my DH and I don't fight. We have some disagreements but we realized after we were married that we don't get mad at the same things so its hard for us to fight. We have some disagreements but we have never had a fight or disagreement about money, child rearing or sex--the big three. ANythign else is small stuff.

Anonymous wrote:My DH and I don't fight. We've been married since 1998. We definitely disagree, but whomever is most passionate about a subject wins and the other caves. It helps that we are lock step in finances and are on the same page with our kids. We also met in college so we really grew up together and have spent more of our lives together as a couple than single. We truly grew together rather than apart.

We are very much like this and have been married much longer. Over time we've grown to know what each other likes and dislikes so we do our best to consider that when we are making solo decisions. We recently did a big home redo and except for the basic layout my DH stayed out of it because he trusted that I would think about what he likes as I made decisions. Over 30 years I don't recall us ever yelling at each other though we have certainly had disagreements. We've always been on the same wave length about money, kids, and sex which has helped.

We discuss conflict areas. Sometimes it gets resolved, sometimes not. But we do talk it out, and discuss fairly ... there isn't a going back to old offenses (and there are some pretty bad old offences on both sides) or name calling. So, I'd say for the most part we don't fight.

We both tend to avoid anger, but we are definitely getting better about not ignoring it, bringing it out into the open and discussing it.

My parents bicker. My aunt & uncle bicker. My best friend & spouse bicker. I hate it. They are still married though, all of them for longer than us (50, 35, and 25 years) so they are doing ok. I guess they get their grievances out.

But it makes me very uncomfortable to be around.