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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know a lawyer who married the secretary. They ended up getting divorced as they had nothing in common. Secretary had high school, lawyer had law degree.

They have 2 kids together and still talk every day.

Gonna go out on a limb and take a wild guess that you’re a woman — only a self-important woman trying to justify her own worth would say that a lawyer would divorce a secretary because she only had a high school education and therefore nothing to talk about.

My parents have been happily married for over 40 years — my dad has a PhD and my mom has an associate’s degree. Ladies, please, please, please try to understand that men value in their partner the following: 1) looks, 2) kindness, and 3) an enthusiasm for sex. Men don’t care about your degree or your job title, despite how much you base your self-worth on those things.

Your dad sounds like a real winner. Where can I sign up for a dude who’s only with me for my looks, vagina and because I make him dinner, et I mean “am kind”.

Anonymous wrote:I once saw a movie about a lawyer who married his secretary, but first he put her through a series of emotional and physical tests....

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know a lawyer who married the secretary. They ended up getting divorced as they had nothing in common. Secretary had high school, lawyer had law degree.

They have 2 kids together and still talk every day.

Gonna go out on a limb and take a wild guess that you’re a woman — only a self-important woman trying to justify her own worth would say that a lawyer would divorce a secretary because she only had a high school education and therefore nothing to talk about.

My parents have been happily married for over 40 years — my dad has a PhD and my mom has an associate’s degree. Ladies, please, please, please try to understand that men value in their partner the following: 1) looks, 2) kindness, and 3) an enthusiasm for sex. Men don’t care about your degree or your job title, despite how much you base your self-worth on those things.

Your dad sounds like a real winner. Where can I sign up for a dude who’s only with me for my looks, vagina and because I make him dinner, et I mean “am kind”.

Anonymous wrote:Happens just as much as a dentist and dental hygienist

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know a lawyer who married the secretary. They ended up getting divorced as they had nothing in common. Secretary had high school, lawyer had law degree.

They have 2 kids together and still talk every day.

Gonna go out on a limb and take a wild guess that you’re a woman — only a self-important woman trying to justify her own worth would say that a lawyer would divorce a secretary because she only had a high school education and therefore nothing to talk about.

My parents have been happily married for over 40 years — my dad has a PhD and my mom has an associate’s degree. Ladies, please, please, please try to understand that men value in their partner the following: 1) looks, 2) kindness, and 3) an enthusiasm for sex. Men don’t care about your degree or your job title, despite how much you base your self-worth on those things.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Never happened in my 18 years in biglaw..

Maybe thirty years ago? I assume it happened. But not anymore. What’s changed? Paralegals used to be omnipresent in big law. Now you might have a few paralegals assigned to litigation, but all of the other hordes of paralegals have been replaced by associates and computers. I’m a transactional attorney, and we don’t use paralegals anymore. In fact, I needed one a couple years ago, and it was near impossible to find one in my firm - when I did, she was super old and highly incompetent, and screwed something up in a royal way. It’s the only time I have ever been yelled at by a client in my whole career!

Also, like in most professions, the split between the haves and have nots has grown in thirty years. Lawyers reside firmly in the one percent, while paralegals have two year associate degrees. There’s not a whole lot of natural interplay between those two classes anymore. Which is why ppl above re noting that lawyers date lawyers, but not paralegals.

Also, as much as tv likes to suggest otherwise, my experience with biglaw is that most layers are at least aspirationally very into their families and generally being pretty decent people. Sometimes long hours puts pressure on that. And in nyc, I notice a bit more bravado among male lawyers. But most lawyers are just former nerds who are trying to do good work and put in their hours, so they can get home to their spouse and kids. They’re not into sexual power plays in the office or triggering sexual harassment lawsuits. I’m sure examples exist of inappropriate behaviors, but I’m not super aware.

Lol, “lawyers reside firmly in the one percent.” Maybe Big Law partners who represent Exxon do, but the median income for an attorney in the United States is $135,000 per year.

Anonymous wrote:I know a lawyer who married the secretary. They ended up getting divorced as they had nothing in common. Secretary had high school, lawyer had law degree.

They have 2 kids together and still talk every day.

Anonymous wrote:Never happened in my 18 years in biglaw..

Maybe thirty years ago? I assume it happened. But not anymore. What’s changed? Paralegals used to be omnipresent in big law. Now you might have a few paralegals assigned to litigation, but all of the other hordes of paralegals have been replaced by associates and computers. I’m a transactional attorney, and we don’t use paralegals anymore. In fact, I needed one a couple years ago, and it was near impossible to find one in my firm - when I did, she was super old and highly incompetent, and screwed something up in a royal way. It’s the only time I have ever been yelled at by a client in my whole career!

Also, like in most professions, the split between the haves and have nots has grown in thirty years. Lawyers reside firmly in the one percent, while paralegals have two year associate degrees. There’s not a whole lot of natural interplay between those two classes anymore. Which is why ppl above re noting that lawyers date lawyers, but not paralegals.

Also, as much as tv likes to suggest otherwise, my experience with biglaw is that most layers are at least aspirationally very into their families and generally being pretty decent people. Sometimes long hours puts pressure on that. And in nyc, I notice a bit more bravado among male lawyers. But most lawyers are just former nerds who are trying to do good work and put in their hours, so they can get home to their spouse and kids. They’re not into sexual power plays in the office or triggering sexual harassment lawsuits. I’m sure examples exist of inappropriate behaviors, but I’m not super aware.