Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm so sad and angry that people think you are a troll. I live in 22207, and we've watched with horror as our principal and assistant principal have ignored and dismissed bullying. Please press ahead. Email the asst superintendent for administrative services, the director of special education, and his boss, the asst superintendent for learning and instruction. Go to the Arlington Special Education Advisory Committee (ASEAC) and ask for help. Your child is entitled to an appropriate placement, which by definition should be a safe one.

Children in APS have gotten transfers because of bullying. You social worker should know how it's done. If you post on the SN board, people may know more about the process. But I think the reality is that persistence pays off.

https://www.apsva.us/wp-content/uploads/2018/06/Transfer-Report-2017-18.pdf

I posted that and later apologized.

The reason it seemed suspect is that I was incredulous that there is a school in northern VA that is as monolithic as OP said (only 2 non whites in her daughter's grade).

Everywhere we go around here seems very diverse and the younger grades are especially diverse.

We are in fcps though and never have a reason to be in north Arlington.

Anonymous wrote:I'm so sad and angry that people think you are a troll. I live in 22207, and we've watched with horror as our principal and assistant principal have ignored and dismissed bullying. Please press ahead. Email the asst superintendent for administrative services, the director of special education, and his boss, the asst superintendent for learning and instruction. Go to the Arlington Special Education Advisory Committee (ASEAC) and ask for help. Your child is entitled to an appropriate placement, which by definition should be a safe one.

Children in APS have gotten transfers because of bullying. You social worker should know how it's done. If you post on the SN board, people may know more about the process. But I think the reality is that persistence pays off.

https://www.apsva.us/wp-content/uploads/2018/06/Transfer-Report-2017-18.pdf

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Assuming this is real, I would seriously consider Catholic school. I have friends with kids at St Thomas Moore and they're very happy there. We're at a different Catholic school outside the beltway, and I couldn't imagine such things being tolerated there.

I wouldn't do this. There are very few Black kids in Catholic school and catholic religion in general is looked at with suspicion. You aren't doing her any favors there. I wouldn't care how big the house or how long you saved. You are living among aggressive racists who are doing real harm to your child. Is the house worth it?

You need to get her out of the school by whatever means necessary and engage the black parent/his family to correct this immediately. This child is heading down a lifelong path of self hatred.

Oh the irony! In a thread about prejudice!!!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm so sorry this is happening to your daughter. Humans can be so cruel. And this wouldn't at all surprise me to be happening in 22207. Twice this year I've had to loudly intervene when white grandparents at the local playground have been overly aggressive w/the few AA kids that play there. There are literally two AA families who use the playground, and both have been told their kids are too loud, too aggressive, shouldn't be playing near the babies when none of that has been true at all. If anyone thinks the 22207 is immune to bias, implicit or express, they are naive. I'm so sorry.

No one is saying 22207 is immune, people are just saying OP's account isn't factually consistent with the schools where she says she lives. So either she's exaggerating the circumstances (and made one or two other factual errors), which isn't constructive if she's sincerely looking for advice, or she's outright making stuff up to throw shade at a school (and it's really easy to figure out which school she's pointing to).

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Assuming this is real, I would seriously consider Catholic school. I have friends with kids at St Thomas Moore and they're very happy there. We're at a different Catholic school outside the beltway, and I couldn't imagine such things being tolerated there.

I wouldn't do this. There are very few Black kids in Catholic school and catholic religion in general is looked at with suspicion. You aren't doing her any favors there. I wouldn't care how big the house or how long you saved. You are living among aggressive racists who are doing real harm to your child. Is the house worth it?

You need to get her out of the school by whatever means necessary and engage the black parent/his family to correct this immediately. This child is heading down a lifelong path of self hatred.

Oh the irony! In a thread about prejudice!!!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, we could afford N. Arlington but didn't buy there exactly because of this reason, the schools are too white. In all probability the white folks living in 22207 are perfectly nice people but the stress of being just 6-7 people of color in a school is too much for kids and very isolating. N. Arlington is too segregated, you need to move. We ended up buying in Haycock/Longfellow/McLean. Also, my experience could be a little different because we are South Asian, not black but POC nevertheless.

I would never suggest 22207 to a POC, it's just not a healthy place for kids of minorities.

They can't be all that nice if so many children are bullying OP's daughter. Even if these kids didn't explicitly learn it at home, their parents aren't correcting it. And let's say the parents don't know -- the school is doing nothing. School culture comes from somewhere.

She said two girls were bullying her child, not “many.” Obviously kids in kindergarten or first grade expressing curiosity about differences between OP’s child and themselves will make OP’s kid uncomfortable and those kids need to be taught why that’s not appropriate, but that’s not the same thing as bullying.

Did you read what OP wrote? These kids are not "expressing curiosity about differences" -- according to OP they are saying nasty things to her daughter about her appearance and expressly telling her she looks dirty.

There's a big difference.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, we could afford N. Arlington but didn't buy there exactly because of this reason, the schools are too white. In all probability the white folks living in 22207 are perfectly nice people but the stress of being just 6-7 people of color in a school is too much for kids and very isolating. N. Arlington is too segregated, you need to move. We ended up buying in Haycock/Longfellow/McLean. Also, my experience could be a little different because we are South Asian, not black but POC nevertheless.

I would never suggest 22207 to a POC, it's just not a healthy place for kids of minorities.

They can't be all that nice if so many children are bullying OP's daughter. Even if these kids didn't explicitly learn it at home, their parents aren't correcting it. And let's say the parents don't know -- the school is doing nothing. School culture comes from somewhere.

She said two girls were bullying her child, not “many.” Obviously kids in kindergarten or first grade expressing curiosity about differences between OP’s child and themselves will make OP’s kid uncomfortable and those kids need to be taught why that’s not appropriate, but that’s not the same thing as bullying.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, we could afford N. Arlington but didn't buy there exactly because of this reason, the schools are too white. In all probability the white folks living in 22207 are perfectly nice people but the stress of being just 6-7 people of color in a school is too much for kids and very isolating. N. Arlington is too segregated, you need to move. We ended up buying in Haycock/Longfellow/McLean. Also, my experience could be a little different because we are South Asian, not black but POC nevertheless.

I would never suggest 22207 to a POC, it's just not a healthy place for kids of minorities.

They can't be all that nice if so many children are bullying OP's daughter. Even if these kids didn't explicitly learn it at home, their parents aren't correcting it. And let's say the parents don't know -- the school is doing nothing. School culture comes from somewhere.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Assuming this is real, I would seriously consider Catholic school. I have friends with kids at St Thomas Moore and they're very happy there. We're at a different Catholic school outside the beltway, and I couldn't imagine such things being tolerated there.

I wouldn't do this. There are very few Black kids in Catholic school and catholic religion in general is looked at with suspicion. You aren't doing her any favors there. I wouldn't care how big the house or how long you saved. You are living among aggressive racists who are doing real harm to your child. Is the house worth it?

You need to get her out of the school by whatever means necessary and engage the black parent/his family to correct this immediately. This child is heading down a lifelong path of self hatred.

Anonymous wrote:OP, we could afford N. Arlington but didn't buy there exactly because of this reason, the schools are too white. In all probability the white folks living in 22207 are perfectly nice people but the stress of being just 6-7 people of color in a school is too much for kids and very isolating. N. Arlington is too segregated, you need to move. We ended up buying in Haycock/Longfellow/McLean. Also, my experience could be a little different because we are South Asian, not black but POC nevertheless.

I would never suggest 22207 to a POC, it's just not a healthy place for kids of minorities.

Anonymous wrote:Assuming this is real, I would seriously consider Catholic school. I have friends with kids at St Thomas Moore and they're very happy there. We're at a different Catholic school outside the beltway, and I couldn't imagine such things being tolerated there.