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Anonymous wrote:I think so. I'd tell her "Let's plan that you can go. I'm going to drop you off. I'm going to walk into the house with you. If I get an uncomfortable feeling we're going to leave and you can't throw a fit."

Then call to RSVP and tell the mom "I'd really like to say yes. I've never let DD go to a sleepover before and am kind of nervous. Besides you and your husband are there any other adults in the house? Are there any guns in your home?"

But I've met lots of dads and they're all normal. And both my exhusband and current husband have been around for sleepovers. All four daughters have been having sleepovers since 4-6 yrs old (depending on when they asked/were invited) with no problem. Generally the dads get the food. They pick up the sushi or pizza, they cook the pancakes or waffles in the morning, they fix the connection when Netflix won't show up on tv. Other than that, and yelling at the girls to stop shrieking they stay out of the way.

*I just want to add to the above: when one of my daughters got invited to a sleepover birthday party a month after she'd started at a new middle school in 6th grade, I dropped her off and then stood next to the assistant principal, and told him "DD got invited to Arianna's birthday party, but it's a sleepover. Which one is Arianna? Do you know who else is going?" And bless this guy, because he immediately pointed out Arianna to me, and then saw a girl walking past him and said, "Hey Faith, what are you doing next weekend?" And Faith said she was going to the sleepover. So I got to look at both the birthday girl and another guest. The AP then told me Arianna's living situation (in terms of parents) and which other girls were in her and Faith's friend circle.

This is strange.

It wasn't strange. DD had been at the same school prior to that for six years. We knew everyone. Now she was at a new school where I knew like, two boys (that DD was not friends with). All the kids looked wild to me in the courtyard. I knew DD had made "friends" with the AP. So I asked him. She is now in 9th grade and is still friends with him.

Anonymous wrote:DD is devastated because I told her she could not go to her friends sleepover bday party. I know the child's mom (she works with me) but I don't know her dad. Honestly, It makes me uncomfortable to just allow her to go. I don't know if there will be other adults in the house nor have I even been to their house! DD has never been to a sleepover and I explained to her my reasons for this, mostly being that of a safety concern. She is extremely upset and crying and saying that it's not fair! I suggested to meet her halfway and told her she could stay till about 10 or 11 and I could pick her up then. But she said that stupid and no one will be doing that. I know at some point these things will happen but I feel it should be someone I know better and know both the mom and the dad. Am I being unreasonable? Would you let her go?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think so. I'd tell her "Let's plan that you can go. I'm going to drop you off. I'm going to walk into the house with you. If I get an uncomfortable feeling we're going to leave and you can't throw a fit."

Then call to RSVP and tell the mom "I'd really like to say yes. I've never let DD go to a sleepover before and am kind of nervous. Besides you and your husband are there any other adults in the house? Are there any guns in your home?"

But I've met lots of dads and they're all normal. And both my exhusband and current husband have been around for sleepovers. All four daughters have been having sleepovers since 4-6 yrs old (depending on when they asked/were invited) with no problem. Generally the dads get the food. They pick up the sushi or pizza, they cook the pancakes or waffles in the morning, they fix the connection when Netflix won't show up on tv. Other than that, and yelling at the girls to stop shrieking they stay out of the way.

*I just want to add to the above: when one of my daughters got invited to a sleepover birthday party a month after she'd started at a new middle school in 6th grade, I dropped her off and then stood next to the assistant principal, and told him "DD got invited to Arianna's birthday party, but it's a sleepover. Which one is Arianna? Do you know who else is going?" And bless this guy, because he immediately pointed out Arianna to me, and then saw a girl walking past him and said, "Hey Faith, what are you doing next weekend?" And Faith said she was going to the sleepover. So I got to look at both the birthday girl and another guest. The AP then told me Arianna's living situation (in terms of parents) and which other girls were in her and Faith's friend circle.

This is strange.

Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe you aren’t getting mote responses telling you that it is very reasonable to not want your daughter to spend the night at the house of a stranger. I would never let my child spend the night at a house if I didn’t know both parents very well, as in friends that we hang out with all the time and have gotten to know really well. With the statistics out there about child abuse it seems that more people would want to protect their children. Once someone is abused/molested you can’t take your decision back. Take her to the party and meet the Dad, and then pick her up at 10:00.

Anonymous wrote:I hate sleepovers.

But if you plan on doing them, I would rather you talk to your daughter about YELLING if someone inappropriately touches her. Most assaults in that context happen when the child is too scared or embarrassed to make a scene.

Anonymous wrote:I hate sleepovers.

But if you plan on doing them, I would rather you talk to your daughter about YELLING if someone inappropriately touches her. Most assaults in that context happen when the child is too scared or embarrassed to make a scene.