Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A two-year-old does not need a party with upwards of 40 people in attendance. That's just insane.

That said, people who don't RSVP are total schmucks.

NP. I agree that having a party for a 2 year old is ridiculous. It's clearly for the mother. A few balloons and a cake and present with siblings and grandparents is fine and more than enough for a 2 year old. Expecting people with lives to attend is incredibly self absorbed. OP said they attended and supported her last year, and a 2 year old is too young to really understand or remember a party.

I agree that it's very rude to not RSVP, but OP is clearly a special snowflake with special entitlement issues, so I can imagine that people just feel strange about saying no and are waiting to see if they can get a better excuse. They can probably figure out that she'll hold it against them forever and are trying to prevent that if they can.

OP should realize that she was expecting far too much, cancel the party (in a NICE way, not by throwing a tantrum) and do one in a couple of years when it actually makes sense.

This is the stupidest post I've read on DCUM in a while (and that's saying a lot.) Parties are fun and a good way to connect with loved ones. Nearly everyone I know had a 1st birthday party for their child, and many have had 2nd birthday parties despite their kids being too young to articulate "Mom, I want a party." I had plenty of parties for my children when they were young and people were happy to attend, and it was a good excuse for me to entertain and see loved ones as I was not in the fancy dinner party stage of life when I had young kids. One day OP's kid will be able to look back and see the pictures and know that people who loved her were there.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A two-year-old does not need a party with upwards of 40 people in attendance. That's just insane.

That said, people who don't RSVP are total schmucks.

NP. I agree that having a party for a 2 year old is ridiculous. It's clearly for the mother. A few balloons and a cake and present with siblings and grandparents is fine and more than enough for a 2 year old. Expecting people with lives to attend is incredibly self absorbed. OP said they attended and supported her last year, and a 2 year old is too young to really understand or remember a party.

I agree that it's very rude to not RSVP, but OP is clearly a special snowflake with special entitlement issues, so I can imagine that people just feel strange about saying no and are waiting to see if they can get a better excuse. They can probably figure out that she'll hold it against them forever and are trying to prevent that if they can.

OP should realize that she was expecting far too much, cancel the party (in a NICE way, not by throwing a tantrum) and do one in a couple of years when it actually makes sense.

This is the stupidest post I've read on DCUM in a while (and that's saying a lot.) Parties are fun and a good way to connect with loved ones. Nearly everyone I know had a 1st birthday party for their child, and many have had 2nd birthday parties despite their kids being too young to articulate "Mom, I want a party." I had plenty of parties for my children when they were young and people were happy to attend, and it was a good excuse for me to entertain and see loved ones as I was not in the fancy dinner party stage of life when I had young kids. One day OP's kid will be able to look back and see the pictures and know that people who loved her were there.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A two-year-old does not need a party with upwards of 40 people in attendance. That's just insane.

That said, people who don't RSVP are total schmucks.

NP. I agree that having a party for a 2 year old is ridiculous. It's clearly for the mother. A few balloons and a cake and present with siblings and grandparents is fine and more than enough for a 2 year old. Expecting people with lives to attend is incredibly self absorbed. OP said they attended and supported her last year, and a 2 year old is too young to really understand or remember a party.

I agree that it's very rude to not RSVP, but OP is clearly a special snowflake with special entitlement issues, so I can imagine that people just feel strange about saying no and are waiting to see if they can get a better excuse. They can probably figure out that she'll hold it against them forever and are trying to prevent that if they can.

OP should realize that she was expecting far too much, cancel the party (in a NICE way, not by throwing a tantrum) and do one in a couple of years when it actually makes sense.

Anonymous wrote:A two-year-old does not need a party with upwards of 40 people in attendance. That's just insane.

That said, people who don't RSVP are total schmucks.

Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP, that sucks. I wouldn’t expect family to travel too far for a 2nd birthday party though. A lot of people want to take the long weekend through July 4th for a getaway. Maybe next year, pick a weekend that isn’t around the July 4th week.

Anonymous wrote:It doesn't help you this year, OP, but in the future I'd also recommend doing email invitations like Paperless Post vs sending traditional invitations in the mail. So much better for rsvp management because you can see when someone reads it, send reminders, and people can instantly reply. Does it lack some of the charm of the paper tradition? Maybe, but the benefit to your sanity will be worth it.

I'm sorry that your loved ones have not been supportive in the way that you hoped they would. I hope that you can make her special day fun. My dd's bday is at the end of June, so I totally get that it can be a pain working around everyone's summer plans to celebrate.

No one should be expected to come from another state for a 2 year old's birthday

Anonymous wrote:Everyone responding that a lot of people travel that week is sort of missing the point. Of course many people have plans. Those people should RSVP no. It's not hard. People are just incredibly rude and lazy.