Anonymous
Post 05/04/2018 14:24     Subject: Re:How do you handle it when you're in the wrong?
He's angry because you have turned a car into a weapon and someone could get hurt or worse. There must be a specialist out there who can assess your depth perception and other motor skills to determine if it's a medical problem. If you can't be a safe driver, please don't be a driver.

Bella_lee
Post 05/04/2018 14:13     Subject: How do you handle it when you're in the wrong?
For me, when I'm in the wrong i own up and apologize and my husband is very easy going and always accepts my apology and we move on. It think the issue with the car mishaps might be getting on your husbands nerves hence is reaction to you. I think it's good that you are aware that you need to find a solution to this problem and it looks like husband is now on board. However I would suggest as others have that you revisit your driving lessons and also see a professional about your spatial perception and even maybe get your eyes tested. All the best.
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2018 13:57     Subject: How do you handle it when you're in the wrong?
Yep, I was thinking about my car/driving as I opened this post. I have signs/walls/columns fly out at me all the time when I am parking or pulling out. It's dangerous out there.

Anyhoo, lots of mea culpas, blowjobs, whatever else he wants and I am not kidding. He's not a grudge holder, though.
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2018 08:32     Subject: How do you handle it when you're in the wrong?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You need a car with automatic braking.

But otherwise, I think you need to do something about this bad driving. You have a really bad history of driving. If you caused a really bad wreck, I'd think they could sue you saying you were a known hazard on the roads due to your history. Do you need glasses?

I also think you've posted about this before.


I have. I can’t believe you remember.

In my defense, it has been a while. I think I went at least a year without getting into an accident.


Good lord, that is not "a while" that is stunningly frequent.
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2018 08:30     Subject: How do you handle it when you're in the wrong?
Anonymous wrote:Re: driving lessons

It’s really parking that is my issue and pulling out if parking lots.

I hit curbs a lot too.

It’s a spatial awareness thing which is made worse by driving a mini van.

I feel I would be so much better in a small car like a civic or a Mini Cooper.


If I were your husband, I'd be thinking, "She is a terrible driver with poor spatial awareness, and wants to drive my kids around in a *smaller* car? Less protection if (or rather, when inevitably) she gets in an accident? Eff no."
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2018 08:25     Subject: How do you handle it when you're in the wrong?
Anonymous wrote:OP, I don’t want to pile on but it is very concerning that you would hit a stop sign. Many of us can’t picture how that even would happen. Please, for your sake and everyone else’s, address this with a professional.


+1

What if the stop sign had been a child? You need to stop brushing this off and take it more seriously.
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2018 07:19     Subject: How do you handle it when you're in the wrong?
Anonymous wrote:You need driving lessons and lots of practice. It’s a learned skill. Do the learning.


Driving lessons are $100 an hr. Anyone know of cheap lessons in virginia?
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2018 06:14     Subject: How do you handle it when you're in the wrong?
You need driving lessons and lots of practice. It’s a learned skill. Do the learning.
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2018 01:43     Subject: Re:How do you handle it when you're in the wrong?
Anonymous wrote:I simply say that I'm looney...and maybe I am. I left our home on Friday morning and my DH arrived back Sunday night. Monday morning he was in the kitchen near the stove and felt heat and it turned out I hadn't turned off a gas burner on Friday, it was on low simmer. Dumb, stupid made worse that when I left I had a feeling....but I didn't do anything about it. My DH is really good about not going nuclear and I think part of it is that I don't deny it or pass blame. But I'd better not burn down the house.


But you don’t do this repeatedly
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2018 00:41     Subject: Re:How do you handle it when you're in the wrong?
OP, your husband is a moron. Get a smaller car. It is a massive difference.
Anonymous
Post 05/01/2018 23:43     Subject: Re:How do you handle it when you're in the wrong?
If I were you I would get my eyes checked, look into vision therapy (they can help with depth perception, and take driving lessons. You can't just shrug and say "Oh well" and keep driving. Do you REALIZE how high you're driving your car insurance by doing this?

If you had a smaller car you would just think "Oh, I have PLENTY of room!" and still keep bumping into things.
Anonymous
Post 05/01/2018 23:39     Subject: How do you handle it when you're in the wrong?
Anonymous wrote:Backstory: I'm a really bad driver and parker. I've never gotten into a bad car accident but I have fender benders fairly frequently (at least once a year, sometimes more sometimes less). But over the years, it's added up obviously and DH remembers every single one.

Well today I accidentally hit a stop sign while parking the car and he's pissed at me again. He's not giving me the silent treatment but he's icy and distant.

I don't do it on purpose but I have a really bad sense of depth perception. I keep asking if we can trade my car in for something smaller (I drive a minivan and think it would be better if I had something smaller that's easier to park like a Civic) but he refuses to consider the idea because we "need" this big car for trips and things. I kind of feel like that is setting me up to fail again. But still I know it is my fault.

How do you handle it when your partner is justifiably angry at you because you keep making mistakes?


Sorry hun! Love you! Can totally see why you’re annoyed! Ahh it sucks being a clutzy driver but at least it’s beber anything serious. I’m thinking of trading in the van soon. What is your long term plan for our car situation?
Anonymous
Post 05/01/2018 21:28     Subject: How do you handle it when you're in the wrong?
Get a backup camera and driving lessons.
Anonymous
Post 05/01/2018 21:27     Subject: Re:How do you handle it when you're in the wrong?
Honesty is the best policy! If you screw up, fess up. My DH knows my weaknesses...and I his....and we try to backstop each other though his task is much greater than mine.
Anonymous
Post 05/01/2018 21:24     Subject: Re:How do you handle it when you're in the wrong?
I simply say that I'm looney...and maybe I am. I left our home on Friday morning and my DH arrived back Sunday night. Monday morning he was in the kitchen near the stove and felt heat and it turned out I hadn't turned off a gas burner on Friday, it was on low simmer. Dumb, stupid made worse that when I left I had a feeling....but I didn't do anything about it. My DH is really good about not going nuclear and I think part of it is that I don't deny it or pass blame. But I'd better not burn down the house.