Good pictures: Full face, body and clothed. Action shots half dressed doing something athletic is fine. Basically, I want to see how you look like, whether you are in shape but shirtless bathroom shots are a big fail.

I don't care whether you write anything. Your pics are what makes me decide whether I want to talk to you.

Things like education level, profession, kids, etc. are helpful too but not mandatory. I can find that out once we message each other.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you taller than me
Do you date women with children
What your photos say ( i hate the bathroom selfies; the pics with other women; the pics of your foreign travel and your professional mug shot)

Uh, what do you have against foreign travel?

It is cliche. I don’t care that you’ve been to machu pichu. It your minds can’t travel outside the box, then your travels are pointless. (I’m not a us citizen-by the way)

Guys, she's bloody bored! No pointless travels. And no capes!

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Anonymous wrote:When I was online dating (met my husband online) I had a few do’s and don’ts

Do say what you do for a living. No need to say how much you make but if I am going to be honest, I am not dating a pop eyes deep fryer.

Do say what you do for fun. Great way to connect with the person if you share common interest.

Do state what you seek. Just a good time? Something serious?

Do not post pictures of your children or friends. They did not ask to be on an online dating profile.

Do not state that you aren’t interested in women of color or bbw, even if it is true. Just skip their message.

What is bbw?

Overly confident fat chicks

Anonymous wrote:I'm a guy. Tip for men. Write a draft of everything you think you want to say about yourself or might entice a woman to your dating profile. Then have a woman friend edit it for you. Then edit her edits again. It worked for me.

Make it so she wants to know more. Don't try putting it all out there. You need to sound like an interesting, non-threatening guy who isn't just looking to get laid. Especially if that is all you are looking for.

Then you need an equally non-threatening but effective first contact letter that you can send to a woman you are interested in from her profile. That is more important than a profile because, women are lazy on dating sites and most don't bother searching for and reading men's profiles until some guy writes to her. With 100s of messages in her inbox the first week, she can afford to be lazy.

She will see your letter before the profile, but only if the letter doesn't get deleted first. So your opening letter should be mostly asking about her and without a single word of it sexual. Just safe questions and very general. Avoid anything stalkerish like, just where exactly where do you live?

You have to establish that dialogue first with a few back and forth messages and then, if there appears to be mutual interest you can take it offline and ask for a first meeting in a safe place. Just coffee is best. Before then, you can offer to send her a selfie or other photos but don't ask for hers. She will volunteer the same if she wants to but don't ask.

This really isn't that complicated and it's easy to set yourself apart from all the obviously very hungry men with their clumsy attempts who do nothing but scare women away.

You have got to be kidding. Who wastes time talking to someone without knowing how they look like first?

No shirtless photos, or photos with cars, motorcycles. No endless string of photos doing sports or adventurous stuff - one would suffice.

Write something. You would be surprised that 80%+ of profiles are pics only, in this age of swipe left and right - I skip most of those bc the guy didn't even bother.

Be brief, tell something you like, something you are, something you want, and what you can offer (in a fun way). Mention a hobby, be humorous. You will be miles ahead of all the boring profiles out there.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you taller than me
Do you date women with children
What your photos say ( i hate the bathroom selfies; the pics with other women; the pics of your foreign travel and your professional mug shot)

Uh, what do you have against foreign travel?

It is cliche. I don’t care that you’ve been to machu pichu. It your minds can’t travel outside the box, then your travels are pointless. (I’m not a us citizen-by the way)

According to your logic, that means 95% of women's profiles on match, okc, etc. are totally bogus as they are rife with pictures from Machu Picchu, Iceland, Spain, Thailand, London, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you taller than me
Do you date women with children
What your photos say ( i hate the bathroom selfies; the pics with other women; the pics of your foreign travel and your professional mug shot)

Uh, what do you have against foreign travel?

It is cliche. I don’t care that you’ve been to machu pichu. It your minds can’t travel outside the box, then your travels are pointless. (I’m not a us citizen-by the way)

So...international travel is a cliche. What? Why would you assume from a photo that someone's mind can't travel outside the box? Maybe it's just a great photo. I think you are bringing a lot of very strange assumptions to the table.

I'm a guy. Tip for men. Write a draft of everything you think you want to say about yourself or might entice a woman to your dating profile. Then have a woman friend edit it for you. Then edit her edits again. It worked for me.

Make it so she wants to know more. Don't try putting it all out there. You need to sound like an interesting, non-threatening guy who isn't just looking to get laid. Especially if that is all you are looking for.

Then you need an equally non-threatening but effective first contact letter that you can send to a woman you are interested in from her profile. That is more important than a profile because, women are lazy on dating sites and most don't bother searching for and reading men's profiles until some guy writes to her. With 100s of messages in her inbox the first week, she can afford to be lazy.

She will see your letter before the profile, but only if the letter doesn't get deleted first. So your opening letter should be mostly asking about her and without a single word of it sexual. Just safe questions and very general. Avoid anything stalkerish like, just where exactly where do you live?

You have to establish that dialogue first with a few back and forth messages and then, if there appears to be mutual interest you can take it offline and ask for a first meeting in a safe place. Just coffee is best. Before then, you can offer to send her a selfie or other photos but don't ask for hers. She will volunteer the same if she wants to but don't ask.

This really isn't that complicated and it's easy to set yourself apart from all the obviously very hungry men with their clumsy attempts who do nothing but scare women away.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you taller than me
Do you date women with children
What your photos say ( i hate the bathroom selfies; the pics with other women; the pics of your foreign travel and your professional mug shot)

Uh, what do you have against foreign travel?

It is cliche. I don’t care that you’ve been to machu pichu. It your minds can’t travel outside the box, then your travels are pointless. (I’m not a us citizen-by the way)

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What is bbw?

Wow, I thought this was such a commonly known acronym. It's been around for decades. Some of you really have been out of the dating scene that long.

Big Beautiful Woman, is supposed to be the more politically correct term for a fat woman to describe herself without self body shaming.

Anonymous wrote:Avoid shirtless selfies, I would automatically reject any guy who had one in him profile. I looked for a few specific things - willingness or unwillingness to date a woman with a child, their job, and interests section (checked for common books, movies, music interest)

Side note, I always thought bbw was big black woman, I guess I was wrong.

It can be, a big beautiful black woman

Avoid shirtless selfies, I would automatically reject any guy who had one in him profile. I looked for a few specific things - willingness or unwillingness to date a woman with a child, their job, and interests section (checked for common books, movies, music interest)

Side note, I always thought bbw was big black woman, I guess I was wrong.

Anonymous wrote:Men pose with cats? I would do it if I was posing in my volcanic lair and mentioned my salary to the cat: "That's a tidy sum, Mr. Biggesworth." But I think you need a bald head and a funky 60s outfit.

That would work. I find photos with pets endearing, it at least suggests one is capable of caring for someone other than themselves.

Anonymous wrote:Men who specify body type of thin or athletic seem shallow. I can more than meet that criteria, but wouldn't see that in your profile and think " oh, that's me! I'm thin! He would love my bod!" nope, that got an ewwwww. So by stating that, you will actually turn away the (smart) girls with the ideal bod.

Would a women doing the same also be shallow?

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Anonymous wrote:When I was online dating (met my husband online) I had a few do’s and don’ts

Do say what you do for a living. No need to say how much you make but if I am going to be honest, I am not dating a pop eyes deep fryer.

Do say what you do for fun. Great way to connect with the person if you share common interest.

Do state what you seek. Just a good time? Something serious?

Do not post pictures of your children or friends. They did not ask to be on an online dating profile.

Do not state that you aren’t interested in women of color or bbw, even if it is true. Just skip their message.

What is bbw?

Overly confident fat chicks