Anonymous wrote:It sounds to me as if the OP is influencing her children against her MIL, not at all unusual in these times. DIL's need to get over it and realize that there is a special bond between grandparents and grandkids that is vitally important. flame away.

1) It's the OP's mom, not her MIL. Learn to read.
2) Sometimes there's a special bond. Sometimes there isn't.
3) Even if there is a special bond, it's not "vitally important." Some kinds don't have grandparents who live nearby. Some kids don't have living grandparents. Some kids have grandparents who are actively dangerous for the kids to be around.

My MIL posted pics of herself marching at the gun march with the caption “for my grandkids” but didn’t bother to call her grandkid on their birthday...the next day *eyeroll*

Anonymous wrote:Omg this. My MIL doesnt even seem to enjoy her GK very much, she is antsy and obviously bored when she’s around them for more than a couple hours and always leaves early. But you bet she posts pics on FB depicting the highlights!

This is us! She’s the least hands-on grandma I know. She demands hours and hours of time to just stare at them. I’ve never seen her engage or play with them, she only observes. And she just loves to take them around like little trophies. And tell anyone honwill listen that she’s the BEST grandma EVER!

Omg this. My MIL doesnt even seem to enjoy her GK very much, she is antsy and obviously bored when she’s around them for more than a couple hours and always leaves early. But you bet she posts pics on FB depicting the highlights!

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Anonymous wrote:Have you asked her why she is so fixated on overnight visits vs. daytime events? If she refuses to stay anywhere but home, it seems like an easy counter to say "Larla is just like you! She only sleeps in her own bed!"

For my mom, it turned out to be a grandma competitiveness, one of her friends was doing it so she had to too. That competitiveness continues to ramp up, if anyone she know does anything with their grandkids that my mother sees as upping her, she becomes obsessed with the doing the same thing with my kids regardless of whether or not they are interested.

It's kind of crazy but I think this fuels a lot of grandma demands - it very much does with my MIL.

A friend of mine had this sort of thing with her MIL and the MIL just had to drive around with a carseat base in her car to prove to her friends how close she was with her grandkids.

Anonymous wrote:OP you say, "no" and you live your life willing to endure some expressed disappointment from your parents. Rinse. Repeat.

YASS