Anonymous
Post 03/19/2018 06:36     Subject: Husband is not my soulmate
Anonymous wrote:I guess I'd need to know more about why OP is feeling this way. I sometimes feel that way because DH really doesn't listen to or care about much of what I say - and I WOH the home full time plus volunteer as an assistant coach for DD's sports team, so I'm not begging him to spend tons of time listening to me - I'm pretty busy. I'm not demanding some magical level of connection, but I'd like something other that silence or a shrug when I mention something significant that happened in my day.


Are you me? Lately I feel like I’m on an island in my marriage. My husband is a nice guy but is concerned constantly stressed and distracted with work. He reads the paper at the dinner table and I think a week will go by before he actually even looks at me.
Anonymous
Post 03/18/2018 21:32     Subject: Re:Husband is not my soulmate
Anonymous
Post 03/18/2018 20:02     Subject: Husband is not my soulmate
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Marriage is work

Soulmates don't exist

Put down your copy of eat pray love and try to put some effort into your marriage


Marriage is definitely work, soulmate or no soulmate, that is for sure. But soulmates do exist, to the extent we're talking about someone who fits so perfectly with you that you can't imagine being without them, and a person can have more than one over the course of his or her life. I suspect those denying they exist are hung up on the corniness of the term itself, or haven't found someone who fits this definition.


Meh. If you can't imagine being without them then you have limited imagination and it probably gets in the way of planning for your future when one of you dies. I hope you don't have kids.

I've posted before, been happily married for 23 years. There has never been anyone I'd rather be with than my DH even when we've had rough patches. But, I believe that if I had never met him, there is 'someone' out there that I could have been just as happy with. Love is a wonderful thing.
Anonymous
Post 03/18/2018 18:23     Subject: Husband is not my soulmate
No such thing OP. It's very rare that you marry your soulmate in life. Usually you meet them after death and they may be female or male, any age, race, etc. In life you usually just settle.
Anonymous
Post 03/18/2018 18:21     Subject: Husband is not my soulmate
Anonymous wrote:Marriage is work

Soulmates don't exist

Put down your copy of eat pray love and try to put some effort into your marriage


Marriage is definitely work, soulmate or no soulmate, that is for sure. But soulmates do exist, to the extent we're talking about someone who fits so perfectly with you that you can't imagine being without them, and a person can have more than one over the course of his or her life. I suspect those denying they exist are hung up on the corniness of the term itself, or haven't found someone who fits this definition.
Anonymous
Post 03/18/2018 18:07     Subject: Husband is not my soulmate
Marriage is work

Soulmates don't exist

Put down your copy of eat pray love and try to put some effort into your marriage
Anonymous
Post 03/18/2018 18:04     Subject: Husband is not my soulmate
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:That is too bad, because there is only one person for each of us to be our soulmate. It’s sad you may never actually find yours.



Are you twelve? Such astonishing immaturity. Put down the romance novels and grow up.


There’s a lid for every pot. She hasn’t found her one, true love and soulmate. Maybe she will in the future and he’s waiting but doesn’t know it. But there is one for each of us.


Do you truly believe this??

What if your soulmate died? Or, more realistically, you never meet them? The world is huge...


I am not the PP but I agree with him/her. I didn’t find mine til age 34. He makes me so happy and I seriously look forward to coming home to him every day. I can’t imagine being with anyone else.
Anonymous
Post 03/18/2018 16:23     Subject: Husband is not my soulmate
I guess I'd need to know more about why OP is feeling this way. I sometimes feel that way because DH really doesn't listen to or care about much of what I say - and I WOH the home full time plus volunteer as an assistant coach for DD's sports team, so I'm not begging him to spend tons of time listening to me - I'm pretty busy. I'm not demanding some magical level of connection, but I'd like something other that silence or a shrug when I mention something significant that happened in my day.
Anonymous
Post 03/18/2018 16:17     Subject: Husband is not my soulmate
Maybe he isn't head over heels with you either. Hallmark really did a number on women with this soulmate business. There no such thing as a one true soulmate, just levels of compatibility. There are billions of people on this earth. The idea that there is only one single person with whom you could share your life is ludicrous. More than likely there is probably something lacking in both of you that you see or think you see in other couples.
Anonymous
Post 03/18/2018 16:06     Subject: Husband is not my soulmate
That's OK, op. He might be my soul mate.
Anonymous
Post 03/18/2018 15:08     Subject: Husband is not my soulmate
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:That is too bad, because there is only one person for each of us to be our soulmate. It’s sad you may never actually find yours.



Are you twelve? Such astonishing immaturity. Put down the romance novels and grow up.


There’s a lid for every pot. She hasn’t found her one, true love and soulmate. Maybe she will in the future and he’s waiting but doesn’t know it. But there is one for each of us.


Do you truly believe this??

What if your soulmate died? Or, more realistically, you never meet them? The world is huge...
Anonymous
Post 03/18/2018 15:02     Subject: Husband is not my soulmate
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:That is too bad, because there is only one person for each of us to be our soulmate. It’s sad you may never actually find yours.



Are you twelve? Such astonishing immaturity. Put down the romance novels and grow up.


There’s a lid for every pot. She hasn’t found her one, true love and soulmate. Maybe she will in the future and he’s waiting but doesn’t know it. But there is one for each of us.
Anonymous
Post 03/18/2018 13:52     Subject: Re:Husband is not my soulmate
Anonymous wrote:I can't breathe, laugh, live without my husband. I am dead serious. He is my whole being. He tells me he feels the same. 40 years together. What a ride.


Yikes. That sounds super unhealthy. Not being able to laugh (...or BREATHE? Guess your soulmate is cool with hyperbole, eh?) without your spouse is a serious red flag
Anonymous
Post 03/18/2018 13:50     Subject: Husband is not my soulmate
Anonymous wrote:OP, i was in a 7.5 year relationship and finally broke up because I knew all along he wasn't my "soul mate." Why did you get married?


Are you with anyone now?
Anonymous
Post 03/18/2018 13:39     Subject: Husband is not my soulmate
Anonymous wrote:That is too bad, because there is only one person for each of us to be our soulmate. It’s sad you may never actually find yours.



Are you twelve? Such astonishing immaturity. Put down the romance novels and grow up.