Anonymous
Post 06/28/2018 21:59     Subject: Re:my wife's thin skin
OP is the problem in this relationship.

Agree with the other posters, he sounds like a dick.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2018 21:49     Subject: Re:my wife's thin skin
OP, you don't sound controlling but you donsssm to be an overthinker. She is probably frustrated because if she leaves something to you it will never get done. My spouse usually dislikes decor that I choose but I stopped asking his opinion because he could never express to me what he liked. If you didn't like what she chose you should have immediately came back woth an example of something you liked. This looking at stuff together thing is a waste of time and energy.

The driving is another issue. She likely doesn't want your judgement if something happens to the kids while she is driving. Good advice but probably not worth your istress.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2018 21:32     Subject: Re:my wife's thin skin
Thin-skinned lousy driver? Indian.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2018 19:19     Subject: my wife's thin skin
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What country is she from?


Not relevant, Donald.


I wonder if she’s SE Asian too.


Really? I think she sounds German.



The German women I know do everything well and are tough to boot!


Right. I bet the chair she picked out was fine, and she’s a better driver than her husband.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2018 19:18     Subject: my wife's thin skin
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What country is she from?


Not relevant, Donald.


I wonder if she’s SE Asian too.


Really? I think she sounds German.



The German women I know do everything well and are tough to boot!


I know! There’s a reason the most popular au pairs are German. Because they are awesome.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2018 19:14     Subject: my wife's thin skin
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The way you write it sure sounds like she's overreacting, but ask yourself whether you are frequently critical. Sometimes it's not that you didn't like the chair she picked, it's that you criticized the last 17 things she's suggested or done, and this is just the last straw. Or that you frequently criticize without offering alternatives (so that "let's consider alternatives" really means "you go find some more options for me to consider") so she's making all the suggestions and you're just shooting them down, rather than you offering alternatives.

Also consider your tone. You might think that the words you are saying are totally reasonable, but your tone might be coming across as condescending, abrupt, sharp, etc.

And the driving thing makes it sound like you don't really trust her judgment, and that vibe gets old fast, too.



THIS! Great response.....


Agree. DH is kinda like this.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2018 19:07     Subject: my wife's thin skin
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You sound controlling, tbh.


How, exactly?



Read back a couple of posts. Pp called it criticism. That, but in a dickish manner and he probably talks down to her, too.


So I should have let me wife drive my kids around despite the fact that she hadn't been behind the wheel in 10 years, and despite the fact she had never before driven in the USA?

A parent's first duty is to keep his or her children safe. I would never gamble with a child's life.

Now that she has experience on USA roads, I'm fine with her driving the kids around. So the "control" that I wanted to exert was solely to ensure the safety of my kids.



You're proving me right! Look, I agree about the safety of kids being #1; however, you come off as a dick.


I can’t pinpoint why but I agree he sounds like a dick.



Trust your gut, pp.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2018 19:04     Subject: my wife's thin skin
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What country is she from?


Not relevant, Donald.


I wonder if she’s SE Asian too.


Really? I think she sounds German.



The German women I know do everything well and are tough to boot!
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2018 18:35     Subject: my wife's thin skin
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous forum story-telling: a lot like rules-lawyering.

Lots of shade, fine point word choice, and posturing. It's an art. You can tell a story and juuuuust skirt the edge of having to share anything not in your favor, if you're lucky. And if you're good at it.


What are you rambling on about? Or wrong forum.


Oh, OP.

This is a relationship which would put everyone in a better place if you dissolved it. Obvious.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2018 18:25     Subject: my wife's thin skin
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What country is she from?


Not relevant, Donald.


I wonder if she’s SE Asian too.


Really? I think she sounds German.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2018 18:24     Subject: Re:my wife's thin skin
You’re right, OP. Divorce your wife. And make sure your children only get supervised visitation with her. It sounds like this woman doesn’t care about the safety of her children at all. Mothers like this make me sick.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2018 18:23     Subject: my wife's thin skin
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous forum story-telling: a lot like rules-lawyering.

Lots of shade, fine point word choice, and posturing. It's an art. You can tell a story and juuuuust skirt the edge of having to share anything not in your favor, if you're lucky. And if you're good at it.


What are you rambling on about? Or wrong forum.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2018 18:19     Subject: my wife's thin skin
Anonymous forum story-telling: a lot like rules-lawyering.

Lots of shade, fine point word choice, and posturing. It's an art. You can tell a story and juuuuust skirt the edge of having to share anything not in your favor, if you're lucky. And if you're good at it.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2018 18:15     Subject: my wife's thin skin
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What country is she from?


Not relevant, Donald.


I wonder if she’s SE Asian too.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2018 18:14     Subject: my wife's thin skin
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You sound controlling, tbh.


How, exactly?



Read back a couple of posts. Pp called it criticism. That, but in a dickish manner and he probably talks down to her, too.


So I should have let me wife drive my kids around despite the fact that she hadn't been behind the wheel in 10 years, and despite the fact she had never before driven in the USA?

A parent's first duty is to keep his or her children safe. I would never gamble with a child's life.

Now that she has experience on USA roads, I'm fine with her driving the kids around. So the "control" that I wanted to exert was solely to ensure the safety of my kids.



You're proving me right! Look, I agree about the safety of kids being #1; however, you come off as a dick.


I can’t pinpoint why but I agree he sounds like a dick.