Sad for my kids, sad he turned out to be such a loser, not sad to get the life insurance!

Yes, DD is only 2 and he's a good dad. Plus I rely on him because our custody schedule gives me a few nights off a week to R and R.

My ex died. Didn't affect me much because I saw it coming. My kids didn't even attend the funeral. Some people are just that horrible.

I would be sad for my kids in the short term, but happy for them in the long term. It would mean he could no longer verbally and emotionally abuse and manipulate them.

Anonymous wrote:I would cry. To throw them off my trail.

LOL

I knew a lady whose husband died in his 40's. She was planning to divorce him, in fact I was helping her with finding a lawyer.

I remember telling her to use lemons if she had to especially for the in-laws and kids.

Anonymous wrote:OP! I am a pp on this thread and after accidentally finding the original thread you s/o'd this off, I am offended. That woman's 4 children lost their father and the 15 year old found his dead body.

I guess you'll have to be offended. This is a new thread nothing to do with that situation.

I'm not OP fyi

OP! I am a pp on this thread and after accidentally finding the original thread you s/o'd this off, I am offended. That woman's 4 children lost their father and the 15 year old found his dead body.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be sad if my ex-husband died and the dry cleaner lost my favorite red dress so I wouldn't be able to wear it to his funeral.

LOL!

That's a good one!

Anonymous wrote:Would you cry? Attend his funeral? Be sad? What are one's moral obligations under such circumstances? (And I understand circumstaces have a lot to do with it, but I'm curious to know).

No. If we had kids the kids would have to attend with other family members as it's not appropriate for exes to show up at those events. Unless the new spouse invites them. Or he was single and the family lets the spouse know they are welcome. Otherwise, that's about it.

I'd be sad for our kid and for his family. I'd miss him -we are in pretty regular communication about our young child and it's nice to have that other adult insight into parenting decisions.

And I would go to the funeral (in all honesty, I'd probably end up having to plan it if it was a sudden death because his family is all far away and aren't good at crisis stuff).

I’ve already mourned the loss of the person I thought I married, and his transformation into an unfaithful, selfish a$$hat. I’d be sorry for his parents, who are very decent people, and for our kids although one of them has basically disowned him.

I wouldn’t attend the funeral because we ended on very bad terms and I wouldn’t want to create drama related to my presence. I’d want to let the people who actually cared for him mourn without distractions.

I'd be sad for my daughter and for his family. And because he's a decent father, I'd be sad for me, because the years until my daughter reached adulthood would be a lot harder without him in the picture. I'd also miss his friendship at times; we do have a bond because of our shared history and our child.

I'd be sad because it's generally sad when someone dies, but sad as in, oh, that's too bad, not sad as in I'd cry. I'd feel bad for his current wife and child (children? I don't know, we don't keep in touch so I only know he had one a few years ago). I wouldn't feel bad for his mom although I should but she was such a raging bitch to me it's hard for me to care about her. We never had kids together, so I think that informs my feelings A LOT. If he were the father of my children, I'd be incredibly sad for them. I actually thought about this the other day as his dad died about the age he is now from something he also deals with.

Anonymous wrote:I would be sad if my ex-husband died and the dry cleaner lost my favorite red dress so I wouldn't be able to wear it to his funeral.

LOL!

Anonymous wrote:Not at all. I think of it often.

+1000. I see why the tv show Snapped is so popular.