Anonymous wrote:I eat whatever I want but have a relatively good/healthy diet. Don't smoke, drink alcohol or take drugs. Don't have a eating disorder.

My secret is I run 4-5 days a wk avg ~25-30 miles outside. After my run I do 150 pushups and 150 dips, like pushups except I am facing the sky. I also do yoga 2-3 times a week not in a class.

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Anonymous wrote:My sister is a trophy wife, and must keep herself slim and young, even at 60. She had all the major cosmetic surgeries, some twice, if they sell it for aging skin she has owned it (this started at 30 which is a waste because 60 yrs does what 60 yrs does no matter what. Daily trainers and weekly massages in the home, conferring with other trophy types on the latest exercise regimen and other beauty issues. Spends hours getting ready to go out, even the grocery store. Special diets and never sitting down to eat. God gave her good looks but if he forgot something she just spent money to fill in. Her husband actually thinks all women do this. I was envious in our 30 and 40s but now realize how damn hard she has it.

Agree with you, that's sounds like way too much work. The battle gets harder the older you get.

Anonymous wrote:My sister is a trophy wife, and must keep herself slim and young, even at 60. She had all the major cosmetic surgeries, some twice, if they sell it for aging skin she has owned it (this started at 30 which is a waste because 60 yrs does what 60 yrs does no matter what. Daily trainers and weekly massages in the home, conferring with other trophy types on the latest exercise regimen and other beauty issues. Spends hours getting ready to go out, even the grocery store. Special diets and never sitting down to eat. God gave her good looks but if he forgot something she just spent money to fill in. Her husband actually thinks all women do this. I was envious in our 30 and 40s but now realize how damn hard she has it.

Anonymous wrote:So--it goes beyond being 'thin/skinny'. I am very athletic, fit and trim. But --I have muscles.

My mom and I talk about the 'WASP' bones. The waspy women we know (me in Georgetown), her growing up in Greenwich, CT have very tiny, petite bones---even if they are very tall. Their body frames are all very tiny. They have those pencil, skinny legs in their cigarette pants and teeny, tiny little wrists.

No matter how much I dieted, I could never be skinny-boned. We have peasant-stock body frames. Thick bones, large wrists and hands, big heads. BUT--we don't get hunched over with age, retain a youthful round face in older age, and those strong bones aren't brittle and we don't get hunched over or osteoporosis like a lot of that tiny wasp crowd.

So--babe, you are born with it. But, the good news, most men hate that skinny, bird look. My own husband despises it. He thinks they look like anorexic, smokers. Every time I drop a lot of weight, he tells me to eat. Women I would point out as attractive he thinks are too skinny or skeletor.

So you could starve yourself and get the bad bulimic breath a lot of them have and live on coffee, cocaine/Adderall and cigarettes or you could strive for a healthy, glowing, athletic look which might be more your natural type.

Anonymous wrote:As someone in recovery from anorexia, you have to keep in mind that you are looking at a short time in a person's life of weight fluctuations. Once you get down to let's say BMI of 16 or below, it is basically unsustainable - almost 100% of anorexia sufferers basically either (1) recovers and gains weight back to the middle of the bell curve of weight distribution, (2) transitions to bulimia (with the horrifying health problems that can cause) or (3) dies.

None of those options are particularly appealing. It's best not to get on that particular carousel at all if you can help it.

Anonymous wrote:So dumb to think that rich women are financially dependent on their spouses

Anonymous wrote:The sheer terror of wealthy husband leaving is a great motivator.

Anonymous wrote:I work and make a fair amount but my DH is a surgeon and makes big bucks. I stay thin mostly because I am a clean eater (mostly fish and loads of veggies everyday), I lift weights twice a week, yoga twice a week and I don't drink (although I occasionally have a glass if I'm cooking with wine or when out to dinner) but I do have an edible occasionally on the weekend.

My DH is surrounded all day by very attractive accomplished doctors, nurses, and administrators. I am pretty secure in my marriage, but I will own that my innate competitiveness with these other women is sometimes a driving factor.