Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who cares when other people wake up? This is about your husband not respecting you.

+one million. I'd get a job and then a divorce.

We don't know the full story. Maybe her husband is exhausted from getting up at 5 am everyday and really resents the extra sleep she gets. I'm not saying he's right, just that grounds for a divorce seems a bit dramatic.

True, divorce is probably pretty extreme (I'm the pp who wrote that).

But I think the underlying issue here is HUGE. This isn't about wake up time. Her DH does not respect her and is making that perfectly clear. He does trust her to be making the right choices for how her day is run. I could not, and would not, tolerate that kind of nanny-ing from my husband. Is her 7am wakeup causing problems in their life or with their child? What is his issue? If his only issue is that he THINKS she should be up early, for no other reason than that's what he thinks, that's a HUGE RED FLAG on controlling behavior.

So are there other issue connected to her wake up time? Sure lets discuss those. But the way it's presented he seems to just think she's lazy. I would not tolerate that from my spouse, who should be your biggest supporter.

Anonymous wrote:And thanks for the unsolicited advice, pps. You are right, I should explode my marriage vows over a disagreement about sleep schedules.

Only one person said divorce. That wasn't me, but your DH does sound very controlling and a bit of an ass and not even correct about people's habits, to boot.

I WAH so I don't have to get ready per se, shower the night before, so I get up at 7 am. I can't imagine why this is an issue. My DH is an early riser. I sleep in until 8 or 9 on weekends.

Anonymous wrote:And thanks for the unsolicited advice, pps. You are right, I should explode my marriage vows over a disagreement about sleep schedules.

This forum is strange like that. Ex-Military says it all- early to rise for the bugle call.

I wake up at 0500, but I live in Eastern LoCo, commuting in to DC. DW is SAHM, she wakes up at 0650, ten minutes prior to when the 3 kiddos have to get up for school.

Your husband is a jerk OP

Not a SAHM.

I get up at 5:45 to hit the gym 4 days per week.

My rest day and on the weekend I get up at 7.

I don't technically have to be in the office or signed online working until 10 (we have core hours, 10-2).

I did a 3 year period where I was a SAHM when the kids were younger and I didn't get up until the first kid woke. Why would I? I was usually the one during the night if a kid woke so my husband could sleep since he worked out of the house.

And thanks for the unsolicited advice, pps. You are right, I should explode my marriage vows over a disagreement about sleep schedules.

OP here, I agree that he is being an ass, haha. He is ex-military and seems to value getting up early for the sake of getting up early. We've had this disagreement since college, honestly. Even when I lived in shared housing with three other people, and I was the first person up and out the door, he insisted that the rest of the world wakes up before 7am.

FWIW, I worked in college at 7:30am daily, which I think is outside the norm, so I've always rejected the premise that I'm a lazy lay-a-bed unlike my peers. Sometimes DH just drives me nuts with his unprovable stances. He's very much a keeping up the the jones type.

5:30am m-f. 6:30 on weekends.

Anonymous wrote:SAHM here in a disagreement with my husband. I tend to get up at 7am when our toddler gets up. He keep selling me that no adults sleep in that late. Everyone, in his mind, is up getting started before their kids. What time do you get up? Week days different from weekends? He holds to this for every day of the week - I should never sleep in until 7am or I'm lazy. The end.

You should wake up at a time which works best for you.

8 am on most days. Then I have a cup of coffee in bed. WAH and kids are older. When I drove my kids to school and then office I got up at 6:45-7. My natural cycle is definitely later-7:30-8 am.

Anonymous wrote:SAHM here in a disagreement with my husband. I tend to get up at 7am when our toddler gets up. He keep selling me that no adults sleep in that late. Everyone, in his mind, is up getting started before their kids. What time do you get up? Week days different from weekends? He holds to this for every day of the week - I should never sleep in until 7am or I'm lazy. The end.

He sounds like he's channeling his parents from when he was a kid/teenager. Tell him to grow the hell up.

A lot depends on whether or not you're a morning person, or night person. I am a morning person making it difficult for me to ever sleep in past 7 including on the weekends, and on most days I am out of bed by 5:30-6am and feel energized. DH is a night person, and stays up till midnight. He usually wakes up around 7:30 and looks like he was hit by a mack truck!

I get up at 4:45. That gives me the time to do what I want before I have to focus on getting the kids ready for school.

If you can get up at 7 and get the kids breakfast and dressed for school without running around, then it's fine. If you're kids have to be out the door at 7:30 and you get up at 7 to start the process, then it's a probably a bit hectic.

2 kids - a K and 2nd grader. Alarms set at 7 for DH and me. Because I tend to work from home more than DH who WOH - he’s up by 715 while I’m up by 730. It’s a nightmare getting K up so I literally dress her in bed and she has a snack bar or piece of cake (no frosting) for breakfast. Everyone out of house by 750 for a 5 min car ride to school before they close doors at 8. My older kid is usually up by 7 or 715 and DH does breakfast for him - he’s the only morning person out of all of us! Weekends, sometimes we are up really late like 830-9 - kids are on their own - we leave breakfast out they can help themselves. Other times it’s isually me who is up to take them out to breakfast while DH sleeps.