Anonymous wrote:I will be the lone female dissenter here and say she should clean up after you cook. My DH does this, even when I was a sahm. Do you have a dishwasher? Why can't she just load everything in there and turn it on? If you don't have one, get a small portable one and just dump everything in there.

Anonymous wrote:OP HEre;

This took some type of turn.
I actually also work a high pressure job, she's just in a more lucrative field.
I am also not expecting her to do half the work. I recognize she works more than me and brings in more cash. That isn't lost on me.
I cook, and not just crap meals, but decent stuff that takes preparation in the morning as well.
I am simply expecting her to do some things around the house. Like doing the dishes after I am done (yes, i do leave dishes overnight like an asshole, i do rinse most of them though)
I expect her to clean up from time to time.
The reason we don't have cleaners come on the weekends is because both of us don't want to stay home.

IT's also not as if she works 9-8 daily, lately its been 9-7, while i've been at work about the same time. It's also not as if i make no cash. She is just an attorney at a big firm and i work as an attorney at a smaller place.

We got into a fight this morning about this, which is why i called her a bum. I do regret that, but I still think she is taking advantage of me. She isn't a mean spirited and is grateful for the food i make. But instead of thanks, and delicious, i would like more help from time to time.

And we're likely not having kids. 1st world problems here.
People here are always quick to attack.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP HEre;

This took some type of turn.
I actually also work a high pressure job, she's just in a more lucrative field.
I am also not expecting her to do half the work. I recognize she works more than me and brings in more cash. That isn't lost on me.
I cook, and not just crap meals, but decent stuff that takes preparation in the morning as well.
I am simply expecting her to do some things around the house. Like doing the dishes after I am done (yes, i do leave dishes overnight like an asshole, i do rinse most of them though)
I expect her to clean up from time to time.
The reason we don't have cleaners come on the weekends is because both of us don't want to stay home.

IT's also not as if she works 9-8 daily, lately its been 9-7, while i've been at work about the same time. It's also not as if i make no cash. She is just an attorney at a big firm and i work as an attorney at a smaller place.

We got into a fight this morning about this, which is why i called her a bum. I do regret that, but I still think she is taking advantage of me. She isn't a mean spirited and is grateful for the food i make. But instead of thanks, and delicious, i would like more help from time to time.

And we're likely not having kids. 1st world problems here.
People here are always quick to attack.

You sound lazy. Get a better job. If you cook, you clean up the mess. I wouldn't want you to cook and leave me a huge pile of dishes. Clean as you go. I'd rather get carryout on the way home. She works hard, you don't. You need to be more grateful.

Anonymous wrote:OP HEre;

This took some type of turn.
I actually also work a high pressure job, she's just in a more lucrative field.
I am also not expecting her to do half the work. I recognize she works more than me and brings in more cash. That isn't lost on me.
I cook, and not just crap meals, but decent stuff that takes preparation in the morning as well.
I am simply expecting her to do some things around the house. Like doing the dishes after I am done (yes, i do leave dishes overnight like an asshole, i do rinse most of them though)
I expect her to clean up from time to time.
The reason we don't have cleaners come on the weekends is because both of us don't want to stay home.

IT's also not as if she works 9-8 daily, lately its been 9-7, while i've been at work about the same time. It's also not as if i make no cash. She is just an attorney at a big firm and i work as an attorney at a smaller place.

We got into a fight this morning about this, which is why i called her a bum. I do regret that, but I still think she is taking advantage of me. She isn't a mean spirited and is grateful for the food i make. But instead of thanks, and delicious, i would like more help from time to time.

And we're likely not having kids. 1st world problems here.
People here are always quick to attack.

Anonymous wrote:I don't think your wife is an entitled bum. I think you're an asshole, for multiple reasons. Who the hell leaves dirty dishes overnight! Why don't you clean as you go when you're cooking dinner? Once I put things in the oven or it's simmering on the stove, I'm cleaning up all the prep dishes.

She has a high pressure job if it's DOUBLE your salary. Has it occurred to you she needs decompression time?

Why do you need someone to pack your lunch for you? Are you a kindergartner?

Anonymous wrote:OP HEre;

This took some type of turn.
I actually also work a high pressure job, she's just in a more lucrative field.
I am also not expecting her to do half the work. I recognize she works more than me and brings in more cash. That isn't lost on me.
I cook, and not just crap meals, but decent stuff that takes preparation in the morning as well.
I am simply expecting her to do some things around the house. Like doing the dishes after I am done (yes, i do leave dishes overnight like an asshole, i do rinse most of them though)
I expect her to clean up from time to time.
The reason we don't have cleaners come on the weekends is because both of us don't want to stay home.

IT's also not as if she works 9-8 daily, lately its been 9-7, while i've been at work about the same time. It's also not as if i make no cash. She is just an attorney at a big firm and i work as an attorney at a smaller place.

We got into a fight this morning about this, which is why i called her a bum. I do regret that, but I still think she is taking advantage of me. She isn't a mean spirited and is grateful for the food i make. But instead of thanks, and delicious, i would like more help from time to time.

And we're likely not having kids. 1st world problems here.
People here are always quick to attack.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Troll or not, OP has shown that the hypocrisy of some women knows no bounds.

How? Women who don't want to do housework are advised to outsource all the time (every time), and their husbands usually aren't packing their lunches. OP has 10 extra hours of free time in his week, so he should be doing more of the housework. He shouldn't be doing all of it, which is why everyone agrees his wife is being unreasonable by vetoing a cleaning service.

I'm one who thought OP was a troll trying to prove ~reverse sexism~ but the thread didn't even work out that way. Everyone's saying the same thing they always say; the genders are just reversed.

Women are calling him names for expecting her to do some housework, telling him to deal with it, telling him he is an asshole for not "cleaning as he goes" and leaving dishes after he cooked and cleaned, Etc etc. Please. By all means, pretend you don't get it.

He even said she refuses to hire someone. Doesn't matter, he's still an asshole.

Some of you bring up the fact that she makes a lot more money and works 2 hrs longer. Try flipping that around. Exhausted woman who works 2 hrs less and makes 50% of her lazy bum DH who does no work at home. You women would be tearing his butt apart.

Who knows whether he's a troll but many posters are reacting exactly as expected.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Troll or not, OP has shown that the hypocrisy of some women knows no bounds.

How? Women who don't want to do housework are advised to outsource all the time (every time), and their husbands usually aren't packing their lunches. OP has 10 extra hours of free time in his week, so he should be doing more of the housework. He shouldn't be doing all of it, which is why everyone agrees his wife is being unreasonable by vetoing a cleaning service.

I'm one who thought OP was a troll trying to prove ~reverse sexism~ but the thread didn't even work out that way. Everyone's saying the same thing they always say; the genders are just reversed.