the class - not a word back from the teacher again

Her question though was " Is it normal to have no acknowledgement of emails in Public Schools". Am sure she is not crying over $80 of supplies when her kids are in private. Its the lack of response that she is questioning

DP. I don't expect email responses from teachers during the school day. I do expect to receive a response within a day or two, and usually I do.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. Here are the 2 emails sent with no response
1. Email sent to Principal/Registrar about withdrawing one child from Public school to move him to private - no reply/response - nothing. Not a word !!! They have deleted the student accounts etc. though so we know they have received our email.
2. Email sent to class teacher about collecting the school supplies from the class - not a word back from the teacher again

The first one, it seems like they did what you asked them to do. The person who received your email probably forwarded it to the person in charge of removing the child from their system, and a person got it done. It’s a really busy time, remember, a public school is a huge monster compared to a private school. So the first week or so they’re trying to be as efficient as possible. No need to respond. For the second, how long have you been waiting for the teacher to respond? Today is only the second day of school. Honestly, most of my children’s teachers are extremely fast at responding. My daughter had one older teacher who just didn’t do emails very well. She rarely responded, but she was my daughter’s favorite teacher. I figured out, by speaking with other parents whose children had had her, that the best thing was to send a written note with your child. She would send written notes right back with my child. She was just an older lady who was a fantastic teacher, but just not great with technology. Give the teacher a chance. I would wait a day or so and maybe gently ask again.