Anonymous
Post 02/22/2018 14:20     Subject: Name pronounciations... do you correct for minor things?
Some people say my name ANN-a, others say Ah-na.

I don't like Ah-na but I don't correct them, I don't care.
Anonymous
Post 02/22/2018 14:05     Subject: Name pronounciations... do you correct for minor things?
Anonymous wrote:I have had people tell me I pronounce my own name incorrectly. It's Kerry. I pronounce it the same as carry, Carrie, Kari and all other spellings. My family is Irish, many generations back, but that is why my parents picked that spelling. Some chick at bar lost it and started screaming at me because I couldn't hear any difference in the way she pronounced Kerry v Carrie.


My name is Kerri and I pronounce it like merry, very, berry. To me, there's a difference in the pronunciation of Carrie vs. Kerri. Marry vs. merry. Barry vs. berry. My own husband tells me I'm nuts
Anonymous
Post 02/22/2018 14:02     Subject: Name pronounciations... do you correct for minor things?
I never correct. It's just not that important to me.
Anonymous
Post 02/22/2018 14:02     Subject: Name pronounciations... do you correct for minor things?
Anonymous wrote:My daughter’s name is Caroline. Pronounced the usual way. You would NOT believe how many people say it wrong, usually Carolyn. REALLY??!? (And I’m not talking about ESL. Our Housecleaner calls her Car-o-lee-nah in a beautiful accent and I love it.)

But yes OP, I correct people who say Carolyn.


There's a technical assistance provider at my job whose name is Caroline. She clearly says Caroline when she introduces herself. But for some reason, everyone at work calls her Carolyn. I make it a point to call her Caroline when referring to her with my co-workers.
Anonymous
Post 02/22/2018 13:49     Subject: Name pronounciations... do you correct for minor things?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My daughter’s name is Caroline. Pronounced the usual way. You would NOT believe how many people say it wrong, usually Carolyn. REALLY??!? (And I’m not talking about ESL. Our Housecleaner calls her Car-o-lee-nah in a beautiful accent and I love it.)

But yes OP, I correct people who say Carolyn.


So her name has a long "i" sound at the end? Huh. I would've pronounced it like Carolyn, similar to Katherine. We don't say Kath-er-rhine.


Pp, then how would you spell the name?

Her spelling and pronunciation are fine, just don't act like people saying Carolyn are wrong and stupid.
Anonymous
Post 02/22/2018 13:45     Subject: Name pronounciations... do you correct for minor things?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I never correct. If I do it’s as gently as possible, usually not directly.

“I love Quin-no-uh”


“Oh yes, this Quinoa is so good!”

Direct corrections always come off poorly. I’m ESL and mispronounce/misspell constantly and direct correlations have made me pretty humiliated and less likely to speak or engage.


+1, even for names. Nobody likes to be embarrassed, and that's more important than my being right.


No offense, but I hate when people do that. It’s passive-aggressive.
Anonymous
Post 02/22/2018 13:30     Subject: Name pronounciations... do you correct for minor things?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My daughter’s name is Caroline. Pronounced the usual way. You would NOT believe how many people say it wrong, usually Carolyn. REALLY??!? (And I’m not talking about ESL. Our Housecleaner calls her Car-o-lee-nah in a beautiful accent and I love it.)

But yes OP, I correct people who say Carolyn.


So her name has a long "i" sound at the end? Huh. I would've pronounced it like Carolyn, similar to Katherine. We don't say Kath-er-rhine.


Pp, then how would you spell the name?
Anonymous
Post 02/22/2018 13:28     Subject: Name pronounciations... do you correct for minor things?
Anonymous wrote:My son has a simple name that is both mispronounced frequently and mistaken for another, similar sounding name. I don’t correct unless necessary, and neither does he- even when he was little it didn’t bother him when people got his name wrong. When I convey his name in an official capacity- school, medical setting, pharmacy, etc., I say his name and immediately spell it for them.[/quote

My son knew how to spell MY name at a very young age because I always spell it right after I say it.
Anonymous
Post 02/22/2018 13:24     Subject: Name pronounciations... do you correct for minor things?
I have had people tell me I pronounce my own name incorrectly. It's Kerry. I pronounce it the same as carry, Carrie, Kari and all other spellings. My family is Irish, many generations back, but that is why my parents picked that spelling. Some chick at bar lost it and started screaming at me because I couldn't hear any difference in the way she pronounced Kerry v Carrie.
Anonymous
Post 02/22/2018 13:16     Subject: Name pronounciations... do you correct for minor things?
Anonymous wrote:A lot of people pronounce their own names wrong too- like my married last name. A true Russian would be aghast.
Dubois pronounced Du-boys
Gauthier pronounced Goth-i-er


Also, Benoit pronounced Beh noyt.

And lots of Italian last names pronounced very differently than they would be in Italy.
Anonymous
Post 02/22/2018 13:13     Subject: Re:Name pronounciations... do you correct for minor things?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote: Years ago, I had a friend named Laura. She pronounced it Lara.When people would call her Laura she would always correct them. And she said it annoyed her that most people mispronounced her name. Her name was spelled LAURA


So, Lara like Tara the way Tara Lipinsky says it or Tara like the home of the kings of Ireland?

The first one is very different from the Laura spelling, but the second seems the same to me.

Yes. Like Tara


Which pronunciation of Tara- the first or the second? They're very different.
Anonymous
Post 02/22/2018 13:13     Subject: Name pronounciations... do you correct for minor things?
A lot of people pronounce their own names wrong too- like my married last name. A true Russian would be aghast.
Dubois pronounced Du-boys
Gauthier pronounced Goth-i-er
Anonymous
Post 02/22/2018 13:07     Subject: Name pronounciations... do you correct for minor things?
I have this exact issue and I don't even hear the person saying it "wrong" anymore. Weirdly my husband once revealed that his family consistently pronouncing it wrong bugged him on my behalf and I never clocked it. Part of the problem is my parents chose to pronounce it a way in total cross purposes with the accent I grew up with/around, so what did they expect?
Anonymous
Post 02/22/2018 13:04     Subject: Re:Name pronounciations... do you correct for minor things?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote: Years ago, I had a friend named Laura. She pronounced it Lara.When people would call her Laura she would always correct them. And she said it annoyed her that most people mispronounced her name. Her name was spelled LAURA


So, Lara like Tara the way Tara Lipinsky says it or Tara like the home of the kings of Ireland?

The first one is very different from the Laura spelling, but the second seems the same to me.

Yes. Like Tara
Anonymous
Post 02/22/2018 13:01     Subject: Name pronounciations... do you correct for minor things?
Jackie Kennedy pronounced her daughter's name Carolyn.