Anonymous
Post 04/26/2018 10:27     Subject: My teen just hit me so hard with an object I think my arm may be broken
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’d call the police.

Dumb dumb.



Why? The little shit needs to be scared straight. Obviously, he isn't afraid of mom.


+1 and press charges. She can support him in living way through the process while establishing boundaries and forcing him to acknowledge consequences.
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2018 09:05     Subject: Re:My teen just hit me so hard with an object I think my arm may be broken
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My son became violent toward me last year. Not nearly so bad as your situation but it was a huge behavioral change. I took him to the ER. He was admitted to a treatment program. It was one of the best things I did for him.

This. Do this.


Third. Our son was treated for depression and anxiety for two years, but the violence came on pretty suddenly (he's 14 now). We did call the police, they took him to the ER, he had a psych eval and got admitted to a psych hospital for treatment and was diagnosed with a more serious condition that his once-a-week therapist missed (but agreed with, in hindsight). If we had waited he would have gotten worse and might have gotten in a lot more trouble. He doesn't have a police record since he went to the hospital.


What condition is that?


Severe emotional dysregulation, which requires a different therapeutic approach (DBT instead of CBT) and different meds (atypical antipsychotics instead of antidepressants). They also recommended that he be tested for autism, since there isn't a trauma-based reason for the dysregulation, and he appears to have several indicators of autism spectrum disorder that we have previously assumed were ADHD or depression.
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2018 00:42     Subject: My teen just hit me so hard with an object I think my arm may be broken
Are you sure this is your teen and not your spouse?
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2018 00:34     Subject: Re:My teen just hit me so hard with an object I think my arm may be broken
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My son became violent toward me last year. Not nearly so bad as your situation but it was a huge behavioral change. I took him to the ER. He was admitted to a treatment program. It was one of the best things I did for him.

This. Do this.


Third. Our son was treated for depression and anxiety for two years, but the violence came on pretty suddenly (he's 14 now). We did call the police, they took him to the ER, he had a psych eval and got admitted to a psych hospital for treatment and was diagnosed with a more serious condition that his once-a-week therapist missed (but agreed with, in hindsight). If we had waited he would have gotten worse and might have gotten in a lot more trouble. He doesn't have a police record since he went to the hospital.


What condition is that?
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2018 00:32     Subject: My teen just hit me so hard with an object I think my arm may be broken
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My arm is ok. Just badly bruised. He is remorseful. We are in therapy. One day at a time.


Thanks for the update OP. Sending you peace.


Glad to hear.
Teens can't control anger sometimes, he'll be ok.


Just wait until he does this to a girlfriend and she presses charges
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2018 00:30     Subject: My teen just hit me so hard with an object I think my arm may be broken
Anonymous wrote:Pp here who advised waiting— I didn’t tell her to ignore it, I advised she didn’t need to freak out. I actually have a probable fractured foot right now but am waiting and seeing myself. If it is hairline or a bone bruise, there is no need to rush off to the Emergency Room. I will go to Urgent Care at 8 am when there isn’t a line to see about mine. I have done this several times and never disadvantaged by waiting for broken ribs, fingers, toes and bone bruises.

A compound fracture is obviously more serious and she should go right away and get it set, as I indicated.

I personally would want to keep this private and not involve the police as will be likely if she goes to ER.



With a foot or leg you can turn the wrong way or step the wrong way and the bone WILL break more. This is not a good idea.
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2018 23:22     Subject: My teen just hit me so hard with an object I think my arm may be broken
Start making his funeral arrangements.
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2018 08:47     Subject: My teen just hit me so hard with an object I think my arm may be broken
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My arm is ok. Just badly bruised. He is remorseful. We are in therapy. One day at a time.


Thanks for the update OP. Sending you peace.


Glad to hear.
Teens can't control anger sometimes, he'll be ok.


Yes! It’s perfectly fine to hurt your mom so badly she fears her arm is broken. Kiss him on the forehead and take him out for ice cream. He’ll be OK, he’s a really good boy, I swear!![/quote

Not helpful. OP acknowledged it was a problem and never said it was perfectly fine. My teens have not hit me but have done other things that I wish they didn't. Doesn't mean I think they are monsters. There is nothing wrong with seeing the positives in your kids. If you are not there to love them unconditionally, who is? Get help, sure but he probably will be okay - so go away and find your high horse to climb.
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2018 06:44     Subject: My teen just hit me so hard with an object I think my arm may be broken
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My arm is ok. Just badly bruised. He is remorseful. We are in therapy. One day at a time.


Thanks for the update OP. Sending you peace.


Glad to hear.
Teens can't control anger sometimes, he'll be ok.


Yes! It’s perfectly fine to hurt your mom so badly she fears her arm is broken. Kiss him on the forehead and take him out for ice cream. He’ll be OK, he’s a really good boy, I swear!!
Anonymous
Post 04/24/2018 20:25     Subject: My teen just hit me so hard with an object I think my arm may be broken
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My arm is ok. Just badly bruised. He is remorseful. We are in therapy. One day at a time.


Thanks for the update OP. Sending you peace.


Glad to hear.
Teens can't control anger sometimes, he'll be ok.
Anonymous
Post 04/24/2018 15:40     Subject: My teen just hit me so hard with an object I think my arm may be broken
Kick him out.
Anonymous
Post 04/24/2018 15:03     Subject: My teen just hit me so hard with an object I think my arm may be broken
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Back in my home country, this kid wouldn’t have a chance to do anything like that. Its not fear, it’s respect. I am 40 and I still dont smoke in front of my parents.


Yeah well, back in your home country, they also let farm animals live in the house, and we don't do that here either.


I'm not the one you're replying to, but if you think that Americans are the pinacle of culture, you are delusional. But it is VERY American of you to be this arogant.
Anonymous
Post 04/24/2018 15:02     Subject: My teen just hit me so hard with an object I think my arm may be broken
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Back in my home country, this kid wouldn’t have a chance to do anything like that. Its not fear, it’s respect. I am 40 and I still dont smoke in front of my parents.


Not helpful.

Certain things were good in certain old countries.
Anonymous
Post 04/24/2018 14:59     Subject: My teen just hit me so hard with an object I think my arm may be broken
Anonymous wrote:Back in my home country, this kid wouldn’t have a chance to do anything like that. Its not fear, it’s respect. I am 40 and I still dont smoke in front of my parents.


Yeah well, back in your home country, they also let farm animals live in the house, and we don't do that here either.
Anonymous
Post 04/24/2018 14:53     Subject: My teen just hit me so hard with an object I think my arm may be broken
Hang in there. Glad you are getting help. Even if DCUM is snarky, there are lots of us who are thinking of you and wishing we could help. Keep getting outside help. If your therapist doesn’t help, switch.

Either your teen doesn’t know their own strength (possible) or they need help figuring out how to manage anger, or sadly worse. I am glad that you are helping your teen figure this out - and so is their future family/relationships.