Anonymous
02/13/2018 21:15
Subject: what would you do if a nurse patted your child on the butt
Anonymous wrote:Was your kid fussing or scared? Sounds like a diversionary tactic to calm a kid down. Presuming the kid was clothed, you were right there and he involved you.
+ 1.
If the kid was not clothed, the mom was not there, or he did not involve the mom, I would be concerned. However, I am the sort of person who would have called the person on it right there and then. something like - 'You are a friendly guy, but because you are a guy and because people can misconstrue your motives, I will advice that you never clown around with your patients like this. It is a sad state of affairs that people are so suspicious but you need to protect yourself.'
I certainly would not have come back to DCUM to wonder if this was ok or not.
Anonymous
02/13/2018 21:15
Subject: what would you do if a nurse patted your child on the butt
Nurse here. Report it. what he did was completely inappropriate. hen you work in peds it's okay to be playful and joke at times, but what he did was not playful or a joke.
Anonymous
02/13/2018 21:09
Subject: what would you do if a nurse patted your child on the butt
Hopefully by now OP has made the call. But the problem this presents – hopefully it’s just one odd guy who will be sufficiently reprimanded and maybe removed later if it happens again. But keep your eyes open to how the office operates generally. I wouldn’t want to leave DS alone with any MD or nurse there until you see over a long period of time that it was an isolated incident rather than an office with an overly “friendly” vibe. Granted he’s 7 so there’s really no being alone in a ped’s office yet – but you need to be comfortable enough so that when he’s 14 and they ask you to leave to do the turn your head/cough, you feel that it’ll be 100% fine.
Anonymous
02/13/2018 21:06
Subject: Re:what would you do if a nurse patted your child on the butt
Male nurse who works in pediatrics: report it. It might be playing around or it could be something else, but appropriate it wasn’t. When I’m with a patient I’m usually talking a lot both small talk & explaining what I’m doing, so when there is physical contact the child (and the parent) knows what’s happening & why. Sorry, that type of surprises aren’t part of the way I work (or most other nurses.)
Anonymous
02/13/2018 20:51
Subject: what would you do if a nurse patted your child on the butt
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Wow, do you guys over react to everything?
+1
+2. Calm down. It was meant as a joke and it was a male nurse and male kid. Does everyone have to sexualize everything? It’s a butt cheek for Christ sake. If you think it was inappropriate then tell the nurse, but totally no need to start raising high waters.
+3.
Anonymous
02/13/2018 20:49
Subject: what would you do if a nurse patted your child on the butt
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OMG- have we learned NOTHING from the Larry Nassar case?
Exactly! You report this, OP.
It's called grooming.
Anonymous
02/13/2018 20:48
Subject: what would you do if a nurse patted your child on the butt
Anonymous wrote:I agree - this is weird. I also wish (not criticizing, as I know in the moment the shock or weirdness makes you clam up a bit) that in the moment you had said something like "Oh, I'm sorry, we don't touch other people's bottoms without permission.. right?"
Two reasons: 1. you are putting him on notice that you saw and it's not ok (also, frees your conscience a bit to report it guilt free..you notified them that is not ok). 2. You are showing your son that it is totally ok to tell someone to back off if he doesn't like how they touch him. I can only imagine if some of those poor gymnasts were aggressive and encouraged to tell Nassar to remove his hand form their vaginas.
This is good advice.
Anonymous
02/13/2018 20:47
Subject: what would you do if a nurse patted your child on the butt
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Wow, do you guys over react to everything?
+1
+2. Calm down. It was meant as a joke and it was a male nurse and male kid. Does everyone have to sexualize everything? It’s a butt cheek for Christ sake. If you think it was inappropriate then tell the nurse, but totally no need to start raising high waters.
GTFO. You don't think there is male on male abuse/grooming? Sandusky anyone -- that was a male football coach with male kids ages 5-15.
Exactly.
Anonymous
02/13/2018 20:44
Subject: what would you do if a nurse patted your child on the butt
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Wow, do you guys over react to everything?
+1
+2. Calm down. It was meant as a joke and it was a male nurse and male kid. Does everyone have to sexualize everything? It’s a butt cheek for Christ sake. If you think it was inappropriate then tell the nurse, but totally no need to start raising high waters.
GTFO. You don't think there is male on male abuse/grooming? Sandusky anyone -- that was a male football coach with male kids ages 5-15.
Anonymous
02/13/2018 19:48
Subject: what would you do if a nurse patted your child on the butt
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Wow, do you guys over react to everything?
+1
+2. Calm down. It was meant as a joke and it was a male nurse and male kid. Does everyone have to sexualize everything? It’s a butt cheek for Christ sake. If you think it was inappropriate then tell the nurse, but totally no need to start raising high waters.
Anonymous
02/13/2018 19:24
Subject: what would you do if a nurse patted your child on the butt
I agree - this is weird. I also wish (not criticizing, as I know in the moment the shock or weirdness makes you clam up a bit) that in the moment you had said something like "Oh, I'm sorry, we don't touch other people's bottoms without permission.. right?"
Two reasons: 1. you are putting him on notice that you saw and it's not ok (also, frees your conscience a bit to report it guilt free..you notified them that is not ok). 2. You are showing your son that it is totally ok to tell someone to back off if he doesn't like how they touch him. I can only imagine if some of those poor gymnasts were aggressive and encouraged to tell Nassar to remove his hand form their vaginas.
Two reasons: 1. you are putting him on notice that you saw and it's not ok (also, frees your conscience a bit to report it guilt free..you notified them that is not ok). 2. You are showing your son that it is totally ok to tell someone to back off if he doesn't like how they touch him. I can only imagine if some of those poor gymnasts were aggressive and encouraged to tell Nassar to remove his hand form their vaginas.
Anonymous
02/13/2018 19:10
Subject: what would you do if a nurse patted your child on the butt
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Wow, do you guys over react to everything?
+1
I imagine this is what all of the parents of gymnasts said about Larry Nassar.
Anonymous
02/13/2018 14:12
Subject: what would you do if a nurse patted your child on the butt
Report it. That is weird behavior and if the nurse doesn't lose his job, the office should watch him...
Anonymous
02/13/2018 10:22
Subject: what would you do if a nurse patted your child on the butt
Anonymous wrote:OP here. Fully clothed. My kid went for an EAr nose and throat problem. The appointment was over. My
Child had not fussed. How does touching someone on the butt calm them down? Strange line of thinking there.
I wasn't one of those posters but obviously they meant the joking around part of it, not the actual touching of your kid's butt. You are clearly bothered by the interaction, so you should report it.
Anonymous
02/13/2018 09:38
Subject: what would you do if a nurse patted your child on the butt
Agree that you should report this today. Out of the bounds of reasonable behavior. That area of the body is off limits.
Tell us what happens.
Tell us what happens.