TwistdMike wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Do you speak Spanish? Does she speak English? And I don’t mean basic skills but full fluency. I’ve spent significant time living in Argentina and have visited every country in Latin America through a combination of tourism and business travel. In no country did I get more male attention than Argentina. I also regularly had people ask me to write visa sponsorship letters for my country which is not the US.

OP Here -- Yes she speaks English very well. I'm very well traveled and have met lots of nice foreigners, but this is the first one that has made me consider anything more than a fling. We've been texting since I've been back and sharing pictures from the trip. Mostly small talk with some talk about possibly meeting up again. The consensus here seems to be that I'm about to get scammed and lose a kidney.

If you were going to lose a kidney, it would have already happened while you were there.

I’ve had relationships abroad, ended up marrying one of them, going on double digits in happy years. Not everyone is out to get you or use you for your nationality. My wife has said many times, the land of the free is not free at all. Meaning the taxes, laws, conservative views are much more restrictive than her native country.

Just go into the relationship with a little caution, not giving more than you’re willing to lose, until you get to know her, her family, culture, and what will be expected of you.

Learning a new culture, experiences, foods, etc. can be a great and happy journey.

Go for it and enjoy!

OP Here - Thanks -- how did you build the relationship over long distance? Honestly, I want to move out of the US if the circumstances were right. A lot of other countries are awesome.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you speak Spanish? Does she speak English? And I don’t mean basic skills but full fluency. I’ve spent significant time living in Argentina and have visited every country in Latin America through a combination of tourism and business travel. In no country did I get more male attention than Argentina. I also regularly had people ask me to write visa sponsorship letters for my country which is not the US.

OP Here -- Yes she speaks English very well. I'm very well traveled and have met lots of nice foreigners, but this is the first one that has made me consider anything more than a fling. We've been texting since I've been back and sharing pictures from the trip. Mostly small talk with some talk about possibly meeting up again. The consensus here seems to be that I'm about to get scammed and lose a kidney.

If you were going to lose a kidney, it would have already happened while you were there.

I’ve had relationships abroad, ended up marrying one of them, going on double digits in happy years. Not everyone is out to get you or use you for your nationality. My wife has said many times, the land of the free is not free at all. Meaning the taxes, laws, conservative views are much more restrictive than her native country.

Just go into the relationship with a little caution, not giving more than you’re willing to lose, until you get to know her, her family, culture, and what will be expected of you.

Learning a new culture, experiences, foods, etc. can be a great and happy journey.

Go for it and enjoy!

Love happens without rational thought. If you are so head over heels right now, have her come here for a couple of weeks if she is she is willing to do that. Many women from other countries are pretty smart and not nuts about non issues, like he told me he loves me, but is not in love with me right now. (see another thread today about that).They have more realistic vision of marriage, kids, home life. More like it is about all of us, not all about me. I am an immigrant and DH is white bread US. In many years, I have to say, we have the best marriage of all the family and friends I have here and back home. We are not perfect, but sometimes it happens that you run into that perfect match, and you take it. To me the alternative is pretty depressing. You don't act on it, and you never know, was she/he the right one? I always tell my kids about applying to school, playing a sport...if you don't try it you will never get in a school you want, or see if you are good at a sport or not. I have the similar few about relationships, in the same country, different countries, whatever the scenario, if you don't take the chance you will never have anything good(or bad happen,) that is a pretty sad way to live.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you speak Spanish? Does she speak English? And I don’t mean basic skills but full fluency. I’ve spent significant time living in Argentina and have visited every country in Latin America through a combination of tourism and business travel. In no country did I get more male attention than Argentina. I also regularly had people ask me to write visa sponsorship letters for my country which is not the US.

OP Here -- Yes she speaks English very well. I'm very well traveled and have met lots of nice foreigners, but this is the first one that has made me consider anything more than a fling. We've been texting since I've been back and sharing pictures from the trip. Mostly small talk with some talk about possibly meeting up again. The consensus here seems to be that I'm about to get scammed and lose a kidney.

If she speaks very good English I bet she is educated and well off. If you are so well traveled you should know better than to listen to these bitter and ignorant people

Anonymous wrote:Do you speak Spanish? Does she speak English? And I don’t mean basic skills but full fluency. I’ve spent significant time living in Argentina and have visited every country in Latin America through a combination of tourism and business travel. In no country did I get more male attention than Argentina. I also regularly had people ask me to write visa sponsorship letters for my country which is not the US.

OP Here -- Yes she speaks English very well. I'm very well traveled and have met lots of nice foreigners, but this is the first one that has made me consider anything more than a fling. We've been texting since I've been back and sharing pictures from the trip. Mostly small talk with some talk about possibly meeting up again. The consensus here seems to be that I'm about to get scammed and lose a kidney.

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Why is it that people always knee-jerk into visa plots?

As a foreigner on a non-immigrant visa, I take exception to that reaction. The world is not all hankering to live permanently in the USA, for goodness' sakes.

Millions risk their lives crossing the desert or in little boats to get here, so yes, many do have a hankering to live in the USA.

I have a good friend who is Chinese and here on a non-immigrant visa. She has warned me several times about the bad intentions of foreign women. I figure she should know.

You're an idiot. One single "Chinese" friend of yours does NOT represent the >1 billions chinese people.

I am a US citizen and I met my wife in china during a company trip there. My salary at the time was 150k/year. Her family networth is about 200M, totally dwarfed mine. I married her a year later and she came to the US with me and we're happily married for the past ten years. Btw, her parents bought us a 4M homes in Mclean with a couple of Benz as a wedding gift. The world is not all hankering to live permanently in the USA, for goodness' sakes

But I trust the words of a friend who I have known for a dozen years a lot more than you, or a billion Chinese strangers.

The lines around US embassies around the world every morning as people queue up to apply for visas would seem to disprove your last sentence.

How exactly do people become worth $200 million in a communist dictatorship like China?

Did you just emerge from a 20-year coma?

Most Americans have been in a coma for the last decade or two....

Perhaps Trump will wake them up

Do you watch the show 90 day fiancé?

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t listen to all the bitter ignorant people on this chat. We can all be taken advantage of in the US and abroad,m; it’s part of being vulnerable and falling in love.
As a foreigner, I am offended by all these comments.

I moved to the US after meeting an American guys when we were both very young. It didn’t work out, but never did I consider marrying him for a visa. I am wealthier and much better educated than all the American man I have dated (I did date an uber wealthy Colombian back in the day). I ended up marrying a non-American in the US... if I wanted I would have had my pick of American man.

If you really like her, try it out and see where it goes. Argentina is a beautiful country and you may prefer to live there in the future

Curious, are you still living here in the US or did you move back to your country?

Still here on a diplomatic visa. Will never be a US citizen

Life is fine in Argentina. They're happy there.

There are problems, but it's a beautiful country.

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Anonymous wrote:Not everyone wants to live in the US. Why does everyone assume this?

This. Life is fine in Argentina. They're happy there. The OP never said the fling was a woman, btw.

I'd be hitting up the Argentine for HIS visa...

What relationship?

Anonymous wrote:Don’t listen to all the bitter ignorant people on this chat. We can all be taken advantage of in the US and abroad,m; it’s part of being vulnerable and falling in love.
As a foreigner, I am offended by all these comments.

I moved to the US after meeting an American guys when we were both very young. It didn’t work out, but never did I consider marrying him for a visa. I am wealthier and much better educated than all the American man I have dated (I did date an uber wealthy Colombian back in the day). I ended up marrying a non-American in the US... if I wanted I would have had my pick of American man.

If you really like her, try it out and see where it goes. Argentina is a beautiful country and you may prefer to live there in the future

Curious, are you still living here in the US or did you move back to your country?

Sorry for the typos I am on my phone

Don’t listen to all the bitter ignorant people on this chat. We can all be taken advantage of in the US and abroad,m; it’s part of being vulnerable and falling in love.
As a foreigner, I am offended by all these comments.

I moved to the US after meeting an American guys when we were both very young. It didn’t work out, but never did I consider marrying him for a visa. I am wealthier and much better educated than all the American man I have dated (I did date an uber wealthy Colombian back in the day). I ended up marrying a non-American in the US... if I wanted I would have had my pick of American man.

If you really like her, try it out and see where it goes. Argentina is a beautiful country and you may prefer to live there in the future

Anonymous wrote:I thought OP was out hiking the Appalachian trail.