Why is it so hard to think people want to get together with their friends and celebrate? Here’s a hint - don’t like it? Don’t go! But stop being so judgey. And no, I didn’t have one, but wouldn’t the world be nicer if we could all just be a little kinder and find joy.

I hate bridal,showers and most parties that are based on gifts, but I love celebrating babies. So I am all for showers and sprinkles, as long as they are done low key. Not a million games or super long.

I think sprinkles are common in the Midwest, but becoming more popular here. In general, I think it is accepted that if you are not into it, you do not attend. They are usually driven by friends who want to do something to celebrate (or at least the ones I have been to).

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Anonymous wrote:I loathe "sprinkles" and "sip n sees" and gender-reveal parties. Just too much. I never attend.

I always bring a gift for a new baby and a gift for the older sibling when I first see the baby. That is enough. Way too much "I am so special" crap from our generation of mothers (and brides, for that matter).

I am 100% with you.

+ 2. This "me, me, me! " generation is tiresome. I never attend this crap and think less of the people who host/allow them.

I doubt you're missed.

But guys, I deserve a trophy for reproducing. Every time!

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Anonymous wrote:I loathe "sprinkles" and "sip n sees" and gender-reveal parties. Just too much. I never attend.

I always bring a gift for a new baby and a gift for the older sibling when I first see the baby. That is enough. Way too much "I am so special" crap from our generation of mothers (and brides, for that matter).

I am 100% with you.

+ 2. This "me, me, me! " generation is tiresome. I never attend this crap and think less of the people who host/allow them.

i actually declined a shower with my first pregnancy from some ladies at my church. i'm not into all that fuss. i'm an introvert so get togethers like that are awkward anyeay. the one my mom planned was enough. i don't plan to have another shower but i know if i have a girl (i have a boy) my mother will really try to get something going if she can. i wouldn't mind children's book geared toward girl empowerment but other than that I'll be buying what we need.

that said i don't view others negatively who have one though. i know a couple, both doctors in very well paying specialties who are having something and even have a registry for #2. the first child isn't even 2 yet. i guess they just let whoever wanted to plan it go ahead with hit but i don't think you need one with 2 under 2, even when one is a boy and the other is a girl.

I just had a sprinkle. I didn't ask for it but it was thrown in my honor. I never had a shower with my first kid because we lived across the country from all of our friends and family. Everyone had a choice as to whether to attend or not and only family and very close friends were invited anyway.

If you don't want to go then don't. If you would never let a sprinkle be thrown for you then make sure it doesn't happen. Not sure why some people get off on complaining about things like this and badmouthing their supposed friends/family.

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Anonymous wrote:In my circle.... we've gotten to the point where friends assume the expectant mom wants it, so they'll offer to throw a sprinkle out of obligation. Expectant mom feels like she can't say no so it gets planned.

I already declined an offer for a sprinkle in my honor, and I'm not even halfway through. Once I find out the gender, I think a few more friends will offer. I will continue to decline graciously.

There's also the surprise sprinkle, lol. Been to a few of those.

Fml. DH's family threw me a surprise bridal shower and a surprise baby shower. I cried and ran out of the room for the baby shower. I didn't feel well and wasn't dressed that great. Just felt pregnant and fat. The bridal shower was the only shower I had and I was disappointed my mom or friends weren't invited.

Are you grateful for anything? Or is everything half-empty?

I'd literally never heard of these until last year.

Are they newer or have they always been around and just now got the "baby sprinkle" term applied?

I'd only been to baby showers until last year. When my best friend was pregnant with her second, I took her out for a spa day when she was 7 or 8 months along. Was that a sprinkle? Was I supposed to sprinkle her and I missed my duty as BFF?

The ones I've attended were all hosted by either a sister/SIL/mother/MIL. I just assumed it was a way for the expectant mother to be celebrated and get some gifts for the gender baby she was having (since all that I attended were women having a different gender as the 2nd baby).