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Anonymous wrote:Divorced single 43yr old female—with kids.
I try to have it twice a week but I always want more. Scheduling is a bitch when you’re divorced and single and the primary physical parent of two little kids.

I'm curious with whom you are scheduling it.

Why?

I’m curious too. It’s so we can learn where to get sex when divorced on the regular. What’s the secret?

Yes, let us know.

I’m the poster who wrote this. I have two regular fwbs. I go months without seeing one and just the other and vice a versa. This has been going on for 3yrs. I like both of them very much as people and we keep in touch very closely. It isn’t ideal but sex wise, it does the trick. I would much prefer to be in a long term relationship but I have yet to meet someone I want to date (other than these guys).

Another divorced 40 old mom here - This sounds like a nice setup! However, are these guys single? I find that only married men seem to want a setup like this and I am not going there.

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Anonymous wrote:DH here. For me, twice a week is the bare minimum for a satisfactory sex life. Once a week (minus her period week) is what I get. That's like slowly starving to death.

She'd be happy with once a month. With me, at least.

This summarized what I hate about married sex. It’s becomes about obligation instead of desire. “Slowly starving to death”. Oh the drama!

I am a very horny woman. I still don’t want to be treated like a daily or weekly routine biological function. I want to miss my partner and be really *hungry* by the time we do it again. Not feel like a whiny man baby is going to be grumpy without using me for his daily orgasm like a kleenex. Which is what married sex seems like.

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You sound...unhinged.

Well if she’s unhinged, so am I. I feel the exact same way. My DH wants/expects it every night. 7 nights a week. It’s just something else on my to do list for me. I’m just as passionate about it as I am brushing my teeth every night.

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Anonymous wrote:DH here. For me, twice a week is the bare minimum for a satisfactory sex life. Once a week (minus her period week) is what I get. That's like slowly starving to death.

She'd be happy with once a month. With me, at least.

This summarized what I hate about married sex. It’s becomes about obligation instead of desire. “Slowly starving to death”. Oh the drama!

I am a very horny woman. I still don’t want to be treated like a daily or weekly routine biological function. I want to miss my partner and be really *hungry* by the time we do it again. Not feel like a whiny man baby is going to be grumpy without using me for his daily orgasm like a kleenex. Which is what married sex seems like.

You sound...unhinged.

Well if she’s unhinged, so am I. I feel the exact same way. My DH wants/expects it every night. 7 nights a week. It’s just something else on my to do list for me. I’m just as passionate about it as I am brushing my teeth every night.

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Anonymous wrote:50yo man here. Perfect for me would be 3-4X per week. Perfect for her is 3-4X per year. (not a typo). We compromised to 2X per week.

Im not judging you but its occured to me that messages we send to single women, espcially college women is that no one should engage in sex unless you are certain you are getting an "enthusiastic yes" from her or else its not truly consensual. but for married women, its the exact opposite-just do it even if you don't want to. Because it makes HIM happy. We would never approve of that marriage to younger women just dating.

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Anonymous wrote:Divorced single 43yr old female—with kids.
I try to have it twice a week but I always want more. Scheduling is a bitch when you’re divorced and single and the primary physical parent of two little kids.

I'm curious with whom you are scheduling it.

Why?

I’m curious too. It’s so we can learn where to get sex when divorced on the regular. What’s the secret?

Yes, let us know.

I’m the poster who wrote this. I have two regular fwbs. I go months without seeing one and just the other and vice a versa. This has been going on for 3yrs. I like both of them very much as people and we keep in touch very closely. It isn’t ideal but sex wise, it does the trick. I would much prefer to be in a long term relationship but I have yet to meet someone I want to date (other than these guys).

Anonymous wrote:46 yr woman—- I would be ok with 1 x week—- but sadly we do once a month at best. Small kids and busy lives... husband has very low sex drive.

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Anonymous wrote:Divorced single 43yr old female—with kids.
I try to have it twice a week but I always want more. Scheduling is a bitch when you’re divorced and single and the primary physical parent of two little kids.

I'm curious with whom you are scheduling it.

Why?

I’m curious too. It’s so we can learn where to get sex when divorced on the regular. What’s the secret?

Yes, let us know.

I’m the poster who wrote this. I have two regular fwbs. I go months without seeing one and just the other and vice a versa. This has been going on for 3yrs. I like both of them very much as people and we keep in touch very closely. It isn’t ideal but sex wise, it does the trick. I would much prefer to be in a long term relationship but I have yet to meet someone I want to date (other than these guys).

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Anonymous wrote:Divorced single 43yr old female—with kids.
I try to have it twice a week but I always want more. Scheduling is a bitch when you’re divorced and single and the primary physical parent of two little kids.

I'm curious with whom you are scheduling it.

Why?

I’m curious too. It’s so we can learn where to get sex when divorced on the regular. What’s the secret?

Yes, let us know.

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Anonymous wrote:I am totally jealous of most of you. I am in the a few times a year category. My DS always makes excuses and it stinks. When we do have sex, it’s all great and then there is a second or third outing soon thereafter. And then DS packs it in. I am a total horny mess. Up until a few years ago, lots of attractive folks still hit on me, hard. I am now a frustrated mess, literally and figuratively. DS is now using that as an excuse to say no.

I never thought my life would take this turn. While it is not everything, lack of sex and sexual rejection just stinks.

At least there is porn.

Just so I’m clear, you’re having sex with your son??

I'm pretty sure S stands for spouse.....but I could be wrong!

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Anonymous wrote:DH here. For me, twice a week is the bare minimum for a satisfactory sex life. Once a week (minus her period week) is what I get. That's like slowly starving to death.

She'd be happy with once a month. With me, at least.

This summarized what I hate about married sex. It’s becomes about obligation instead of desire. “Slowly starving to death”. Oh the drama!

I am a very horny woman. I still don’t want to be treated like a daily or weekly routine biological function. I want to miss my partner and be really *hungry* by the time we do it again. Not feel like a whiny man baby is going to be grumpy without using me for his daily orgasm like a kleenex. Which is what married sex seems like.

You sound...unhinged.