Anonymous
Post 05/30/2018 17:55     Subject: Re:Ever feel like when guys are ready to settle down/marry, it happens instantly?
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Anonymous wrote:I'd love to hear from men who dated a woman for many years, broke up and ended up marrying their next girlfriend within the next two years.
At the end, which one would you have rather married; your ex-girlfriend, your current wife, or maybe, another woman (or man) you could not be with.


Also curious! You should do a spin-off thread!

A spin-off would be great but so far none of theses men have been willing to share their story so we'll have to keep speculating.
Anonymous
Post 05/30/2018 16:52     Subject: Re:Ever feel like when guys are ready to settle down/marry, it happens instantly?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'd love to hear from men who dated a woman for many years, broke up and ended up marrying their next girlfriend within the next two years.
At the end, which one would you have rather married; your ex-girlfriend, your current wife, or maybe, another woman (or man) you could not be with.


Also curious! You should do a spin-off thread!


DITTO! I know of quite a few people this happened with - dated one girl forever and then broke up with her and got engaged to someone else within 18 months. I'm curious too - tell us more!


PP here. The case I know of is a fantastic father and husband (now). I think (at the time) the loss (break up) was too great for him to go through it again. No matter who came along, they were destined for marriage. What more do you want to know?
Anonymous
Post 05/30/2018 14:56     Subject: Re:Ever feel like when guys are ready to settle down/marry, it happens instantly?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'd love to hear from men who dated a woman for many years, broke up and ended up marrying their next girlfriend within the next two years.
At the end, which one would you have rather married; your ex-girlfriend, your current wife, or maybe, another woman (or man) you could not be with.


Also curious! You should do a spin-off thread!


DITTO! I know of quite a few people this happened with - dated one girl forever and then broke up with her and got engaged to someone else within 18 months. I'm curious too - tell us more!
Anonymous
Post 05/30/2018 14:51     Subject: Ever feel like when guys are ready to settle down/marry, it happens instantly?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I heard this theory recently - for men, it's not about the woman, it's about the timing. So whoever they are with when they decide they are ready for marriage, boom, that's the woman they marry.


Are you saying women are that different? Other than that clock ticking.


Uh yes - please see all the threads on DCUM that discuss that women are only looking for a tall, rich, well-educated, etc etc man and that's why they are still single.
Anonymous
Post 05/29/2018 13:42     Subject: Re:Ever feel like when guys are ready to settle down/marry, it happens instantly?
Anonymous wrote:I'd love to hear from men who dated a woman for many years, broke up and ended up marrying their next girlfriend within the next two years.
At the end, which one would you have rather married; your ex-girlfriend, your current wife, or maybe, another woman (or man) you could not be with.


Also curious! You should do a spin-off thread!
Anonymous
Post 05/29/2018 13:38     Subject: Re:Ever feel like when guys are ready to settle down/marry, it happens instantly?
I'd love to hear from men who dated a woman for many years, broke up and ended up marrying their next girlfriend within the next two years.
At the end, which one would you have rather married; your ex-girlfriend, your current wife, or maybe, another woman (or man) you could not be with.
Anonymous
Post 05/29/2018 13:24     Subject: Ever feel like when guys are ready to settle down/marry, it happens instantly?
Anonymous wrote:I heard this theory recently - for men, it's not about the woman, it's about the timing. So whoever they are with when they decide they are ready for marriage, boom, that's the woman they marry.


+1

I agree. For women, it is about timing, but in a different way. If you are a materialistic woman (see threads on this site) - then it is about having ("the things") what you think your friends have. Of course, those women are never happy anyway.

For men, it is about having the happiness that you think your friends have. If you are a man that "let the last one get away" - you marry the next one that comes along.
Anonymous
Post 05/29/2018 13:17     Subject: Ever feel like when guys are ready to settle down/marry, it happens instantly?
Anonymous wrote:I heard this theory recently - for men, it's not about the woman, it's about the timing. So whoever they are with when they decide they are ready for marriage, boom, that's the woman they marry.


Uhhh...I’m 32 and I’ve been watching my friends go through the early 30s settle down hysteria, and I can tell you that the majority of BOTH men and women who are getting married because they think it’s time to get married.
Anonymous
Post 05/29/2018 13:02     Subject: Ever feel like when guys are ready to settle down/marry, it happens instantly?
Anonymous wrote:I heard this theory recently - for men, it's not about the woman, it's about the timing. So whoever they are with when they decide they are ready for marriage, boom, that's the woman they marry.


Are you saying women are that different? Other than that clock ticking.
Anonymous
Post 05/29/2018 12:17     Subject: Ever feel like when guys are ready to settle down/marry, it happens instantly?
I heard this theory recently - for men, it's not about the woman, it's about the timing. So whoever they are with when they decide they are ready for marriage, boom, that's the woman they marry.
Anonymous
Post 05/29/2018 11:43     Subject: Ever feel like when guys are ready to settle down/marry, it happens instantly?
OP I think you are right. For me it seems to be more about "the right time" versus meeting "the right one"--I know many couples, who dated for years and lived together only to break up and the guy is married to someone within 18 months. Its crazy how much this happens. If you are dating for five years he either doesn't want to marry you or he is too lazy to move out.
Anonymous
Post 05/29/2018 11:39     Subject: Ever feel like when guys are ready to settle down/marry, it happens instantly?
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If your friends are dental hygienists, then being unable to marry is meaningful. If they’re successful business executives holding out for equally accomplished mates, well duh. Smaller pool, and the best ones have been taken. Possibly by dental hygienists.


Ha. A good dental hygienist can make pretty bucks. Same with nurses and (gasp!) teachers.

Those in the health professions probably bring a lot less work home, too. Just something to consider... especially if you are hellbent on holding out for your "equal".


He's not bashing dental hygienists or suggesting men wouldn't marry them. I think that the point he's making is that a woman business executive is much more likely to be picky about the professional status of their mates. A dental hygienist will not be as picky and will have an easier time finding someone who meets their requirements.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2018 18:38     Subject: Ever feel like when guys are ready to settle down/marry, it happens instantly?
Anonymous wrote:Yes OP. In fact, I have seen situations where a guy will date a woman for a long time, is never going to marry her, she dumps him, and then within a year he is married to someone else.

Yes I have seen it this exact same scenario as well.
I think men can be more easily happy with someone they "like a lot" but "are not in love with" than women.
But, as someone mentioned, maybe there is a third woman that they truly loved and for whatever reason, could not be with.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2018 18:07     Subject: Ever feel like when guys are ready to settle down/marry, it happens instantly?
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Anonymous wrote:This is not a newsflash. I know so many attractive successful older women who cannot find a guy who wants to settle down. Sadly, women have a very real shelf life that men are not subject to.


They're very picky and relatively content to remain single. Shocking news: they remain single. Also, a lot are fat.


The ones I know and am speaking of are definitely not fat. They have all the time in the world to workout. They are also not content. Constantly complaining about being single. Problem is, when they were ready to settle down, all that was left were guys who are happy playing the field using hook up apps and are going for women much younger IF they even want to settle down.


If your friends are dental hygienists, then being unable to marry is meaningful. If they’re successful business executives holding out for equally accomplished mates, well duh. Smaller pool, and the best ones have been taken. Possibly by dental hygienists.


Ha. A good dental hygienist can make pretty bucks. Same with nurses and (gasp!) teachers.

Those in the health professions probably bring a lot less work home, too. Just something to consider... especially if you are hellbent on holding out for your "equal".


Are the one commenter’s friends nurses and teachers or vice presidents at Lockheed? Or more to the point, what specific criteria are the men who are available and interested not meeting? Frequently the issue is money. How much?