Anonymous
02/21/2018 22:27
Subject: Re:Would you let your public school kid wear a very expensive item of clothing to school?
Just to be very clear, rich kids in the elite private schools like STA, Sidwell and Potomac wouldn't be caught dead in a sweater like this. Tacky and clearly intended for the new-money no-taste rap folks. omg.
Anonymous
02/20/2018 17:48
Subject: Would you let your public school kid wear a very expensive item of clothing to school?
Eh, let him wear it, who cares. It’s hideous and he’ll probably wear it only a few times. Maybe he’ll learn a lesson for it.
When I was fresh out of school and got my first job, I got myself a Dior bag (it was from an outlet, but Dior nonetheless). I felt like such a poser, I didn’t even enjoy the bag much and ended up selling it on eBay.
Maybe he’ll learn that a $1300 ugly sweater just isn’t worth it—it’ll be out of style, or he’ll rip it or stain it, or it’ll get stolen. Who knows. I do think he should learn the value of things but you can’t learn without something happening to teach you.
When I was fresh out of school and got my first job, I got myself a Dior bag (it was from an outlet, but Dior nonetheless). I felt like such a poser, I didn’t even enjoy the bag much and ended up selling it on eBay.
Maybe he’ll learn that a $1300 ugly sweater just isn’t worth it—it’ll be out of style, or he’ll rip it or stain it, or it’ll get stolen. Who knows. I do think he should learn the value of things but you can’t learn without something happening to teach you.
Anonymous
02/20/2018 17:29
Subject: Would you let your public school kid wear a very expensive item of clothing to school?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Ds is spending the weekend with grandparents who apparently bought him an expensive piece of clothing he’s been covering. He sent me a pic of him wearing the item last night and said he can’t wait to wear it Tuesday. I told him it looked nice on him but we’d have to discuss wearing it Tuesday when he got home.
Ds is a sneaker head, as are most of his friends, but this item is more expensive than some $300 shoes. Dh (whose parents bought it and who grew up rich) doesn’t see the problem. We live in Loudoun Co and 80% of the student cars at his school are brand new or BMWs and Mercedes is basically Dh’s argument. Besides, he says most kids won’t even know the item Ds is wearing is $$$ unless Ds tells them.
I feel like ds could get away with wearing it at a private school easier than public. I sent the pic to my friend whose boys go to a private and she said several boys there have this item that they wear with their uniforms. I guess I basically don’t want him to go to school looking like a rich douche is what it boils down to.
Ugh. I like it when the kids spend time with my poor (compared to Dh’s parents) better. They never come home with outrageous gifts like this.
That's his decision. You can say, "Kid, if you go to school wearing this, you will look like a rich douche." And then Kid makes Kid's decision.
He's not a rich douche in less he has a job and is making a huge amount of money. You are the rich douche and one whose buying all the crap.
I didn’t buy it. His grandparents did. He’s been asking for this for months now and I told him that was something he’d have to buy on his own through saving up. I knew he’d never do that and thought I was in the clear. He apparently wants it because one of those Lil rappers has it and he thinks it looks “fresh af.”
And now we're at the real issue .
Your kid went behind your back to get him something you essentially told him no on.
You likely have issues with you in laws so you're blaming this on them.
Sweatshirt or not your kid sounds like a douche with his Lil rppers and fresh af.
Yeah, sorry, OP, it's already too late.
NP. I had to look up pictures of the sweater and my first thought was "who the f would seriously what to wear that hideous creation that looks like someone's half blind great-grandmother knitted it" and then I saw the price tag...
OP, if your kid has seriously asked for this, he's for sure already a douche. I agree with the PPs that it's unfortunately too late.
My kids wouldn't laugh, because they're nicer than that, but they'd think your kid is pathetic. He's obviously trying to make up for something. My kids are smart and good at sports and interesting and all round nice kids and they just wouldn't be interested in wearing something like that, let alone coveting it.
However, at least you have a good excuse to take it away. He knew you didn't allow him to have it until he'd met certain conditions. He didn't meet those conditions. He should have declined the gift from grandparents, and asked them to hold onto it until he'd discussed it with you and made an agreement (e.g. to save up to pay for half of it, or whatever you decided was reasonable given the new circumstances). If you're interested in trying to right this ship and raise your kid right, then that's what you would still do. If you choose to not do anything then don't come back complaining to us when he just gets worse and worse.
DP, you clearly are a douche to make so many assumptions about OP's child based on this one thing. OP, don't take the sweater away from your child. My child would love an IPhone X and I told him no unless he contributes significantly toward it. Mostly because I think it's a waste of money. If one of my family members gave it to him without any contribution from him, I would not be upset if he said yes. I know DC to be a nice, responsible kid, and I have confidence that having an expensive phone isn't going to change that. If you know your child is not a "rich douche" and is just being a teenager who wants something he thinks is cool, let him wear it. Ignore all the judgmental people, especially this PP whose kids are perfect.
Anonymous
02/20/2018 16:39
Subject: Re:Would you let your public school kid wear a very expensive item of clothing to school?
If Mr. Rogers had liked bats on his sweaters...nailed it!
Anonymous
02/20/2018 16:37
Subject: Re:Would you let your public school kid wear a very expensive item of clothing to school?
Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't let my kid wear that just in the house. $1,300 for a hideous piece of clothing. I guess money doesn't buy taste.
Oh my. Wow.
If I saw that on (sans the purse in the advertisement) I would think it was just the "zoo" version of the Ugly Christmas Sweater at around $39.99 (the cost of DS's one we got for this holiday season -- and I thought THAT was too expensive!)
Anonymous
02/20/2018 15:14
Subject: Would you let your public school kid wear a very expensive item of clothing to school?
In this thread: lots of parents who don’t realize how much time teens spend scouring Taobao for that 1:1 flex....
Anonymous
02/20/2018 15:10
Subject: Would you let your public school kid wear a very expensive item of clothing to school?
Boy howdy, that sure is ugly. I'd tell him it was up to him if he wanted to risk wearing it to school, and remind him that if something happens to it he's just SOL.
Anonymous
02/20/2018 15:06
Subject: Would you let your public school kid wear a very expensive item of clothing to school?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It isn’t this ugly pos is it?! https://www.bergdorfgoodman.com/Gucci-Wool-Blend-Metallic-Tiger-Sweater/prod132790249/p.prod?ecid=BGCS__GooglePLA&utm_medium=CSE&utm_source=BGCS__GooglePLA&utm_campaign=Gucci
Money can’t buy taste.
No it’s the button up cardigan one.
This one:
https://www.gucci.com/us/en/pr/men/mens-ready-to-wear/mens-sweaters-cardigans/tiger-jacquard-wool-cardigan-p-474601X14684471?position=1&listName=SearchResultGridComponent
PLEASE tell me he got the stained jeans and man tote to go with it. Hilarious outfit.
Anyway, how'd it go today? I'm hot in a long sleeve t-shirt. He must have been sweating like a pig (tiger?) in that sweater. Maybe if you are lucky he took it off and left it somewhere and it's already up for sale on ebay.
Anonymous
02/20/2018 15:01
Subject: Re:Would you let your public school kid wear a very expensive item of clothing to school?
To all the people who are ripping on this teenage kid for wanting this (admittedly, ugly and ridiculously overpriced) sweater -- did you never as a teen want to wear the "in" thing? When I was in junior high it was Guess jeans and those hideous polo shirts with "BENETTON" slapped on the front (yes, I am dating myself here). I so desperately wanted them that I would totally have let my grandparents buy them for me if I had had wealthy grandparents, which I didn't. I saved my money and did finally get both of those things on sale -- and I felt so good about what I perceived as "fitting in," which as a young teen feels so important.
I'm not saying that a $1000 sweater is okay -- but I am saying that it's normal for kids to want to feel cool, so I am not gonna slam this boy for that.
That said -- OP, in this situation I might be thinking about having a conversation with my kid about privilege.
I'm not saying that a $1000 sweater is okay -- but I am saying that it's normal for kids to want to feel cool, so I am not gonna slam this boy for that.
That said -- OP, in this situation I might be thinking about having a conversation with my kid about privilege.
Anonymous
02/20/2018 14:56
Subject: Re:Would you let your public school kid wear a very expensive item of clothing to school?
Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't let my kid wear that just in the house. $1,300 for a hideous piece of clothing. I guess money doesn't buy taste.
"Taste" is subjective. At least it's better than the sweater
Anonymous
02/20/2018 14:54
Subject: Re:Would you let your public school kid wear a very expensive item of clothing to school?
Anonymous
02/20/2018 14:54
Subject: Re:Would you let your public school kid wear a very expensive item of clothing to school?
I wouldn't let my kid wear that just in the house. $1,300 for a hideous piece of clothing. I guess money doesn't buy taste.
Anonymous
02/20/2018 14:46
Subject: Would you let your public school kid wear a very expensive item of clothing to school?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It isn’t this ugly pos is it?! https://www.bergdorfgoodman.com/Gucci-Wool-Blend-Metallic-Tiger-Sweater/prod132790249/p.prod?ecid=BGCS__GooglePLA&utm_medium=CSE&utm_source=BGCS__GooglePLA&utm_campaign=Gucci
Money can’t buy taste.
No it’s the button up cardigan one.
This one:
https://www.gucci.com/us/en/pr/men/mens-ready-to-wear/mens-sweaters-cardigans/tiger-jacquard-wool-cardigan-p-474601X14684471?position=1&listName=SearchResultGridComponent
Anonymous
02/20/2018 14:23
Subject: Would you let your public school kid wear a very expensive item of clothing to school?
When I was in 7th grade, I wanted the specific Adidas puffer coat that was "in" at the time. It wasn't $1000 but it was more than my parents were used to spending on my clothes at that time, as I was still in kids' sizes for the most part. But they got it for me for Christmas and I am so grateful to this day, because it let me blend in - which, for a young teen, is such a blessing sometimes. That said - your kid isn't asking for something that will let him blend in, that 'everyone' has. He wants something ostentatious that he can rub people's faces in. That desire on his part probably warrants quite a bit of discussion before you decide whether or not he should wear the sweater to school. Also, if your ILs bought it without batting an eye, that's likely a major issue, too.
Anonymous
02/20/2018 13:50
Subject: Would you let your public school kid wear a very expensive item of clothing to school?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Ds is spending the weekend with grandparents who apparently bought him an expensive piece of clothing he’s been covering. He sent me a pic of him wearing the item last night and said he can’t wait to wear it Tuesday. I told him it looked nice on him but we’d have to discuss wearing it Tuesday when he got home.
Ds is a sneaker head, as are most of his friends, but this item is more expensive than some $300 shoes. Dh (whose parents bought it and who grew up rich) doesn’t see the problem. We live in Loudoun Co and 80% of the student cars at his school are brand new or BMWs and Mercedes is basically Dh’s argument. Besides, he says most kids won’t even know the item Ds is wearing is $$$ unless Ds tells them.
I feel like ds could get away with wearing it at a private school easier than public. I sent the pic to my friend whose boys go to a private and she said several boys there have this item that they wear with their uniforms. I guess I basically don’t want him to go to school looking like a rich douche is what it boils down to.
Ugh. I like it when the kids spend time with my poor (compared to Dh’s parents) better. They never come home with outrageous gifts like this.
That's his decision. You can say, "Kid, if you go to school wearing this, you will look like a rich douche." And then Kid makes Kid's decision.
He's not a rich douche in less he has a job and is making a huge amount of money. You are the rich douche and one whose buying all the crap.
I didn’t buy it. His grandparents did. He’s been asking for this for months now and I told him that was something he’d have to buy on his own through saving up. I knew he’d never do that and thought I was in the clear. He apparently wants it because one of those Lil rappers has it and he thinks it looks “fresh af.”
And now we're at the real issue .
Your kid went behind your back to get him something you essentially told him no on.
You likely have issues with you in laws so you're blaming this on them.
Sweatshirt or not your kid sounds like a douche with his Lil rppers and fresh af.
Yeah, sorry, OP, it's already too late.
NP. I had to look up pictures of the sweater and my first thought was "who the f would seriously what to wear that hideous creation that looks like someone's half blind great-grandmother knitted it" and then I saw the price tag...
OP, if your kid has seriously asked for this, he's for sure already a douche. I agree with the PPs that it's unfortunately too late.
My kids wouldn't laugh, because they're nicer than that, but they'd think your kid is pathetic. He's obviously trying to make up for something. My kids are smart and good at sports and interesting and all round nice kids and they just wouldn't be interested in wearing something like that, let alone coveting it.
However, at least you have a good excuse to take it away. He knew you didn't allow him to have it until he'd met certain conditions. He didn't meet those conditions. He should have declined the gift from grandparents, and asked them to hold onto it until he'd discussed it with you and made an agreement (e.g. to save up to pay for half of it, or whatever you decided was reasonable given the new circumstances). If you're interested in trying to right this ship and raise your kid right, then that's what you would still do. If you choose to not do anything then don't come back complaining to us when he just gets worse and worse.