Anonymous
02/19/2018 09:15
Subject: Family of 8 in 2 bedroom, 1 bathroom apartment
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I believe this living arrangement is illegal
Yes. Everyone in america must live in a 1500 sq ft per person arrangement with 1.5 bath + 1 suv per individual of driving age. We all must drive 10 miles over 60 minutes to work and spend our weekends in target and starbucks. We also must aspire to own canada goose jackets and take resort vacations to places like mexico or the dr and never leave the resort or speak to a local.
Kill me now.
Fairfax City has an occupancy standard of three people per room, while Fairfax County code follows the standard, two-people-per-bedroom guideline
Anonymous
02/19/2018 08:48
Subject: Family of 8 in 2 bedroom, 1 bathroom apartment
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:DD has a friend with 5 other siblings. They’re very close and the friend is incredibly sweet and mature. We do play dates mostly at our house because the friend mentioned her apartment was small and that she shared a room with her siblings. I assumed she shared a room with a few of the other girls. Turns out it’s a 900 square foot apartment. The 5 oldest (4 girls aged 11-5 and one boy 3) share a bedroom while the parents and infant share another. I do not know how this works. I’ve always felt guilty for making my girls share a room, can’t kmafine 5 kids of mixed genders in a room. Also, ONE bathroom for EIGHT people. What happens when a stomach bug hits the house!
The oddest part is I don’t think it’s a financial thing. They live in a luxary apartment that’s easily twice our mortgage. I know both parents work in downtown and have high paying jobs. Why would they do this? The 4 school aged children all attend private school with DD. I can’t imagine doing this unless forced.
If their luxury apartment is 900 sqft and twitch your mortgage you probably live as far out as Chantilly or Rockville and that's your answer. Some people can't stand a commute or the inconvenience of the burbs.
If they go to a same school and do playdates, they can't live very far from each other.
Anonymous
02/19/2018 08:46
Subject: Re:Family of 8 in 2 bedroom, 1 bathroom apartment
Anonymous wrote:My 85 year old father was raised in Boston with 5 siblings and one bathroom. There wasn't even heat in the whole house, there was ice in the bathroom sink in the morning. He and all his siblings went on to become successful professionals. My husband's grandmother was the daughter of a slave and raise with 7 siblings in a one room house. She was a business owner, healthy and live into her nineties by herself.
So many Americans believe in distance and separation from the time their babies are born. You have your own bedroom as a baby, move to college when you are 18, move across the country when you are 21. Most people in the world do not try to create space between their family members.
Everyone I know who grew up sharing rooms on that order can't freaking wait to get out and get some space of their own.
Anonymous
02/19/2018 08:43
Subject: Family of 8 in 2 bedroom, 1 bathroom apartment
Anonymous wrote:
It's so sad how you're passing judgement on this family. If they're kind and well-educated, what's the problem? There are plenty of entitled boors living in large houses...
And please remember that many people in WEALTHY nations share rooms in small apartments, be it in Europe or Japan or Korea.
8 in a 1 bedroom is not un-common in other RICH countries. It's at one extreme of the norm, certainly, but not eyebrow-raising like here. My friend lived like this as a child, with her 6 brothers and sisters. She is a well-adjusted adult working at the World Bank. My SIL put her 4 kids two to a room when her house had several guest bedrooms, because many people believe there are benefits to having kids share. We lived for years all 4 of us in a ONE bedroom apartment in the US.
A little tolerance on a Sunday morning would be nice.
I grew up in the USSR and even in the time of shortage of everything, no one lived THAT many to a bedroom. So no, 8 people in one bedroom is NOT common in RICH countries.
Anonymous
02/18/2018 22:56
Subject: Family of 8 in 2 bedroom, 1 bathroom apartment
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I believe this living arrangement is illegal
Yes. Everyone in america must live in a 1500 sq ft per person arrangement with 1.5 bath + 1 suv per individual of driving age. We all must drive 10 miles over 60 minutes to work and spend our weekends in target and starbucks. We also must aspire to own canada goose jackets and take resort vacations to places like mexico or the dr and never leave the resort or speak to a local.
Kill me now.
Haha! you funny!
Jokes aside, DH and I used to rent an apartment in - horrors! - Rockville, and I remember being told by a leasing manager that, according to the city ordinance, they only rent 1BR, 1 Bath to two individuals, maximum. A family of three would require 2 bedrooms (I don't think the number of bathrooms was regulated). Now, if you rent a 1BR first and then have a child or two, there's nothing your landlord can do, as long as you renew your lease. Not sure how that would play out with the number of kids going all the way up to 6, though. That seems to be pushing it, legalese-wise.
Anonymous
02/18/2018 22:16
Subject: Re:Family of 8 in 2 bedroom, 1 bathroom apartment
Anonymous wrote:I call troll...
6 kids and the Mom still works?!?
That doesn't sound fundamentalist to me.
Oh Lord!... What a sexist comment. Puff. How tiresome.
Anonymous
02/18/2018 22:09
Subject: Family of 8 in 2 bedroom, 1 bathroom apartment
Anonymous wrote:I believe this living arrangement is illegal
Yes. Everyone in america must live in a 1500 sq ft per person arrangement with 1.5 bath + 1 suv per individual of driving age. We all must drive 10 miles over 60 minutes to work and spend our weekends in target and starbucks. We also must aspire to own canada goose jackets and take resort vacations to places like mexico or the dr and never leave the resort or speak to a local.
Kill me now.
Anonymous
02/18/2018 22:02
Subject: Re:Family of 8 in 2 bedroom, 1 bathroom apartment
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:They’re living like animals. No rationale person would pump out a litter of six like some mindless beast knowing they couldn’t properly provide a suitable living environment.
Did you miss the part about how all of these kids are in private school?
I bet this family is wealthier than yours. They probably look down on you for spending your life in a car commuting to your house and never seeing your kids.
Anonymous
02/18/2018 21:28
Subject: Family of 8 in 2 bedroom, 1 bathroom apartment
I believe this living arrangement is illegal
Anonymous
02/18/2018 21:26
Subject: Family of 8 in 2 bedroom, 1 bathroom apartment
Maybe you know less than you think you know about them? Like, how would you know how their mortgage compares to your own? It's hard to imagine a 900sq/ft apt. being double a SFH.
Anonymous
02/18/2018 19:56
Subject: Family of 8 in 2 bedroom, 1 bathroom apartment
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It is totally normal for kids to share rooms. The only situation where it is not allowed is foster kids and adoption.
Do you know why?
Sexual abuse concerns. Horny teens now having kids they aren’t related to sharing a room. Or a father.
Adopted children can share rooms. They are your children the same as biological children. Our adopted children shared rooms with our biological children when they were younger and it was always clear from our home studies onward that that was the plan.
Anonymous
02/18/2018 19:42
Subject: Family of 8 in 2 bedroom, 1 bathroom apartment
Anonymous wrote:There are also low income housing units in each apartment building typically. The developer is required to have these units.
That’s what I figured. They may have good jobs but will a family that big they would qualify for financial aid, affordable units at apartments etc.