Anonymous wrote:This is so weird to me. I would, of course, let my in-laws use the master suite if they'd be more comfortable while watching our children for free! I can't fathom how DCUM is perfectly happy to take, take, take free child care but goes crazy at the thought of family members laying their heads on their precious pillows.

(Obviously there is SOMETHING about the guest bedroom that is not great if the IL's are asking to switch up.)

+1 My sister is convinced her guest bedroom is wonderful and doesn't understand why we choose to stay with my parents instead even though it's more cramped over there. The mattress in my sister's guest bedroom is the most ungodly uncomfortable mattress I've ever slept on. Sister has back problems and she likes sleeping on a mattress harder than concrete so to her it's super comfortable. To me? Not so much.

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Anonymous wrote:Super weird to even consider putting them in the master.

Why don’t you calculate the cost of 24/7 care for 2 kids for a week and see if you want to complain about boundaries. The master is more comfortable. Let the elderly people doing you a huge favor be comfortable.

Pretty sure you're the only one - or one of a VERY few - who thinks that way. Jeff can determine sock puppeting but for OP's debate purposes, most people think it's weird.

I'd be ok with it, but that's because we don't have a guest room on the same level as our kids, so it'd really be the only option.

If the guest bedroom and master and kids are on the same level then, NOPE.

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Anonymous wrote:If my in-laws ever slept in my bed I’d get rid of it. Yuck.

How do you feel about sleeping in hotel beds?

+1 I don’t know how some people on this Board function in the world with all their hang ups.

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Anonymous wrote:Super weird to even consider putting them in the master.

Why don’t you calculate the cost of 24/7 care for 2 kids for a week and see if you want to complain about boundaries. The master is more comfortable. Let the elderly people doing you a huge favor be comfortable.

+1. Hire a nanny or babysitter if you want to establish strict rules about space. If not, you get what you pay for.

This would not bother me but I would respect my spouse's opinion if he didn't want to do it.

This is so weird to me. I would, of course, let my in-laws use the master suite if they'd be more comfortable while watching our children for free! I can't fathom how DCUM is perfectly happy to take, take, take free child care but goes crazy at the thought of family members laying their heads on their precious pillows.

(Obviously there is SOMETHING about the guest bedroom that is not great if the IL's are asking to switch up.)

Anonymous wrote:Super weird to even consider putting them in the master.

Why don’t you calculate the cost of 24/7 care for 2 kids for a week and see if you want to complain about boundaries. The master is more comfortable. Let the elderly people doing you a huge favor be comfortable.

There are zero legitimate reasons why they shouldn't just stay in the guest room and perhaps use the master bathroom to avoid having to share a bathroom with the kids.

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Anonymous wrote:It's kind of weird, but you'd be using different linens and everything and you could take the pillows out of the guest room and put them in the master for their stay. Agree with the PP who said you could stash any embarrassing stuff out of the way prior to their arrival.

But who wants to return from a vacation or hospital stay and then immediately have to wash all their sheets in their master bedroom and see someone else's toothpaste stains in their master sinks? Blech.

Someone who is getting free childcare for the entirety of their stay elsewhere?

NP but so what? It's not like the alternative is sleeping on the floor. Should the grandparents wear their clothes and use their toothbrushes also?
- some who is really close with my in-laws and would never consider this, nor would they ask

Honestly they should be using the guest bedroom. Unless the bed is uncomfortable to them (the older you get, the more of an issue that could be) or the master bedroom is within much easier access/earshot of the children, I would be confused as to why they felt more comfortable staying in my master bedroom. What about the guest bedroom is uncomfortable for them? Maybe you can work on making that room more comfortable?

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Anonymous wrote:It's kind of weird, but you'd be using different linens and everything and you could take the pillows out of the guest room and put them in the master for their stay. Agree with the PP who said you could stash any embarrassing stuff out of the way prior to their arrival.

But who wants to return from a vacation or hospital stay and then immediately have to wash all their sheets in their master bedroom and see someone else's toothpaste stains in their master sinks? Blech.

OP only has one set of sheets? I'm sure ILs can strip the bed for her and replace the linens. Even if OP had to do it herself, she could simply throw the dirty stuff in the laundry area or hamper. It would wait for tomorrow.

My family members are capable of brushing their teeth without leaving gobs of toothpaste around. Even if they couldn't, I'm not in the habit of licking my sink. I wouldn't find toothpaste drippings so terribly offensive that I couldn't spend 30 seconds wiping the sink with a Lysol wipe.

Super weird to even consider putting them in the master.

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Anonymous wrote:It's kind of weird, but you'd be using different linens and everything and you could take the pillows out of the guest room and put them in the master for their stay. Agree with the PP who said you could stash any embarrassing stuff out of the way prior to their arrival.

But who wants to return from a vacation or hospital stay and then immediately have to wash all their sheets in their master bedroom and see someone else's toothpaste stains in their master sinks? Blech.

Someone who is getting free childcare for the entirety of their stay elsewhere?

+1. Amazing that OP is asking the grandparents to spend a week at their home taking care of their kids and can’t share the room that the grandparents prefer. Hire a babysitter next time if you want to be so stingy with your space.

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Anonymous wrote:It's kind of weird, but you'd be using different linens and everything and you could take the pillows out of the guest room and put them in the master for their stay. Agree with the PP who said you could stash any embarrassing stuff out of the way prior to their arrival.

But who wants to return from a vacation or hospital stay and then immediately have to wash all their sheets in their master bedroom and see someone else's toothpaste stains in their master sinks? Blech.

Someone who is getting free childcare for the entirety of their stay elsewhere?