Anonymous
Post 08/07/2018 20:43     Subject: Boyfriend let ex-wife stay at his house
Anonymous wrote:OP here: I’m not upset that she’s staying at the house. Like I said, it’s her house. They have no intention of selling anytime soon, I understand all that. What bothered me was that he didn’t think to tell his partner of 2 years that his ex-wife would be sleeping in his house for three nights. To me that’s a big deal.


He did tell you, that's how you know. What you are upset about is that he didn't tell you beforehand which may sound to him like you want him asking your permission. I mean, go ahead and bring it up, but be prepared for all outcomes.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2018 20:39     Subject: Re:Boyfriend let ex-wife stay at his house
I agree there are probably many valid circumstances that would result in her staying there, but the fact that he didn’t tell you about is worrisome. What else may he “forget “ to mention?

I’m sorry OP.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2018 20:38     Subject: Boyfriend let ex-wife stay at his house
Anonymous wrote:OP here: I’m not upset that she’s staying at the house. Like I said, it’s her house. They have no intention of selling anytime soon, I understand all that. What bothered me was that he didn’t think to tell his partner of 2 years that his ex-wife would be sleeping in his house for three nights. To me that’s a big deal.


He probably thought his ex wife sleeping at their house for three nights wasn't a big deal... and that you will create drama over it. It's tough enough dealing with an ex with shared custody and a co owned house without your girlfriend creating additional drama.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2018 20:27     Subject: Boyfriend let ex-wife stay at his house
OP here: I’m not upset that she’s staying at the house. Like I said, it’s her house. They have no intention of selling anytime soon, I understand all that. What bothered me was that he didn’t think to tell his partner of 2 years that his ex-wife would be sleeping in his house for three nights. To me that’s a big deal.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2018 20:23     Subject: Boyfriend let ex-wife stay at his house
Why does the ex need to stay three nights. Overnight, maybe.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2018 20:21     Subject: Boyfriend let ex-wife stay at his house
Anonymous wrote:It’s not so much she’s staying with her ex, she’s staying with her kid. I don’t think you’re mature enough for this relationship, OP.


He can stay with the OP during the exam stay.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2018 20:15     Subject: Boyfriend let ex-wife stay at his house
It’s not so much she’s staying with her ex, she’s staying with her kid. I don’t think you’re mature enough for this relationship, OP.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2018 20:13     Subject: Boyfriend let ex-wife stay at his house
Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't like it but I would be easy about creating drama here because a GOOD man may not choose you and drama over a good relationship with his child's mother.




Good point!
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2018 20:06     Subject: Boyfriend let ex-wife stay at his house
I wouldn't like it but I would be easy about creating drama here because a GOOD man may not choose you and drama over a good relationship with his child's mother.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2018 19:58     Subject: Boyfriend let ex-wife stay at his house
This is not a big deal. She owns the house. She is the mother of the kids. It is not confusing. She will always be in his life. They are divorced. So what if she stays in the house she owns when she visits? Grow up. There are many reasons people do not sell houses after divorce.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2018 19:41     Subject: Boyfriend let ex-wife stay at his house
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why is the house still in both their names two years after the divorce?


This. This is bad news.


$800,000 house with co-owners. To solo-title it one would have to buy out the other. Or both agree to sell - but with kids in the same school district you can't afford either option.



Don't enter into monogamous long-term relationships if you are not finished divorcing. You can wait. Long term, monogamous
relationship come with expectations. Or, date people on similar circumstances.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2018 19:36     Subject: Re:Boyfriend let ex-wife stay at his house
OP dump him.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2018 19:35     Subject: Re:Boyfriend let ex-wife stay at his house
As long as they're sleeping in different bedrooms, it's fine.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2018 19:33     Subject: Boyfriend let ex-wife stay at his house
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why is the house still in both their names two years after the divorce?


This. This is bad news.


$800,000 house with co-owners. To solo-title it one would have to buy out the other. Or both agree to sell - but with kids in the same school district you can't afford either option.

Anonymous
Post 08/07/2018 19:26     Subject: Boyfriend let ex-wife stay at his house
Divorced people should complete their divorce before starting monogamous long-term relationships.