I will call people by whatever name they introduce themselves by and it's not that difficult to remember which name to use unless you're a hard headed person who insists on doing things your own way. I will say I recommend against doing what my in laws did and call their kid by a nickname for her middle name (her full name is Lauren Elizabeth and she goes by a nickname for Elizabeth).

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Anonymous wrote:Yes I do get annoyed. I expect my child to be called whatever I write on forms or introduce her as. My parents are the worst offenders.

If an adult introduced himself as Bob, no one would call him Robert and write emails to Robert.

It happens to me all the time. All. The. Time. I have a normal formal name (like Elizabeth) and my parents have always called me Lizzie. I introduced myself as Lizzie. Fill out forms as Lizzie. I go by Lizzie. It often reverts to Elizabeth or Liz (which I never ever go by), especially in work. I stopped fighting it or being offended by it soon after college when I entered the work force but it still rankles a bit.

This is why I gave my kids names that don’t have a nickname.

Elizabeth has so many nicknames, it's really hard to remember. And you picked one of the less common ones. I could see myself doing this even though I try hard to call people what they want to be called. Sorry.

Agree with the pp. same could be said about Jennifer. I know SO MANY Jennifer’s and can’t keep straight who goes by Jen, Jennifer or Jenny. One of them HATES Jen (which is the most commonnn) and sometimes I slip and call her Jen because that’s what most of the other Jennifers go by. And then one of them ONLY goes by Jennifer so sometimes I slip when talking to her too. I’m trying, I really am, but it’s hard sometimes!

Is it difficult for you to remember names in general? Remembering that this person is Jen and this one is Jenny is the same as remembering that this person is Sue and this one is Mary.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes I do get annoyed. I expect my child to be called whatever I write on forms or introduce her as. My parents are the worst offenders.

If an adult introduced himself as Bob, no one would call him Robert and write emails to Robert.

It happens to me all the time. All. The. Time. I have a normal formal name (like Elizabeth) and my parents have always called me Lizzie. I introduced myself as Lizzie. Fill out forms as Lizzie. I go by Lizzie. It often reverts to Elizabeth or Liz (which I never ever go by), especially in work. I stopped fighting it or being offended by it soon after college when I entered the work force but it still rankles a bit.

This is why I gave my kids names that don’t have a nickname.

Elizabeth has so many nicknames, it's really hard to remember. And you picked one of the less common ones. I could see myself doing this even though I try hard to call people what they want to be called. Sorry.

Agree with the pp. same could be said about Jennifer. I know SO MANY Jennifer’s and can’t keep straight who goes by Jen, Jennifer or Jenny. One of them HATES Jen (which is the most commonnn) and sometimes I slip and call her Jen because that’s what most of the other Jennifers go by. And then one of them ONLY goes by Jennifer so sometimes I slip when talking to her too. I’m trying, I really am, but it’s hard sometimes!

I don’t really care. I love DD’s full name, which is why I chose it, but it’s long and her nickname is also cute. When she started kindergarten, her teacher asked her what she wanted to be called and she said her full name. So she goes by full name at school and nn everywhere else-including sometimes at school with certain people.

Anonymous wrote:My in laws disliked the nickname we decided to use for our second and told us, flat out, they wouldn’t use it and in fact they called him by a different nickname for about six months. A similar example - we chose “Billy” for William and they called him “Liam”. They finally started calling him Billy after about six months (I think their friends gently chided them). It annoyed me greatly at the time because when it’s purposeful, it’s a control thing and it’s just so rude.

My cousin did this twice. There was so much talk behind her back about it. She and her DH named their two kids decent names but then insisted they be called “the nickname” they chose, which in both cases was not the most common of nicknames. My aunt was frustrated. One of the nicknames, the oldest’s, is particularly stupid. My aunt just wanted to call him by his given name. It took about a year, but with repeated corrections, we all call this kid by his nickname.

I think people are just more vocal about nicknames because they are not real names.

My in laws disliked the nickname we decided to use for our second and told us, flat out, they wouldn’t use it and in fact they called him by a different nickname for about six months. A similar example - we chose “Billy” for William and they called him “Liam”. They finally started calling him Billy after about six months (I think their friends gently chided them). It annoyed me greatly at the time because when it’s purposeful, it’s a control thing and it’s just so rude.

Anonymous wrote:If you introduce your child with a nickname, how does the person even know there is a formal name? (Aside from school personnel, drs).

I know a Kate and a Maggie whose formal names are Kate and Maggie.

If you introduce your child with a nickname, how does the person even know there is a formal name? (Aside from school personnel, drs).

Anonymous wrote:I have an Isabelle that we have called/introduced as Izzy since birth. Some people still call her Isabelle, mostly my parents.

Doesn't bother me. I love both names.

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Anonymous wrote:I have an Isabelle that we have called/introduced as Izzy since birth. Some people still call her Isabel, mostly my parents.

Doesn't bother me. I love both names.

I will say that we put "Izzy" in big block letters as part of her nursery decor to underscore the point! Highly recommend this.

I have an Isabelle that we have called/introduced as Izzy since birth. Some people still call her Isabel, mostly my parents.

Doesn't bother me. I love both names.

Anonymous wrote:I was surprised that MCPS uses her nickname on formal records. I wonder if this will cause problems when applying to colleges.

You need to get this corrected. It can cause problems.

Anonymous wrote:You should call the child whatever nickname/name the parents chose. Who are you to change it?

No one’s changing anything by calling a child by his given name. It’s bizarre to be offended by people using the name that you gave your child. If the regret is that bad, then officially change the name.

The only time I got annoyed was when a pediatrician we'd not seen before in our large practice chose a different nickname for DD than what we call her. That was irritating. But if people want to call her by her given name, it's up to her whether that bothers her or not.

You should call the child whatever nickname/name the parents chose. Who are you to change it?