Anonymous
Post 05/19/2018 20:53     Subject: I feel like I settled
“The Globalist!”
Anonymous
Post 05/19/2018 20:45     Subject: Re:I feel like I settled
Anonymous wrote:Op here.

Myself and my friends are very ambitious. Top of the class, ambitious careers, eager and interested in the greater world and trends. I was the first to settle down and married my now husband when we met at a prestigious grad program. He was the first person in his family to go to college and he was so smart in academics. When we married I was so happy and felt I had picked my perfect match. But then I noticed he took a small job at a small company in the middle of nowhere and I didn’t care much as my career was impressive and occupied me. Meanwhile a few years later my friends are settling down and it’s obvious they are also interested in and seeking ambitious accomplished men, when we get together it’s all about “ wow your man is so smart” or “ wow your husband just made millions” and then they turn to me and are like, “ oh John is so adorable!”

I don’t like that condescending tone. Some have actually told me they are so surprised I ended up with him.

It gets to me.

I also feel like there must be something wrong with me that I wasn’t able to marry a “catch”


No offense but it sounds like you were choosing him for the wrong reasons. And you really only are bothered because of what your friends think.
Anonymous
Post 05/19/2018 15:13     Subject: I feel like I settled
You know what he’s thinking — could’ve married my much nicer high school girlfriend from my hometown who is a teacher/nurse now who’d be supporting my career and we’d have a REAL marriage. Instead I’m spending another Sat night at dinner at Trip Thurston’s house where he’ll insufferably brag about his wine collection for hours but my wife thinks it’s soooo important to be impressing his well connected family.
Anonymous
Post 05/19/2018 14:46     Subject: I feel like I settled
Do people even make that much money at the World Bank or IMF?

I always got the impression that it was for finance types who lack the shark instinct necessary for Wall Street.
Anonymous
Post 05/19/2018 14:43     Subject: I feel like I settled
Anonymous wrote:The loser here is not DH.

+1
Anonymous
Post 05/19/2018 14:43     Subject: Re:I feel like I settled
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am always amazed by the number of answers those stupid trolls get.


I know. This is so fake it’s ridiculous.


Yep
Anonymous
Post 05/19/2018 14:40     Subject: Re:I feel like I settled
Anonymous wrote:Op here.

Myself and my friends are very ambitious. Top of the class, ambitious careers, eager and interested in the greater world and trends. I was the first to settle down and married my now husband when we met at a prestigious grad program. He was the first person in his family to go to college and he was so smart in academics. When we married I was so happy and felt I had picked my perfect match. But then I noticed he took a small job at a small company in the middle of nowhere and I didn’t care much as my career was impressive and occupied me. Meanwhile a few years later my friends are settling down and it’s obvious they are also interested in and seeking ambitious accomplished men, when we get together it’s all about “ wow your man is so smart” or “ wow your husband just made millions” and then they turn to me and are like, “ oh John is so adorable!”

I don’t like that condescending tone. Some have actually told me they are so surprised I ended up with him.

It gets to me.

I also feel like there must be something wrong with me that I wasn’t able to marry a “catch”


There is something wrong with you but it's not this ^. And FYI, I would bet you a million dollars that you wouldn't catch the guy you want if you let your hubby go.
Anonymous
Post 05/19/2018 14:39     Subject: Re:I feel like I settled
Well if you have such a great career, can't you pay for the "finer things" that you aspire to??
Anonymous
Post 05/19/2018 14:38     Subject: Re:I feel like I settled
I really hope this is a troll post written to spice things up on this board because otherwise...you don't sound well.

Anonymous
Post 05/19/2018 14:37     Subject: I feel like I settled
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, you sound superficial and awful. If your DH was in a prestigious grad program and first in is family to go to college, that doesn't sound too shabby. But let me guess, your best friend, Molly Buttwipeworth married Trenton Thurston III (they call him Trip) and he is tearing it up at the World Bank, where of course his daddy had contacts who helped him get the job.And while Trenton loves going to Malaysian restaurants and sampling the wine, your DH thinks meat and potatoes is just great. Please spare him.


Yeah, does anyone work at WB/IMF without knowing someone?


yes, my American-born DH landed a job there w/o knowing anyone (he's also quite successful there, having risen through the ranks to a top leadership position).


Well yeah, positions for US citizens ARE competitive. It’s the foreign national positions which are wonky and shut out for US folks.
Anonymous
Post 05/19/2018 14:36     Subject: Re:I feel like I settled
Your DH deserves better. Get your nose out of the air.
Anonymous
Post 05/19/2018 14:32     Subject: I feel like I settled
Anonymous wrote:is this a troll or what? Who is like this?

half the posts on DCUM are from women who married rich guys/doctors/hot shot DC lawyers etc. who turned out to be assholes and mistreat them.

Read all those posts and feel better.


The writing sounds well thought out, edited, and troll like.
Anonymous
Post 05/19/2018 14:24     Subject: Re:I feel like I settled
Anonymous wrote:You and your friends sound like pretentious assholes


+1

OP, you will get what you have coming to you, don't worry - it's just a matter of time.
Anonymous
Post 05/19/2018 14:24     Subject: Re:I feel like I settled
Anonymous wrote:Why do you have the expectation that your social circle adore, admire and respect your husband so much? That's for you to do. You need to stop caring what others think. As long as you love him and he's treating you well, that's all that matters. Sounds like you have a great guy, but you are taking him for granted. Stop that.


+1

.....Lest you get what you deserve, OP!
Anonymous
Post 05/19/2018 14:09     Subject: Re:I feel like I settled
Anonymous wrote:I am always amazed by the number of answers those stupid trolls get.


I know. This is so fake it’s ridiculous.